Should I get a restraining order?

[bossbunny]

Originally Posted by MrandMrsNinja

If the kid is bigger than you, then take a bat and put it in the floorboard of your back seat. If the kid comes near you the the first swing goes at his knee and second at the elbow. Don't take more then 2 though. If the cops ask the you felt threatened and dealt with the problem. Just my .02..but the again I'm always the first to jump in to fight with someone

That sounds like a plan.

[Bulldogwinters]

Originally Posted by TRC-SS

Basically you can file a harrasment order on both your ex and her current boyfriend but you will not qualify for a restraining order, especially with her new boyfriend. There are certain elements that must be met in order to grant a restraining order. 1, dating relationship. 2. Live together. 3. Kids together. 4. Related by blood or marrage. If you dont fit into one of these categories your luck of getting a restraining order is slim to none. But you could get one on the Ex, but 9 times out of 10 a restraining order is issued due to physical harm or in fear of his or her life by this person. A Harassment order all you need is 3 or more acts of harassment, phone calls, stalking, threatening ect. This you could file through the court. But my suggestion is just document each encounter with your local police department because restraining orders and harrasment orders go on your record and for "good jobs" down the road they can see that in a background check and will most likely ask you about it.

Hope this helps. Ive been in Law enforcement now for 10 years and have seen just about every scenario, Just ignore him and her and keep your distance until things blow over

I was hoping someone in law enforcement would chime in, I didn't know what I would be trying to get. A harassment order seems to make more sense

Originally Posted by HufferSS

I think you both must be a little nutty for this to still be going on.

I don't miss the drama of youth...I can tell you that.

I don't see how that makes me nutty?
I've taken every possible step so that I don't have to deal with her being crazy, yet stuff like this still happens.

Originally Posted by CAPT D

I wouldnt worry about, it if your worried he was going to do something to you he would have done it already. I think getting a restraining order is a little out of hand. If your going to get one for someone giving you the finger and driving like a ass around you IMO thats seems a little extreme. The kids just trying to show off thats all.

It's not like he was just "showing off" he followed me a good 30 miles out of town, cutting me off and stopping on the middle of the interstate. that seems a little farther beyond showing off


I think I may just need to start carrying that baseball bat
Thanks everyone for your opinions, I think I'm going to go with that harassment order like TRC and Reaper were talking about..

[Bulldogwinters]

Well, an officer just left my house, filed a complaint and got it on paper. He said he was going to talk to her douchebag boyfriend and tell him to knock the shit off. I'm kinda relieved at the moment lol

[bossbunny]

Originally Posted by Bulldogwinters

Well, an officer just left my house, filed a complaint and got it on paper. He said he was going to talk to her douchebag boyfriend and tell him to knock the shit off. I'm kinda relieved at the moment lol

Cool beans!

[caramaro1969]

you should have called the police immediately when the truck was doing all this. i just went throught the restraining order process last month to a ex bipolar. i was ignoring him and it made it WORSE. he threatened me and my friends not to mention police filled my voicemail and texts up with incriminating evidence on himself. you need proof of threats and seriously believe you are in harm.you mentioned threats but didn't go into detail, a judge has to look over your complaints before he/she will approve a order of protection(in arkansas anyway not sure about there)then you will have to go to court and see this person(unless they don't show then it's automatically enforced)to approve the order. it's a lot of trouble and loss of work/school blah blah... again,if you feel seriously threatened do it,if not just make sure you document anything and everything anyway.i filed a police report on the texts so there is a paper trail,i'd report the truck incident. just my 2 cents

[seasick]

Bravo for taking care of it Bulldogwinters! In my experience, people never follow up with it until it's too late and something ugly happens. Good move.

FYI, carrying a bat is illegal in some states (some carry a glove and baseball in the trunk as well.) I know we have some LEO on the forums. I'd get a concealed carry permit or something that's easier to stash. I'm a small guy, and I've had to grab for stuff before man. It really sucks getting put into a corner or threatened.

[ibeck]

Find the dude when he's not expecting it and by himself and jump his ass, although since you started a paper trail that might backfire. I got jumped second day of my freshman year in high school by 5 dudes who were jealous of my dads car that I drove. Found 3 of them by themselves and taught them a lesson, they didn't mess with me again. Don't fight fair either, 5 on 1 wasn't fair so me using a bat wasn't fair either. If it seems like it's going to escalate to something bad, make sure you end it before you get caught off guard. Since you seem to be handling it well for now and started a paper trail don't do anything unless you need to.

