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[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

Yes ma'am, it was gone, very simple procedure, no scars, no BS, and it hasn't come back in seven years. But it doesn't mean I'm not paranoid every time I go to the doctor-- which is how this whole thing came up in the first place; doctor's appointment today. I didn't have to have chemo or anything, thank goodness.

But it feels like exposing a weakness; like maybe people will look at me differently, like I'm infirm or sick or weak, and I most definitely am not!!!

Glad it was simple and they were able to get it all out!! Well, last thing you want is to hear bad news because no news is good news. HOWEVER, to ensure you are here with us a for a long time you need to get checked so they can catch anything early and get it dealt with. I mean, you don't want to wait until it's too late, plus nothing better than a clean bill of health, right?!?!

Having had cancer doesn't mean you are weak, but I can understand where ppl would treat you that way. Just explain that you are still the same person, and it's gone so treat you the way they would anyone else! No need to point you out. That's the worst! Bitch slap to prove your point or a nice uppercut to the jaw!!

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

You should NOT be embarrassed to say you had cancer. You should be PROUD to say you beat it! You're not weak, you're strong! As far as doctors go, if you have the right one, you'll actually like going to appointments. It took me years to find one I like and trust. He digs my car, so I love going for check ups so I can show him my latest mods. I park by the back door so he can step outside after my appointment and listen to me start her up. The grin he gets makes it worthwhile!

Do the same and find a Car lovin' Doc!

[heRS]

Originally Posted by Heaven_is_inferno_orange

Yes fine thin hair does suck! I would love for my hair to do something other than go limp and stick straight lol. Mysteek I will take half that thick hair from you anyday you're ready to give it lol!

The great part of long straight hair is that about every 10 years you are totally IN style, and women would kill to not have to iron/roll/flatten their hair straight.

Originally Posted by Mysteek

Ok, ladies, I haz a question/situation for you all to answer for me. Here is the situation:
I ran into my ex-fiance of 5 yrs a few weeks back, and he actually came up to talk to me. Well, comes to find out he is about to get a divorce, hence why he finally got the balls to talk to me in public. Anywho, his split was rather harsh, and while I did wish Karma to come and bite him on the ass (and it REALLY did) I had felt bad about it. So, I gave him my # and told him to give me a call or shoot a text sometime and he did eventually. Well, of course having FB he hit my brother, my mom, myself, some of my cousins and friends because he misses them all, or so he says. He knew a lot about my family even though we hadn’t talked which was strange. Anywho, sorry this is long, I had invited him and his kids over to my parents on Sunday so he wouldn’t be alone. Everything went well, and my hubby did ok meeting him for the first time. Now, my mom saw my sister and him talking because she is divorced and he is going through a divorce and thinks they can help each other. I’m all for this of course, but my mom is hoping something else comes out of it. WTF, right!?!?! Is it bad that I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that situation even though I’m married? Not only that, but was I wrong for being his friend??
That ^ was the question(s)!
:popc orn:

Yep, like Sarah says - girl code is that you don't date a sisters' ex. I'd have a talk with him about how dare he attempt to insert himself back into your life by subverting your family. He already has my big vote of disapproval and I would call a family meeting to UNfriend this dickhead. Sorry, I have a premonition of trouble for you if you allow him entry back into your life.

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

Personally, I don't think it'd be cool at all for your sister to date your ex, and I sure hope she'd have enough respect for you to not even do that-- I don't know what your mom is thinking! It's just against girl code, IMO, and while it's OK to feel sorry for the guy, there's definitely a reason he's your ex, and your family should hold him at arm's length. This just has disaster written all over it, if you ask me.

I should note that I am friends with a few of my exes, and it's fine-- but at some point or another, something besides friendship WILL come into the equation. It always does. You can't take back what happened between you two, and if it was me I'd tread very lightly. Good luck, girl, and if you need to talk let me know

My hubby and I were broke up for a while and got back together. He is very uncomfortable around any guy I dated during that time that I have remained friends with, and he actually did date one of my friends, the jerk. She and I are not friends anymore.

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

Girl talk time...


GAH, I hate having to admit to someone that I had cancer. My boyfriend asked me why I hate doctors, and I had to tell him, even though it's not something I share openly in the real world. Even posting it here makes me squeamish. It's embarassing to me, and I don't know why. I totally feel like I'm exposing some kind of weakness, even though I'm FINE now seven years later... *hides*

Hey Sarah, congratulations for beating your Cancer. I don't think that weakens a person, hell girl, you BEAT it. You are strong, and sure, and cute, and alive! Rejoice in it!

Now for my happy news, one of my C5 buddies is selling me his stock rims and p-zeros (he sold his SS) for $500. - I'll be driving my pickup over to Seattle to pick them up next week. I am not looking forward to 10 hrs in my old pickup but I am so amped! I was just pricing new tires and to replace the pzeros would be around a grand but the ones I'm buying are at about 1/2 life and on rims so I'm all like this I could put the 10s on all the way around for the rest of this summer, and then when they are bald I'll run the 8s until they are worn out.

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by heRS

The great part of long straight hair is that about every 10 years you are totally IN style, and women would kill to not have to iron/roll/flatten their hair straight.


Yep, like Sarah says - girl code is that you don't date a sisters' ex. I'd have a talk with him about how dare he attempt to insert himself back into your life by subverting your family. He already has my big vote of disapproval and I would call a family meeting to UNfriend this dickhead. Sorry, I have a premonition of trouble for you if you allow him entry back into your life.

