Not my usual sort of post.

Steve Dallas · 11-13-2012, 09:45 PM

My mom is in her upper 70's, and started doing dialysis about a year ago because of her kidneys failing.

She's been in & out of the hospital now for the last month, with various infections and other issues.

I had planned on taking her to dialysis last Saturday, but got a call from my step dad that she was throwing up on Friday night, and that he would be staying around to do dialysis the next day. So I called on Sunday because she was very tired on Saturday, and let her know I would come up to visit her Monday.

So, I drove up there after work yesterday to visit, and she was not remembering a lot of things, including her two sisters visiting a week earlier while she had been in the hospital. And, she is now back in the hospital today and really has no memory of anything more than 30 minutes ago.

I know many others have dealt with situations like this, but for me it's a first...and I'm having a difficult time with it. I hope she will get some of her cognitive powers back, but there's no way to know...and I worry that I've really had my last real conversation with her.

driyac · 11-13-2012, 09:51 PM

Sorry about everything man. Sometimes its just good to vent though! So spill it all.

midnighter · 11-13-2012, 09:53 PM

My prayers go out for your mother and for you. Stay strong brother.

camarowa · 11-13-2012, 10:04 PM

Really sorry to hear this Dennis. You and your mom are in our thoughts and prayers.

midwest mcnasty · 11-13-2012, 10:31 PM

I HAVE BEEN THERE WITH MY DAD, ITS A TOUGH SITUATION. TRY TO STAY POSITIVE AND REMEMBER WE MAY NOT HAVE ANSWERS YOUR LOOKING FOR BUT WE ARE ALWAYS WILLING TO LISTEN... HANG IN THERE MAN.

laditee · 11-13-2012, 10:32 PM

So sorry to here that...u both are in my praise...try to stay strong even tho its gonna be harder by the day....believe me she woudn't want u to suffer over seeing her suffer....god bless u both

2010 SSRS · 11-13-2012, 10:36 PM

so sorry to hear this, that is very sad, stay strong for your Mom

Xploite · 11-13-2012, 10:45 PM

My mom went through the same thing. She went from having all of her wits about her to having signs of early on set dementia. Have them check her meds, that's what my mom's issues stemmed from. I pray that she gets better.

Dznts · 11-13-2012, 11:32 PM

Sorry to see this. Stay strong my friend!

Mutant Racer · 11-14-2012, 03:40 AM

I'm sorry that you and your mom have to deal with something like that Steve. I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts bro. :(

Ladybugsmom · 11-14-2012, 04:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xploite

My mom went through the same thing. She went from having all of her wits about her to having signs of early on set dementia. Have them check her meds, that's what my mom's issues stemmed from. I pray that she gets better.

Dennis, this is great advice. Not all meds are readily dialyzed, she may have some accumulation going on....

I'll say a little prayer for you and your mom....

Sir Nuke · 11-14-2012, 05:01 AM

Steve, we all have you, your mom and your family in our prayers. I somewhat know how you feel, truely I do. Nearly 35 years ago my dad was diagnosed with Parkinsons.....My Dad was a very viberant man.....It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, and that was to watch the greatest man I've ever known to slowly wither....over the years he lost his ability of walk....and slowly lost the ability to speak....and finally he lost his eye sight. He was truely trapped in his body.....in the dark. All he had was his hearing......at the age of 90 yrs old, he finally gave up, or at least his body did....We had taken him to the hospital and we were told that his body was shutting down.....He went to sleep that evening, and was snoring his A$$ off the next day when I got there......he was very peaceful......he slept for 2 more days.....and then he was gone.

SO, Do whatever you can to spend as much time as you can whth your Mom.....it may be hard to see, I know, it was for me.....but in your heart, and hers, she will know you and that you are there for her.

*The_Blur* · 11-14-2012, 05:02 AM

I want to wish you and your family the best. This is a tough time, and you'll push through it.

Brutal SS · 11-14-2012, 05:02 AM

Im so very sorry you are having to deal with this. I hope your mom gets better soon bro! Your Camaro5 fam is pulling for you and your mom! Believe that!