[helmincamaro]

Originally Posted by ibeck

Find the dude when he's not expecting it and by himself and jump his ass, although since you started a paper trail that might backfire. I got jumped second day of my freshman year in high school by 5 dudes who were jealous of my dads car that I drove. Found 3 of them by themselves and taught them a lesson, they didn't mess with me again. Don't fight fair either, 5 on 1 wasn't fair so me using a bat wasn't fair either. If it seems like it's going to escalate to something bad, make sure you end it before you get caught off guard. Since you seem to be handling it well for now and started a paper trail don't do anything unless you need to.

or just pull an ibeck...... nobody wants to hit a crippled kid

[ibeck]

Originally Posted by helmincamaro

or just pull an ibeck...... nobody wants to hit a crippled kid

Oh you asshoe.

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[TAG UR IT]

Let me preface this by saying I don't know your states laws. I'm going to tell you what would happen in Texas and from an officers stand point.

First things first.

You need to start a paper trail.

Call the police and get a report. You don't have enough for harassment, but you can get an info report. 17 calls in one day here in San Antonio won't get you charges against the other person.

The purpose of this is, again, to start a paper trail. Then, the officer needs to either go by her house or business as well as the guys. Both need to be told BY THE OFFICER to stop what they are doing (all forms of communication and that they need to stop with the stupidity on the roads - which is coming next). By giving them the warning, which is what is needed to further pursue charges, you have set a precedent and they now know what to expect should they continue.

This should stop the calls and what not.

Next, you say that you saw the red truck with stickers and all. But, can you factually say that this was them? Can you say that you saw her and that you saw her new boyfriend? If so, then that can be included in the report. If you didn't actually see them, then you have no proof....coulda been some jack ass messing with you.

No charges at this point.

A restraining order is something that a court would do, but is not enforceable by law enforcement. That's more of a civil thing and a Judge could do something to the violator later on, but we can't do anything about it then and there.

Again, this is by TX law. So, things might not line up the same. Remember, step 1 is to put it on paper. You do have the right to defend yourself should it come to that. But, as with any type of situation, we tell people to do everything they can to prevent that situation from coming up in the first place.

Hope that helps.

If you have any further questions, PM me and I"m happy to give you advice.

[TAG UR IT]

Originally Posted by Bulldogwinters

Well, an officer just left my house, filed a complaint and got it on paper. He said he was going to talk to her douchebag boyfriend and tell him to knock the shit off. I'm kinda relieved at the moment lol

See what happens when I read post 1 and then skip to the end? hahaha....

but, you MUST do this.... Ask the officer what happened when he talked to him. FOLLOW UP. Sometimes officers say they will talk to someone and if they couldn't get a hold of them, it gets put on the back burner and won't get done. Follow through! Call the officer back and ask what the outcome of the situation was. You NEED to know.

[SSmoothie]

When you get older your brain changes in these type of situations, young folks look at it that part of this might be your fault so you don't call the police right away, good to ask advice. When you get older you realize that your not going to put up with the crap and call the police right away get license plate number and file right then and there. MY .o2

[kudzu74]

Originally Posted by TAG UR IT

Let me preface this by saying I don't know your states laws. I'm going to tell you what would happen in Texas and from an officers stand point.

First things first.

You need to start a paper trail.

Call the police and get a report. You don't have enough for harassment, but you can get an info report. 17 calls in one day here in San Antonio won't get you charges against the other person.

The purpose of this is, again, to start a paper trail. Then, the officer needs to either go by her house or business as well as the guys. Both need to be told BY THE OFFICER to stop what they are doing (all forms of communication and that they need to stop with the stupidity on the roads - which is coming next). By giving them the warning, which is what is needed to further pursue charges, you have set a precedent and they now know what to expect should they continue.

This should stop the calls and what not.

Next, you say that you saw the red truck with stickers and all. But, can you factually say that this was them? Can you say that you saw her and that you saw her new boyfriend? If so, then that can be included in the report. If you didn't actually see them, then you have no proof....coulda been some jack ass messing with you.

No charges at this point.

A restraining order is something that a court would do, but is not enforceable by law enforcement. That's more of a civil thing and a Judge could do something to the violator later on, but we can't do anything about it then and there.

Again, this is by TX law. So, things might not line up the same. Remember, step 1 is to put it on paper. You do have the right to defend yourself should it come to that. But, as with any type of situation, we tell people to do everything they can to prevent that situation from coming up in the first place.

Hope that helps.

If you have any further questions, PM me and I"m happy to give you advice.

Pretty much hit the nail on the head...I've been a LEO for over ten years now at local level and federal in several states. As for the other side of it a juvenile deliquent myself in my early years...yes we go one way or the other...jail or law enforcement...getting in a fight will not resolve it...and from a perspective of crazy chicks in college...just flat out ignore her and make sure if there is another you do a clean cut to the relationship...nothing worse than someone who cannot get over it that goes for girls with crazy boyfriends as well. Thats the daddy in me...mine oldest will be dating in the not to distant future, and I hate sounding like a parent, but she will know how to handle herself. I feel sorry for the guy that steps over the line with her.