The Ladies Lounge

[BowtieBelle]

but what do you do when you've lost your best friend?

I mean we spent so much time together over the last two years... she was the closest friend I had here

[giorgiok1300r]

In my humble opinion, the most important things in life. family. love. friends.

[BowtieBelle]

I agree. But she unloaded on me, saying I'm selfish and everything else... and I don't get it, I've always tried to be so generous. When she is broke I buy her things, take her out, do things with her... I'm always there for her.... but lately, things have been going really well for me in my life and she has just gotten colder and colder. I really noticed the switch when I joined the Junior League...

A lot of times she'd ask what I am doing then say she needed something from me, or stop talking to me when I tell her "having dinner with Ryan" or "decorating Marble Hall for the Junior League party" or "Decorating for holiday market" or "cooking for ronald mcdonald house"... she would shut up or say something snarky or get bitchy... I don't get it...

[Bonnie]

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

C&P from the lounge, just to get the consensus of you ladies.

It looks like I just found out why my 'best friend' has been alienating me and been so rude and stuff, excluding me from parties, not talking to me after everything I've done for her/with her.

Awesome.

She said she wanted to get together and talk about why she was mad. She was busy last night; I'm busy tonight. I suggested tomorrow before I go play trivia with the University of Arkansas Fort Smith professors (I'm SO EXCITED about that because one is going to write me a recommendation so I can start using my Master's and TEACHING NEXT FALL! )

She said "comments like that have been the problem. Maybe we'll get together when you're not playing trivia with the UAFS professors." She said it in a really snarky way.

OUCH. I thought she'd be happy for me! What is wrong with what I said?! She just added, "It feels like you rub stuff in my face. And for wanting to talk so bad you cancel? It feels like you're trying to get me back for something. I wish you luck in getting the teaching job. It has nothing to do with not wanting you to be happy, I thought you were sticking with your current job, Stories change a lot and I never get the whole story. It's just been a lot of little shit that I have let go and let go cause it wasn't worth a fight with a friend but I feel less and less like a friend every time we have hung out lately. Holiday Market was the topper." (The Junior League private event I took her to where I blew $200 on new clothes for her and paid for her ticket and drinks) She went on to add "I don't know who you are and where you're going anymore."

....this is absolutely crazy, she has been biting my head off for months. Ever since I got this job and got my car and joined the junior league.

I hate to say it because it sounds so narcissistic but... is she like... jealous or something???? It's the ONLY thing that makes sense...! We've been texting and she is unloading on me, saying I'm always trying to one up her, saying every time we talk it's been about the guys I'm dating (.... isn't that what you talk to friends about?) or about my car... she is forgetting all the times she hasn't wanted to talk when I've asked her if she is ok and if things are OK with her boyfriend and her kids. She said "I'm never as good as you" just now. Then starts ranting about my car, my clothes, my other friends.... What. The. F.

IMO, she does sound Jealous, if you know you have always treated her like a freind, I would have a clear conscience, and just don't let her make you feel bad for good things going on in your life, sometimes family and your closest freinds are the ones that bring you down the most, I would say go about your business and refuse to fight with her, Good luck!

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody." - Bill Cosby

[oyealiz]

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

I agree. But she unloaded on me, saying I'm selfish and everything else... and I don't get it, I've always tried to be so generous. When she is broke I buy her things, take her out, do things with her... I'm always there for her.... but lately, things have been going really well for me in my life and she has just gotten colder and colder. I really noticed the switch when I joined the Junior League...

A lot of times she'd ask what I am doing then say she needed something from me, or stop talking to me when I tell her "having dinner with Ryan" or "decorating Marble Hall for the Junior League party" or "Decorating for holiday market" or "cooking for ronald mcdonald house"... she would shut up or say something snarky or get bitchy... I don't get it...

Jealousy is an ugly thing. :(

I agree with Bonnie: don't let her get you down.

[giorgiok1300r]

I agree jealousy and a bad thing. also true that if and jealous' because he loves you. I do not know your story, and do not understand everything you write but if you love will surely find the way forward. you're young and not as a whole life ahead of me as an old man

[CarolinaChick]

Funny the topic of "friends" has came up here in the ladies lounge. I just had a discussion with an "acquaintance" of mine that involved a lady that was supposed to be my friend. However, I didn't side with her over a situation at her store (she works at a CVS/pharmacy like I do) and it made her madder than fire. We haven't spoken in over a month. I guess her ideas of how a friendship should be are totally different than mine. My thought is/was a friendship consists of two people who can disagree and then move on to being friends again with an understanding that opinions are our own. Not with this gal.