11-13-2012, 09:45 PM	#1
Steve Dallas Commits weekly crime Drives: 2017 Camaro 1LT Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Camano Island, WA Posts: 9,513 View My Garage	Not my usual sort of post. My mom is in her upper 70's, and started doing dialysis about a year ago because of her kidneys failing. She's been in & out of the hospital now for the last month, with various infections and other issues. I had planned on taking her to dialysis last Saturday, but got a call from my step dad that she was throwing up on Friday night, and that he would be staying around to do dialysis the next day. So I called on Sunday because she was very tired on Saturday, and let her know I would come up to visit her Monday. So, I drove up there after work yesterday to visit, and she was not remembering a lot of things, including her two sisters visiting a week earlier while she had been in the hospital. And, she is now back in the hospital today and really has no memory of anything more than 30 minutes ago. I know many others have dealt with situations like this, but for me it's a first...and I'm having a difficult time with it. I hope she will get some of her cognitive powers back, but there's no way to know...and I worry that I've really had my last real conversation with her. __________________ 2017 Camaro 1LT - Blue Barchetta IV I fire up the willing engine, responding with a roar. Tires spitting gravel I commit my weekly crime.

11-13-2012, 10:04 PM	#4
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11-13-2012, 10:36 PM	#7
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11-13-2012, 11:32 PM	#9
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11-14-2012, 05:01 AM	#12
Sir Nuke Master of All Things Drives: '26 Corvette Stingray Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Southeast of Houston, Texas Posts: 22,695 View My Garage	Steve, we all have you, your mom and your family in our prayers. I somewhat know how you feel, truely I do. Nearly 35 years ago my dad was diagnosed with Parkinsons.....My Dad was a very viberant man.....It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, and that was to watch the greatest man I've ever known to slowly wither....over the years he lost his ability of walk....and slowly lost the ability to speak....and finally he lost his eye sight. He was truely trapped in his body.....in the dark. All he had was his hearing......at the age of 90 yrs old, he finally gave up, or at least his body did....We had taken him to the hospital and we were told that his body was shutting down.....He went to sleep that evening, and was snoring his A$$ off the next day when I got there......he was very peaceful......he slept for 2 more days.....and then he was gone. SO, Do whatever you can to spend as much time as you can whth your Mom.....it may be hard to see, I know, it was for me.....but in your heart, and hers, she will know you and that you are there for her. __________________

11-13-2012, 09:51 PM	#2
driyac Drives: 2012 45th Anniversary 2SS Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: West Chester Ohio Posts: 1,845	Sorry about everything man. Sometimes its just good to vent though! So spill it all.

11-13-2012, 09:53 PM	#3
midnighter Account Suspended Drives: nothing Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: a hole Posts: 17,904	My prayers go out for your mother and for you. Stay strong brother.

11-13-2012, 10:31 PM	#5
midwest mcnasty scottie v Drives: 2012 2lt camaro iom rs package Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: ottawa ks Posts: 446	I HAVE BEEN THERE WITH MY DAD, ITS A TOUGH SITUATION. TRY TO STAY POSITIVE AND REMEMBER WE MAY NOT HAVE ANSWERS YOUR LOOKING FOR BUT WE ARE ALWAYS WILLING TO LISTEN... HANG IN THERE MAN.

11-13-2012, 10:32 PM	#6
laditee Drives: 2010 Camaro 2SS Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Jerzy Posts: 2,665 View My Garage	So sorry to here that...u both are in my praise...try to stay strong even tho its gonna be harder by the day....believe me she woudn't want u to suffer over seeing her suffer....god bless u both

11-13-2012, 10:45 PM	#8
Xploite Drives: CGM 2LT Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Smyrna, TN Posts: 1,346	My mom went through the same thing. She went from having all of her wits about her to having signs of early on set dementia. Have them check her meds, that's what my mom's issues stemmed from. I pray that she gets better.

11-14-2012, 03:40 AM	#10
Mutant Racer Drives: 2015 2LT Torch Red C7 Stingray Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,807 View My Garage	I'm sorry that you and your mom have to deal with something like that Steve. I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts bro. :(

11-14-2012, 05:02 AM	#13
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11-14-2012, 05:02 AM	#14
Brutal SS Drives: 2019 Camaro 2SS 1LE Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Dinwiddie, Va. Posts: 1,901	Im so very sorry you are having to deal with this. I hope your mom gets better soon bro! Your Camaro5 fam is pulling for you and your mom! Believe that! __________________