Now for my happy news, one of my C5 buddies is selling me his stock rims and p-zeros (he sold his SS) for $500. - I'll be driving my pickup over to Seattle to pick them up next week. I am not looking forward to 10 hrs in my old pickup but I am so amped! I was just pricing new tires and to replace the pzeros would be around a grand but the ones I'm buying are at about 1/2 life and on rims so I'm all like this I could put the 10s on all the way around for the rest of this summer, and then when they are bald I'll run the 8s until they are worn out.

That's me right there, in a nutshell!!

Well, it wasn't really him as much as it would have been my sister. She is like that. She threw herself at my best friend and he called to tell me about it. I couldn't believe she would do that. My best friend is a cutie, yeah, but seriously?? He said she text him all night and he kept telling her "No" because it would be weird. He isn't gay or anything, straight as all get out T and A is all he cares about, but didn't touch her. I had to apologize for her behaviour I was embarrassed. So, yeah, if anything she is after him not the other way around cuz she was kissing his butt that whole day. I was too busy with my baby that I didn't get to hang out much, just sat back and watched. I mean, if he does what can I do, it's too late, but you can bet your booty that I will tell him to F*&^ off at that point!

ORLY?!?! :happy anim: That's awesome!!! Congrats on the new purchase and great deal!!! Hey, one can't always afford the newest and most expensive so you work with what you have!! sounds like you already have everything planned out for MILES!!

[sugar'n'spice]

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

Girl talk time...


GAH, I hate having to admit to someone that I had cancer. My boyfriend asked me why I hate doctors, and I had to tell him, even though it's not something I share openly in the real world. Even posting it here makes me squeamish. It's embarassing to me, and I don't know why. I totally feel like I'm exposing some kind of weakness, even though I'm FINE now seven years later... *hides*

Sarah...of all things in life this is not the time to be embarrassed. Do you think that cancer is embarrassed? NO. It doesn't criticize who it hits..
So with that said...you have to be proud that you are a survivor and you are stronger than you think. Never hide what you've been threw..just shows how much of a stronger woman and person you are..and good for you ! You can now leave it behind and enjoy your life !

[bhall82]

Originally Posted by RallySS

Hello ladies, is Giga in here? Just figured this would be a good place to look. Toodles.

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by bhall82

BRIAN!! GTFO!!

[AZCamaroFan]

what about me?

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by AZCamaroFan

what about me?

What about you what??

[BowtieBelle]

Clean bill of health at the doctor!

I celebrated with some wild foil nails. I never do anything this crazy with my nails!

[Trailbreaker77]

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[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

Clean bill of health at the doctor!

I celebrated with some wild foil nails. I never do anything this crazy with my nails!

YAY!!! :happy anim:


I like those!! Different but in a good way different!!

[Heaven_is_inferno_orange]

O.O I am late to the party. lol.
Mysteek: Nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. My husband and I are both friends with mine. In fact sometimes I think they like each other more than me lol. I'd have some mixed feeling about the sister dating the ex thing. I mean it is kinda wrong but at the same time you cant help who you fall in love with. So I guess it would depend on how they ended up feeling about each other. If they both seriously ended up in love I'd be happy for them both. But I'd be a little ticked if she just used him to warm her bed.

Belle: I can understand feeling embarrassed. I have issues that i was very embarrassed about telling anyone. However we can't help these kinds of things and there really is no reason to be embarrassed of them. In fact your story could help give someone else going thru it the same strength and courage you had to get through it themselves. Also love the nails.

I just came back from the body shop. Everything is basically waiting right now on the insurance adjuster to get his butt out here. The earliest Sasuke will get to go to the bodyshop will be July cause they are so busy but I was assured he would be utter perfection in time for Camarofest. And I will be getting my wish of Carbon Flash Metallic ground effects. So happy right now lol. I was very worried about the insurance not wanting to replace my rear bumper ( a repair wouldnt make the body lines 100%) so I talked ot my estimater at the shop today and he assured me if the insurance insists on a repair that they will make sure I get my brand new bumper with perfect body lines. So now I feel a little less stressed out about the whole thing. Im sad Sasuke is going to miss the Fbody Gathering in Somerset. :( But I will have my 2002 red trans am with the big black bird on the WS6 hood there. Which makes my husband extremely happy lol.

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by Heaven_is_inferno_orange

O.O I am late to the party. lol.
Mysteek: Nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. My husband and I are both friends with mine. In fact sometimes I think they like each other more than me lol. I'd have some mixed feeling about the sister dating the ex thing. I mean it is kinda wrong but at the same time you cant help who you fall in love with. So I guess it would depend on how they ended up feeling about each other. If they both seriously ended up in love I'd be happy for them both. But I'd be a little ticked if she just used him to warm her bed.

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Very true!!! I wondered that myself, if they got to know each other they would probably really like hanging out with one another. I think Danny isn't wanting to move that fast in THAT relationship. Yeah, I would give them my blessings if they did, but man that would be WEIRD!!! My and my little fam. are moving next year so I wouldn't have to see it for long if it did happen. I could live with that!! Thanks though, I knew it was possible.

[rachykells]

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

Personally, I don't think it'd be cool at all for your sister to date your ex, and I sure hope she'd have enough respect for you to not even do that-- I don't know what your mom is thinking! It's just against girl code, IMO, and while it's OK to feel sorry for the guy, there's definitely a reason he's your ex, and your family should hold him at arm's length. This just has disaster written all over it, if you ask me.

Totally agree. Not only is it sort of disrespectful to you-- it's just kinda awkward! Then again, maybe you, your family and he don't see it that way. That's definitely between you all!

If your husband is OK with it, and you're OK with it... I say a friendship is alright, but I'd tread lightly and make sure it stays just that.