Wanna know what made her mad? There's a guy she works with. She absolutely despises him. He doesn't like her, either. He brought her an iced coffee one morning and when she told me about it, I said "How nice of him!" She replied "What? After the way he has treated me? I don't trust him one bit!" I said "Isn't he allowed to do something nice for you? Maybe this is his weird way of trying to meet in the middle since you guys have had some issues." She said "I guess."

The conversation (well, it was texting - not a vocal conversation) was just that. Nothing more. Nothing less and I've not talked to her since. This woman is 48 years old. Grow up already!

Someone stated they have more guy friends than girl friends. I'm the same way. This is why. I cannot stand people who wear their emotions on their sleeves and feel the ENTIRE world is out to get them. People like this are toxic. I don't need 'em.

[Bonnie]

Originally Posted by CarolinaChick

Funny the topic of "friends" has came up here in the ladies lounge. I just had a discussion with an "acquaintance" of mine that involved a lady that was supposed to be my friend. However, I didn't side with her over a situation at her store (she works at a CVS/pharmacy like I do) and it made her madder than fire. We haven't spoken in over a month. I guess her ideas of how a friendship should be are totally different than mine. My thought is/was a friendship consists of two people who can disagree and then move on to being friends again with an understanding that opinions are our own. Not with this gal.

Wanna know what made her mad? There's a guy she works with. She absolutely despises him. He doesn't like her, either. He brought her an iced coffee one morning and when she told me about it, I said "How nice of him!" She replied "What? After the way he has treated me? I don't trust him one bit!" I said "Isn't he allowed to do something nice for you? Maybe this is his weird way of trying to meet in the middle since you guys have had some issues." She said "I guess."

The conversation (well, it was texting - not a vocal conversation) was just that. Nothing more. Nothing less and I've not talked to her since. This woman is 48 years old. Grow up already!

Someone stated they have more guy friends than girl friends. I'm the same way. This is why. I cannot stand people who wear their emotions on their sleeves and feel the ENTIRE world is out to get them. People like this are toxic. I don't need 'em.

I stay a way from people like that, and its not just ladies either, But the majority rules, and yes most are female!

[Darth_Emma]

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

I agree. But she unloaded on me, saying I'm selfish and everything else... and I don't get it, I've always tried to be so generous. When she is broke I buy her things, take her out, do things with her... I'm always there for her.... but lately, things have been going really well for me in my life and she has just gotten colder and colder. I really noticed the switch when I joined the Junior League...

A lot of times she'd ask what I am doing then say she needed something from me, or stop talking to me when I tell her "having dinner with Ryan" or "decorating Marble Hall for the Junior League party" or "Decorating for holiday market" or "cooking for ronald mcdonald house"... she would shut up or say something snarky or get bitchy... I don't get it...

If she's that shallow, she wasn't a true friend. She should be happy for you.

[Ladybugsmom]

Originally Posted by Darth_Emma

If she's that shallow, she wasn't a true friend. She should be happy for you.

I have a lot of female friends, but they all are a lot like me - strong and independent - so we tend to think alike...
My BFF and I have been friends since I was 17 and she was 15 (we're both in our 40's now), and in ALL THAT TIME, I've only been angry at her once. Even then, it only took me a few days before I said to myself "Friends like this come along once in a lifetime, and I have to let this go, it's not worth losing her over" We have vastly different lives and lifestyles, but I love her with all my heart - she's honestly the ONLY person I would literally DIE for.
Sarah, this woman was never truly a friend if she feels that there is some sort of competition between you (that's really what jealousy is). I hope that, with your professional growth and new activities that are going along with it, you will be able to meet some real friends. And, you should know this ----- you have real friends here.

[SSGirl]

Originally Posted by SSMOKINHOT

Missed you too Lori!!! Bon Bon and I are probably gonna get together in Lake Charles which is about half way between our homes.

That being said....ladies weekend is NOT off the table! We just gotta figure out whats gonna work for everyone!

Just let me know!!!!

Originally Posted by BeckyD@RodgersChevrolet

Good morning ladies!! Just today and 1/2 day tomorrow and off
on Friday Can't wait I'm going to do
my Christmas decorations - just love it with the Christmas music
playing throughout the house........ we'll have to post pics!!

Everyone have a perfect day because you are all perfect!!

