Pray for my Daughter Stephanie.

[SleepWarz]

Originally Posted by Mr_Draco

Scott, here is what I would do.

First off ground her for 9 weeks, one week for being late, an additional week per hour late, and one month for drinking. During this time no phone, no car, curfew is supper time and must stay home after supper. Any breaking of the rules adds a week.

Find out where her friends live and what they drive. Give this info to your police friends and ask if they will patrol their houses and keep an eye on them when your daughter is with them.

I would also tell her that if she ever gets arrested for drinking or smoking underage, she will be on her own and let her know that even with everything that is going on with Steph, this type of behavior is not acceptable nor will it be tolerated.

If you were my parent I would disown you.

Teach your kid to make intelligent decisions by showing first hand where these paths lead. I was lucky enough to have one alcoholic/mental and one drug/gambling addicted parents. I got introduced to the real world real quick. Remember, alcohol is the gateway drug, and a one way ticket to cocaine, for people my age now its nuts. Cant go to one party without some jackoffs wanting to do rails... Which is why I don't party anymore, not that I really did. Cigarettes are just retarded in the fact of how much they cost, on top of that they just make you more aggravated when you don't have any. However I do love to antagonize nicfitters . Don't hassle her friends really, not a good method, just leads to more conflicts and not moving towards the actual issue.... Just catch her red handed, remember when kids get comfortable and lax they do make stupid mistakes.

[Tactical Z]

[off1c3r]

Get sprint, activate locate on your plan and you can view where she is from the sprint.com site because of her phones gps =)

[PQ]

Originally Posted by Tactical Z

You get that a lot Z?



I'd just shoot all of her freinds.

Like I said on the phone dude, if they think you're crazy it's a good thing.

[TaylorRyanSS]

smoking

drinking... almost every teenager does it and the more you tell them not to the more they will do it. Drinking imo is alright as long as you do not drink and drive or drink to the point of getting alcohol poisoning. My mom let me drink back when I was 17 as long as I did not drive.

[TJTKSDMJ8]

I hated my parents for how strict they were growing up. Everyday was a study in the old battle of kid against the parents. I hated them for it. I wanted to be with my friends so badly...

I thank GOD everyday for that. I would never change a thing. To this day, my "buddies" that were allowed all the freedoms I wanted are either in jail, living with their parents(at 35-40 years old) or trying to stay away from me. (I carry a badge and gun for the Feds)

Be strong man...I love my parents everyday for it..

[PQ]

Originally Posted by CamaroScotty

He just turned 15.....so he can pull the bike over and answer

Originally Posted by Paperer

I grew up scared of my dad and there would be no way I would have ever come home drunk.

Originally Posted by kevin2323

im 21 turning 22 in a week....i wasnt a bad kid...but i did sneak out and drink....but not to the extent that it would put me and others in danger...

i never ever let my friends drive my dads car when he let me borrow it.

that right there shows she doesnt respect u....and thinks that she can just talk her way out of it.

i dunno...i dont like parents beating there children...but my parents smacked me around(in a disciplinary way) when i was little and i turned out ok....

Spare the rod, spoil the child. The trouble I stayed out of growing up wasn't due to a higher moral compas or sense of responsibility but from the fear of consequence.

[cstproductions]

My advice, im 16 going on 17 pretty soon.

1. Take away all forms of social communication besides school. (cellphones, internet, whatever it takes.)

2. I would take away the car as well.

Ive lost alot of friends to drinking, drugs etc. One of my friends was serioulsy injured in a car accident after drinking, some have even tried cocaine at my age, and the other day I was driving my dads friend home in his vette when he was drunk and he threatened to kill me in the car and kept putting the car in park, pushing my leg down on the gas, and grabbing the wheel. We almost had a wreck numerous times. Anyways at i dont think its right for kids around my age to mess with this stuff and ive lost alot of friends to it.

[TJTKSDMJ8]

Originally Posted by irpq11

Spare the rod, spoil the child. The trouble I stayed out of growing up wasn't due to a higher moral compas or sense of responsibility but from the fear of consequence.

We may differ in College football taste, But PQ, I completely agree...

[a6pk2go]

Originally Posted by jschuler

I think that if you've been raising her since she was four then you are her father, regardless of the later marriage and have every right to discipline her without feeling like it's not your place. And I hate to break it to you, but slurring your words and having trouble keeping your balance is not the result of smoking cigarettes. You might want to look or smell for something else.

Oh, and when I was that age my punishment often included disconnecting the battery in my car, forcing me to ride the school bus to school. Not sure if she drives but that was definitely an effective method.

I would agree with this post. I got married to my ex when her boys were 2 and 4 .........they called me Dad and their real dad "daddy Ron". I was the one running them to football or whatever they were doing when they were in school. They never gave me too much trouble but I trained them early and used a dowell rod on them. When the bills start coming in their name they can do what they want to do. All your job is to mode them........she may also be wanting this attention......but I think she will be okay......just SET SOME RULES and be prepared to back them up. Good Luck Scott.

[Scott@Bjorn3D]

Originally Posted by TaylorRyan74

smoking

drinking... almost every teenager does it and the more you tell them not to the more they will do it. Drinking imo is alright as long as you do not drink and drive or drink to the point of getting alcohol poisoning. My mom let me drink back when I was 17 as long as I did not drive.

You but one of the friends she was at this party with was in a wreck that night. He got pulled in for DUI. What if someone died.

[FenwickHockey65]

Originally Posted by Muscle Master

If you want my advice, Beat her ...... and this is coming from a 18 year old

I'd beat the living sh*t out of my kid if she ever pulled something like this.

I know a lot of people say it's wrong, but my mom smacked me around when I was a kid and I turned out fine.

[Xanthos]

Originally Posted by FenwickHockey65

I'd beat the living sh*t out of my kid if she ever pulled something like this.

I know a lot of people say it's wrong, but my mom smacked me around when I was a kid and I turned out fine.

There are a number of people in this world who would say that very statement shows that you didn't "turn out fine."

I'm alright with spanking. Hell, go for the belt if you want to. But hitting, to including punching, slapping, kicking, etc...

Well, everyone will eventually reap the seeds that they sow.
- X

[Zabo]

Originally Posted by FenwickHockey65

I'd beat the living sh*t out of my kid if she ever pulled something like this.

I know a lot of people say it's wrong, but my mom smacked me around when I was a kid and I turned out fine.

Agreed. This whole notion of it being 'bad' to physically discipline a kid over just talking it out like a political debate is just...wrong. Where in the history of the human species has it been proven that 'talking it out' exclusively has resulted with a wholly stronger and more responsible person?