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[Sapphire]

meh my wednesday is going. but that sucks about the paint. atleast its under warranty and they're fixing it like they should. I just got finished painting my engine cover! it was my first paint job I've done. my dad did most of it but when we painted it I think he put too many coats on and the paint was too thick when we started peeling off the tape. it looked bad when we pulled the tape off. but I was able to fix it up a bit with a small paintbrush and some paint remover lol. I'll have to post up some pics when I get home.

[Heaven_is_inferno_orange]

Originally Posted by YellowCammy

meh my wednesday is going. but that sucks about the paint. atleast its under warranty and they're fixing it like they should. I just got finished painting my engine cover! it was my first paint job I've done. my dad did most of it but when we painted it I think he put too many coats on and the paint was too thick when we started peeling off the tape. it looked bad when we pulled the tape off. but I was able to fix it up a bit with a small paintbrush and some paint remover lol. I'll have to post up some pics when I get home.

Ya post pics I'd like to see it. First try painting is always the worst. It's gets better with practice though. First thing I ever painted on my husbands car I had to remove all the paint because it had to much on it and sagged and ran. It sucked but better his than mine? Lol

[Heaven_is_inferno_orange]

Well ladies my exterior customization is half completed as of today.

[Ladybugsmom]

My homeowner's insurance finally came through with a check, and I got a new computer... So happy to have decent web access again! I missed you ladies!!!!

[Liltuffgirl]

Ok girls... And random guys.... Relationship help!

I've been "talking" to a guy who is a good bit like me and we have a great damn time together. Best uhh "activities" I've ever had... Ever.... One hell of a connection there! Massive issue is that he's just wrapping up his divorce. Soon to be ex just told him she's no longer in love with him and wanted a divorce. They've had their first court date and the final Is on the 12th. She's in the house until the 15th since he has to refinance it in only his name.
He said he's extremely stressed over everything going on (he's lost a lot of weight during all this. He looks sickly) and he still feels guilty for what we are doing even though he knows he shouldn't.
So we out things on hold. He said he really likes me and doesn't want anyone else and rather me not talk to anyone else.

I like him a lot! But this absolutely sucks! Wouldn't be as bad if he was someone who texted more... But no... I said I'd wait till he moves and things settle down but damn I didn't think it would be so hard! I'm depressed as hell. I miss him :(

Another guy has been trying to take me out for a while. There is attraction there but I don't trust him like I do the first guy. This guy is fun to be around and all.. But he's not worth screwing up a chance with the other guy...

Wondering if the first guy will even come around? When I was getting a divorce I was so ready to find someone who would treat me better than my ex did. But then again I left him not the other way around. Although my ex moved on quicker than I did....

Should I suck it up and wait? Learn to be patient for once... Or do you think it's pointless and I should try to move on?

[Sapphire]

well that is a predicament tuff. If this guy is as great as you say and he said he has pretty much choosen you and ask for you not to talk to another man, then he must mean it. Hopefully this divorce goes over well and you two can be together. If he's so stressed he's loosing weight over the whole thing he might need you for support or just to let him know you're there for him if he needs an ear. i hope you two the best and hope everything works out.

[heRS]

liltufgirl, if you KNOW he's married (he's not divorced yet so he's married) he is hands-off. Get about your life, once he has his freedom secured he'll come looking if he's really interested... which I'd say he's not so much.... otherwise he'd be all over you still.
The way you land 'em is the way you lose 'em.

[Liltuffgirl]

He's apparently the type to keep to himself when he is stressed and having problems. He says that's how he deals with things. So I can't help there.
We are suppose to hang out Sunday night but I'm not holding my breath. I'm pretty much tired of it all. Our friends and everyone who knows us are all trying hard to get us together saying its the best for us both blah blah. So that doesn't help any...

We are a lot alike in many ways but different in many ways. I like to text... Keep in contact. Not him! He'll randomly text and takes an hour or so to respond. I'm very touchy feely I like affection. He says he does too but his ex hated it so he's use to not doing all that.

