How to tell someone u dont want them around - Page 3

Stingr69 · 04-14-2012, 02:33 PM

Why are you holding back at all? TELL HER. That is all she needs.

midnighter · 04-14-2012, 02:41 PM

How to tell someone u dont want them around?

You befriend this guy...

2010SLVRBULIT · 04-15-2012, 07:21 PM

tell her to buy her own Camaro and you have a mini caravan wherever you go

angie7 · 04-15-2012, 10:31 PM

Ugh. So I went to a show today. I posted on fb that I was at a show but left out where it was. She sends 2 messages saying she didnt know there was a show and how she bets my car looks great. I ignored her.

Fast forward to 20 mins ago. I get an email that is titled "whatever" well shes going on about how I obviously dont want her there and how Im better then her now and I hurt her feelings......really??? Wtf?

Dznts · 04-15-2012, 10:57 PM

just tell her to "F" off.. problem solved

... Just kidding

TOMS1SS · 04-15-2012, 11:07 PM

By chance are you near the South Side of Chicago? Text her, 2 AM car show in downtown Gary. lol

JK if I offended any Chicagoans.

OffseT · 04-15-2012, 11:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TOMS1SS

By chance are you near the South Side of Chicago? Text her, 2 AM car show in downtown Gary. lol

JK if I offended any Chicagoans.

Usually the car shows are on South Chicago st.

TOMS1SS · 04-15-2012, 11:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Maroboy2001

Usually the car shows are on South Chicago st.

Oh wow, glad I never went.

2001ragtop · 04-16-2012, 01:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by angie7

So I have this "friend" who is a nice enough person but we've had a rocky friendship to say the least bc shes bipolar and unmedicated......Shes f'ing crazy and very annoying. How do I tell her I dont want her there?

WWYD?

Tell her that you need some "alone time" and you need some space.

If she asks "how long", just say I don't know. Just act like you are serious and that if she does not give you your space, your friendship is over.

If this girl is the one who is the sister of your boyfriend, then you are doooomed. There is no escape and I speak from experience.

jmaynard · 04-16-2012, 01:31 PM

I can see your problem and everyones attempt to help you solve it. The only 'safe' way to do this is to make it where she does not want to be around you. If you try to break it off you may set her over the edge. You need to be something she hates. Crazy, moody, doper, rude, etc. Pick one you know she cannot stand and play the part. My favorite is rude. Most people cannmot stand the embarrasment of being around a rude person. You have to be REALLY rude, to everyone, even her. Eventually she will be to embarrased to want to be around you. You can always apologize to everyone else after the fact, but it has to be your secret while it is happening. Real responses from people cannot be faked.

2001ragtop · 04-16-2012, 01:35 PM

yes just eat beans non stop and pass gas when you see her....do wat it takes to turn her off to being around you.....good idea from maynard

invite her to choir practice...Bible Study.....do anything you know she doesnt like

dump your problems on her.....talk non stop....dont let her get a word in......brag about yourself.....pick your nose in front of her too...

Scalded Dog · 04-16-2012, 02:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by angie7

Ugh. So I went to a show today. I posted on fb that I was at a show but left out where it was. She sends 2 messages saying she didnt know there was a show and how she bets my car looks great. I ignored her.

Fast forward to 20 mins ago. I get an email that is titled "whatever" well shes going on about how I obviously dont want her there and how Im better then her now and I hurt her feelings......really??? Wtf?

Here's what I think: I think that you are too nice to want to risk hurting her feelings. Nothing wrong with that, not trying to rip on you: I am the same way. For some reason, I attract insane people as friends, because unlike MOST people, I am too concerned about hurting their delicate feelings to just tell them to go F- off. So, I end up with lots of people who just want to hang around with me, be pals.

However, your post (quoted above) may be your best chance for a clean break... the hardest part is over... she has realized that, indeed, you don't want her around. The feelings have been hurt: Damn, too bad... rather than try to soothe her hurt feelings, and be back to square one, this is probably your opportunity, right now, to escape. Either never respond to her again (maybe that will work), or, if you can muster the strength, respond and tell that, damn straight, you don't want her around.