Originally Posted by dianeokie

Morning ladies.............let's plan a ladies get together at CamaroFestIII for sure.........even if we do something else............enough of us have our own cars that we don't have to depend on the guys

I think its a great idea. Lets make sure we do something as a group while were at C5Fest III!!!!

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

I broke my tradition and decorated my tree early last night.

I bought it and the ribbons, burgundy and gold balls, bows and tinsel for less than $40 when I was in college-- I call it my Martha Stewart tree. I get one ornament a year (minus the crystal icicles I bought for it in Frankenmuth, MI at the world's largest Christmas store). What do y'all think?

It looks beautiful, Sarah!

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

C&P from the lounge, just to get the consensus of you ladies.

It looks like I just found out why my 'best friend' has been alienating me and been so rude and stuff, excluding me from parties, not talking to me after everything I've done for her/with her.

Awesome.

She said she wanted to get together and talk about why she was mad. She was busy last night; I'm busy tonight. I suggested tomorrow before I go play trivia with the University of Arkansas Fort Smith professors (I'm SO EXCITED about that because one is going to write me a recommendation so I can start using my Master's and TEACHING NEXT FALL! )

She said "comments like that have been the problem. Maybe we'll get together when you're not playing trivia with the UAFS professors." She said it in a really snarky way.

OUCH. I thought she'd be happy for me! What is wrong with what I said?! She just added, "It feels like you rub stuff in my face. And for wanting to talk so bad you cancel? It feels like you're trying to get me back for something. I wish you luck in getting the teaching job. It has nothing to do with not wanting you to be happy, I thought you were sticking with your current job, Stories change a lot and I never get the whole story. It's just been a lot of little shit that I have let go and let go cause it wasn't worth a fight with a friend but I feel less and less like a friend every time we have hung out lately. Holiday Market was the topper." (The Junior League private event I took her to where I blew $200 on new clothes for her and paid for her ticket and drinks) She went on to add "I don't know who you are and where you're going anymore."

....this is absolutely crazy, she has been biting my head off for months. Ever since I got this job and got my car and joined the junior league.

I hate to say it because it sounds so narcissistic but... is she like... jealous or something???? It's the ONLY thing that makes sense...! We've been texting and she is unloading on me, saying I'm always trying to one up her, saying every time we talk it's been about the guys I'm dating (.... isn't that what you talk to friends about?) or about my car... she is forgetting all the times she hasn't wanted to talk when I've asked her if she is ok and if things are OK with her boyfriend and her kids. She said "I'm never as good as you" just now. Then starts ranting about my car, my clothes, my other friends.... What. The. F.

Sarah sounds like she is jealous and not really a good friend. I know it will be hard to let her go but if you continue down this path it may be harder to keep her around. do what your heart tells you.

Originally Posted by Bonnie

IMO, she does sound Jealous, if you know you have always treated her like a freind, I would have a clear conscience, and just don't let her make you feel bad for good things going on in your life, sometimes family and your closest freinds are the ones that bring you down the most, I would say go about your business and refuse to fight with her, Good luck!

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody." - Bill Cosby

Originally Posted by CarolinaChick

Funny the topic of "friends" has came up here in the ladies lounge. I just had a discussion with an "acquaintance" of mine that involved a lady that was supposed to be my friend. However, I didn't side with her over a situation at her store (she works at a CVS/pharmacy like I do) and it made her madder than fire. We haven't spoken in over a month. I guess her ideas of how a friendship should be are totally different than mine. My thought is/was a friendship consists of two people who can disagree and then move on to being friends again with an understanding that opinions are our own. Not with this gal.

Wanna know what made her mad? There's a guy she works with. She absolutely despises him. He doesn't like her, either. He brought her an iced coffee one morning and when she told me about it, I said "How nice of him!" She replied "What? After the way he has treated me? I don't trust him one bit!" I said "Isn't he allowed to do something nice for you? Maybe this is his weird way of trying to meet in the middle since you guys have had some issues." She said "I guess."

The conversation (well, it was texting - not a vocal conversation) was just that. Nothing more. Nothing less and I've not talked to her since. This woman is 48 years old. Grow up already!

Someone stated they have more guy friends than girl friends. I'm the same way. This is why. I cannot stand people who wear their emotions on their sleeves and feel the ENTIRE world is out to get them. People like this are toxic. I don't need 'em.

Grow up already, lady!