Who knows. I'm so tired of the up and down of it all. I'm going to hang out with the other guy and see what happens. Other guy knows I'm really into this dude and knows I'm not getting into anything until I'm over him.


And this guy's soon to be ex wife has totally moved on from him. He's single other than through the courts. She changed her last name on Facebook the day she told him she wanted a divorce. He said when they talk she acts like they were never together.
I have no problem taking things slow! But I have a problem being strung along...


Thanks for your replies though! Hopefully ill get over it all soon. I'm so damn tired of being depressed. Not eating much.. Feeling like crap... It's not worth it. But telling myself that and believing it are two different things.

[CHMSC]

You seem to cool to have to deal with that BS. I have always said if I am not feeling it then move on.

[Liltuffgirl]

You know if there weren't any other guys trying to take me out it may be easier to wait around for him.... But it's like half of me thinks what if one of these other guys could be great for me but instead I waited for something that may not even happen....

Plus I really want a guy who's as into me as I'm into him.... And can show it!!!! I left the last guy because he wouldn't ever show emotion. That sucks. This one almost acts the same! But he actually says I'm beautiful unlike the ex. This dude and I had an amazing week of talking when he was out of town!!! That's what made me lust so much! Then he came back into town and it all changed.

But yea.... He likes mustangs better than camaros too.... Lol

[CHMSC]

Well that's the problem he likes mustangs lol

No but seriously, I have always believed in showing how you feel for the one you are with and the connection you two have. If there is no connection then there is no reason to be with them. Show how you feel don't just talk the talk. Most of the reason I am single, to many games and BS. I don't deal with BS or drama. If you like affection you show it regardless of an ex. I had an ex who hated affection, for me it killed the relationship. It's not the way I am or who I want to be with.

[LoneStar]

Originally Posted by CHMSC

Well that's the problem he likes mustangs lol

No but seriously, I have always believed in showing how you feel for the one you are with and the connection you two have. If there is no connection then there is no reason to be with them. Show how you feel don't just talk the talk. Most of the reason I am single, to many games and BS. I don't deal with BS or drama. If you like affection you show it regardless of an ex. I had an ex who hated affection, for me it killed the relationship. It's not the way I am or who I want to be with.

Well said! Most people find a way to tell you what you wanna hear (to string you along or whatever), but when it comes down to it, they're actions don't back it up. Those people are wasting your time. Gotta find someone you're compatible with.

[Liltuffgirl]

Nice! I'm the same way. I don't go for games and I don't beat around the bush. This guy knows I'm really into him and am about to give up.
The guys who try to talk to me I tell them straight up I don't have casual sex. I don't have anything against it what so ever and don't hate in anyone who does it. I just can't do it. I am too insecure to just strip down for anyone. So I get to know them and get attached. It sucks!!

The one guy has been talking to me for a while. Even before I started talking to the guy I want. He's listened to me bitch and complain... Always there for me no matter what. A few guys have told me he's a "player". Well if he's just trying to sleep with me and that's it he's going through A LOT to do so lol. If he's sleeping around he's pretty good at hiding that too! He constantly texts me every day.. No hour or two gaps. He went to dinner with a female "friend" but told me he was before he did. Then texted me the entire time lol said they were going back to his place and again texted me. When we are together his phone hardly goes off and when it does he grabs it and has it in view but I won't look since I really don't care.... He says who it is (normally his ex wife/son's mother).

I never gave him a chance because I don't have that same trust. He was a huge flirt with me at first. And what everyone says... BUT there are a bunch of rumors about me too, that's just public service! (This guy is a fireman).

[CHMSC]

You do have to be careful some guys will act like that just to get in and then bail once they get what they want. Take your time if you are into someone but don't take to LNG and lose their interest either. To me it sounds as if you are over him aka end it now before you make it even harder on yourself. If the other guy is someone you dig then see what's up just be careful if in fact he is a player.