You are halfway there... she at least has a hint that you don't want her mental- case- self around... run while you can!

714SS/RS · 04-16-2012, 02:25 PM

Gotta be direct with crazies. Tell her flat out that you like to show your car because it is a way for you to be someone different than you are M-F, and gives you a chance to meet folks you wouldn't meet otherwise if you carried a support group to car shows. It's your free time-----you don't have to share it with anyone......

jmaynard · 04-16-2012, 02:45 PM

I am not sure that a lot of people here 'get it'. She is crazy. Logic, like talking direct to her wont work. People with the disorders described dont take direct very well. It just makes them respond in a more intense way, possibly to violence. THEY have to choose to not want to be friends anymore.

I really liked the pick your nose in front of her idea and would include scratching you ass constantly. Better yet, pick HER nose and scratch HER butt and tell her you thought she needed it.

04-15-2012, 10:31 PM	#32
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04-15-2012, 10:57 PM	#33
Dznts Anabolic Connoisseur Drives: Sold - Blown Camaro 2SS/RS LS3 Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 22,094	just tell her to "F" off.. problem solved ... Just kidding __________________

04-15-2012, 11:07 PM	#34
TOMS1SS Drives: NA Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: NA Posts: 12,126 View My Garage	By chance are you near the South Side of Chicago? Text her, 2 AM car show in downtown Gary. lol JK if I offended any Chicagoans. __________________ El funcionario señor de los desiertos de Mojave y Sonora.

04-14-2012, 02:33 PM	#29
Stingr69 '69 Owned Since '79 Drives: '69 Z/28 LeMans Blue w/White Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: LR AR Posts: 1,848 View My Garage	Why are you holding back at all? TELL HER. That is all she needs.

04-14-2012, 02:41 PM	#30
midnighter Account Suspended Drives: nothing Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: a hole Posts: 17,904	How to tell someone u dont want them around? You befriend this guy...

04-15-2012, 07:21 PM	#31
2010SLVRBULIT Drives: G5(LLT) & C6(LS3) Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: MARS Posts: 7,525 View My Garage	tell her to buy her own Camaro and you have a mini caravan wherever you go

04-16-2012, 01:31 PM	#38
jmaynard Account Suspended Drives: 2012 Camaro SS2 Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Garland Tx Posts: 452	I can see your problem and everyones attempt to help you solve it. The only 'safe' way to do this is to make it where she does not want to be around you. If you try to break it off you may set her over the edge. You need to be something she hates. Crazy, moody, doper, rude, etc. Pick one you know she cannot stand and play the part. My favorite is rude. Most people cannmot stand the embarrasment of being around a rude person. You have to be REALLY rude, to everyone, even her. Eventually she will be to embarrased to want to be around you. You can always apologize to everyone else after the fact, but it has to be your secret while it is happening. Real responses from people cannot be faked.

04-16-2012, 01:35 PM	#39
2001ragtop Drives: V8 american car Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Dallas, Tx Posts: 1,417	yes just eat beans non stop and pass gas when you see her....do wat it takes to turn her off to being around you.....good idea from maynard invite her to choir practice...Bible Study.....do anything you know she doesnt like dump your problems on her.....talk non stop....dont let her get a word in......brag about yourself.....pick your nose in front of her too...

04-16-2012, 02:25 PM	#41
714SS/RS Drives: 2011 Blk SS/RS LS3 6M Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Huntington Beach, CA Posts: 31	Gotta be direct with crazies. Tell her flat out that you like to show your car because it is a way for you to be someone different than you are M-F, and gives you a chance to meet folks you wouldn't meet otherwise if you carried a support group to car shows. It's your free time-----you don't have to share it with anyone......

04-16-2012, 02:45 PM	#42
jmaynard Account Suspended Drives: 2012 Camaro SS2 Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Garland Tx Posts: 452	I am not sure that a lot of people here 'get it'. She is crazy. Logic, like talking direct to her wont work. People with the disorders described dont take direct very well. It just makes them respond in a more intense way, possibly to violence. THEY have to choose to not want to be friends anymore. I really liked the pick your nose in front of her idea and would include scratching you ass constantly. Better yet, pick HER nose and scratch HER butt and tell her you thought she needed it.