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

I have a lot of female friends, but they all are a lot like me - strong and independent - so we tend to think alike...
My BFF and I have been friends since I was 17 and she was 15 (we're both in our 40's now), and in ALL THAT TIME, I've only been angry at her once. Even then, it only took me a few days before I said to myself "Friends like this come along once in a lifetime, and I have to let this go, it's not worth losing her over" We have vastly different lives and lifestyles, but I love her with all my heart - she's honestly the ONLY person I would literally DIE for.
Sarah, this woman was never truly a friend if she feels that there is some sort of competition between you (that's really what jealousy is). I hope that, with your professional growth and new activities that are going along with it, you will be able to meet some real friends. And, you should know this ----- you have real friends here.

[RubyCamaro]

Say some prayers friends, for my dad. He has to have surgery tomorrow for a torn/separated retina. It seems this terrible year with it's difficulties just won't let go for my family. Throw in a couple of prayers for both of my kids too. Those stories are too long to evet get into. Suffice it to say they both are causing me a heavy heart. Come on NEW YEAR!

[JoeP@TeamBeckyD]

Originally Posted by RubyCamaro

Say some prayers friends, for my dad. He has to have surgery tomorrow for a torn/separated retina. It seems this terrible year with it's difficulties just won't let go for my family. Throw in a couple of prayers for both of my kids too. Those stories are too long to evet get into. Suffice it to say they both are causing me a heavy heart. Come on NEW YEAR!

All the best to you Ruby, we'll keep your dad and your kids in our prayers

GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL LADIES !! ONLY 2 MORE DAYS TIL THE WEEKEND!!

[SSMOKINHOT]

Originally Posted by dianeokie

Morning ladies.............let's plan a ladies get together at CamaroFestIII for sure.........even if we do something else............enough of us have our own cars that we don't have to depend on the guys

Welcome back home Donna, and welcome to the new version of the Ladies of Camaro 5 thread. This one is actually pretty fun and we're missing a notable controversy!

YES! Ladies get together at the FEST!! :tweetz:

Thanks for the welcome back!! It is SO good to be HOME!!! I like this version of the ladies thread...and yes, thank goodness we got rid of some extra baggage!!

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

I broke my tradition and decorated my tree early last night.

I bought it and the ribbons, burgundy and gold balls, bows and tinsel for less than $40 when I was in college-- I call it my Martha Stewart tree. I get one ornament a year (minus the crystal icicles I bought for it in Frankenmuth, MI at the world's largest Christmas store). What do y'all think?

Looks pretty! I do my main tree in burgundy (go figure!!) and gold/pearl too!! i am decorating it today! I will also put up a patriotic tree at work for my troops!! AND a Yankees tree in my office!!! PLUS, a small tree in my daughter's room!! I will post up pics as I get them done!

Originally Posted by heRS

I love our ladies thread, does anyone else hope the C5 Gods will create a sub-forum for us so we can have a variety of threads? Having just one thread and all these lady conversations, they can get hard to follow so...
Welcome home, Congratulations on the babies, I love the boots but they never make such cool boots big enough for my size 10 1/2 - 11 feet except at transvestite stores. My tree's up but I haven't snapped a pic yet, your tree looks awesome Sarah! I'd love to come to Italy too, I actually do have a friend there to visit but I'll never afford such extravagance! Even a nice spa day would do especially with my 56th birthday coming up day after tomorrow.
Been thinking about adding AAC dual color halo headlights & fog lights http://www.automotivelightstore.com/...hthalokit.aspx - anyone else got this? How do you like it if you have?

I bought the colorshift halos from them BEFORE I checked to see how hard it is to install!! Well, turns out, you have to remove the headlights and then bake them...yes BAKE them in the oven to get them apart!! I was going to do it myself, now I am thinking screw that!! It just looks like a royal PITA!! LoL!! So, I think I will be taking it down to N.O for AAC to install for me! Luckily, I live in Louisiana. You on the other hand...not so close!! LoL! Anyway, before you decide, check out the install thread: http://www.camaro5.com/forums/showthread.php?t=75664

Bottom line though is they look AMAZING!!!

Originally Posted by SSGirl

Just let me know!!!!







I think its a great idea. Lets make sure we do something as a group while were at C5Fest III!!!!

Originally Posted by RubyCamaro

Say some prayers friends, for my dad. He has to have surgery tomorrow for a torn/separated retina. It seems this terrible year with it's difficulties just won't let go for my family. Throw in a couple of prayers for both of my kids too. Those stories are too long to evet get into. Suffice it to say they both are causing me a heavy heart. Come on NEW YEAR!

Sorry to hear that Ruby....thoughts and prayers headed your family's way!!! ~hugs~