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[CHMSC]

Originally Posted by LoneStar

Well said! Most people find a way to tell you what you wanna hear (to string you along or whatever), but when it comes down to it, they're actions don't back it up. Those people are wasting your time. Gotta find someone you're compatible with.

Thnx and yup you are right.

[LoneStar]

Originally Posted by Liltuffgirl

Nice! I'm the same way. I don't go for games and I don't beat around the bush. This guy knows I'm really into him and am about to give up.
The guys who try to talk to me I tell them straight up I don't have casual sex. I don't have anything against it what so ever and don't hate in anyone who does it. I just can't do it. I am too insecure to just strip down for anyone. So I get to know them and get attached. It sucks!!

The one guy has been talking to me for a while. Even before I started talking to the guy I want. He's listened to me bitch and complain... Always there for me no matter what. A few guys have told me he's a "player". Well if he's just trying to sleep with me and that's it he's going through A LOT to do so lol. If he's sleeping around he's pretty good at hiding that too! He constantly texts me every day.. No hour or two gaps. He went to dinner with a female "friend" but told me he was before he did. Then texted me the entire time lol said they were going back to his place and again texted me. When we are together his phone hardly goes off and when it does he grabs it and has it in view but I won't look since I really don't care.... He says who it is (normally his ex wife/son's mother).

I never gave him a chance because I don't have that same trust. He was a huge flirt with me at first. And what everyone says... BUT there are a bunch of rumors about me too, that's just public service! (This guy is a fireman).

I can't imagine what it's like to be married going through a divorce, so I have no clue where that other guys head might be.

But with that second guy, it doesn't take much to text someone, don't let that fool you as putting forth effort... If you're interested enough in him to give him a shot, just watch out for yourself, ESPECIALLY since you don't have the same trust in him.

[Liltuffgirl]

Yea I just need to go with the flow... Stop worrying about upsetting the guy I really like and just do whatever. I'd never lie to him or hide anything. If he doesn't want me hanging out with anyone else then he needs to step up. There will always be stress in life... Gotta hang onto the things that help you forget about that stress.

[Liltuffgirl]

Originally Posted by LoneStar

I can't imagine what it's like to be married going through a divorce, so I have no clue where that other guys head might be.

But with that second guy, it doesn't take much to text someone, don't let that fool you as putting forth effort... If you're interested enough in him to give him a shot, just watch out for yourself, ESPECIALLY since you don't have the same trust in him.

The dude I want is the first I've ever trusted. I didn't even trust my ex husband! He was shady though... I don't trust easily.

I wasn't married as long as he was and I was the one who left my ex so I don't know what he's going through either. I know I was ready to let the past be the past though! I did feel like a failure but it went away with time.

I think I trust him so much because he is a lot like me. Even when it comes to sex. He was embarrassed to tell me he's "like a girl" and can't have sex with just anyone. And he's always the quiet guy.. I like that.
His ex didn't like the fact he didn't want to go drink on the weekends he was off and he just wanted to relax at home and watch movies. Uhm that's all I like to do too..... And in bed

Blah... I wish I didn't care about having a significant other. That would be the best scenario!!!

[CHMSC]

Everyone is different for a reason. Just gotta find the one that is right for you and only you know what is and isn't right for you.

[Liltuffgirl]

I know I'm hitting "sexual prime" and I need someone to play with lol

[LoneStar]

Originally Posted by Liltuffgirl

The dude I want is the first I've ever trusted. I didn't even trust my ex husband! He was shady though... I don't trust easily.

I wasn't married as long as he was and I was the one who left my ex so I don't know what he's going through either. I know I was ready to let the past be the past though! I did feel like a failure but it went away with time.

I think I trust him so much because he is a lot like me. Even when it comes to sex. He was embarrassed to tell me he's "like a girl" and can't have sex with just anyone. And he's always the quiet guy.. I like that.
His ex didn't like the fact he didn't want to go drink on the weekends he was off and he just wanted to relax at home and watch movies. Uhm that's all I like to do too..... And in bed

Blah... I wish I didn't care about having a significant other. That would be the best scenario!!!

Relationships are so complicated. I always say, why couldn't my life instruction manual include a chapter on the girl I'm supposed to be with?! Lol

And I guess by his definition, I'm "like a girl" too.

Originally Posted by CHMSC

Everyone is different for a reason. Just gotta find the one that is right for you and only you know what is and isn't right for you.

Originally Posted by Liltuffgirl

I know I'm hitting "sexual prime" and I need someone to play with lol

Bahaha. I bet you're still on the incline (a little while before you get to the top).

[CHMSC]

Ha ha ha I am sure there are others out there that feel the same way. Due time! I live in a horrible place to find a mate. Most are drug addicts, drunks or have 5 kids....not saying the 5 kids is a bad thing but most are from 5 different dads and they are not even sure who is the dad for what kid.

[Liltuffgirl]

Hah yea same around here. I don't want to have a kid of my own. I don't want to be off work and I can't handle a puppy whining I'm not sure how ill do with a baby crying. Guy I want is the same way. Guy I'm going to try has a son (obviously) but he's 6.

Most girls around here have tons of kids too. Along with drugs...
The guys are just whores. But again I work in the wrong career for meeting good guys. I don't go out so I just stay with those I work around. Cops are normally horrible. But guy I want isn't typical cop. Learning pretty quickly firemen are the same way as cops.

[CHMSC]

Lol if your cat drives you crazy imagine a kid! Ya a lot of cops are pretty bad but there are a lot of good ones as well. Guys are just guys. There's the good and the bad just as women can be.

[LoneStar]

^^ well let me mark those 2 areas off my list of "places to meet a mate."

[CHMSC]

Originally Posted by LoneStar

^^ well let me mark those 2 areas off my list of "places to meet a mate."

damn man texas has tons of hotties!! Well not in Odessa

[LoneStar]

Originally Posted by CHMSC

damn man texas has tons of hotties!! Well not in Odessa

Truth! Houston is crawling with 'em! But Odessa has some of the best! I'm pretty sure all the beauty is concentrated in the women here because the rest of the city looks like crap! Dry, dusty crap, Haha

[CHMSC]

Lol