Should I get a restraining order?

[Bulldogwinters]

It's a long read... bear with me.
Okay so here's the story.. I had a "thing" with this girl from my highschool, it lasted less than 2 months. Noting serious happened, and I expected nothing serious to come out of it. when she eventually broke it off I was slightly upset.. kinda wanted her back, that sorta thing. then all the sudden she has a new boyfriend. So I got pissed and quit talking to her. that apparently pissed her off and she started showing up at my workplace with this guy and basically flaunting it in my face. then I went ahead and blocked her phone number so she could quit texting me and harassing me, so what does she do? she facebook messages me and accuses me of starting rumors. this set me off and I said some purdy mean things then blocked her facebook page as well.

This worked for about 3 months, then in early August I dropped one of my friends off at her house, which just happens to be right across the street from the crazy chicks house. when I walked her to her dor I could see lights going on and off and people staring out the window at us, oh well. so i get back in the car and my phone starts ringing like crazy. 17 calls from a restricted number. then she starts texting me from her friends phone. telling me to "stay the hell away from her house" making it seem like I'm doing it to get close to her. I just told her she was flattering herself and to leave me alone. well that would have been fine if she had stopped, but no. she starts threatening me with herself, her boyfriend, and her dad. I don't take kindly to threats, but I didn't antagonize the situation more. I just quit texting back. so that was that.

Now school's started and I've seen her a few times. never make eye contact or anything. but tonight on my way home i'm in a turn lane taking my girlfriend home and all the sudden this big red Diesel GMC pulls up RIGHT on my ass. I'm gettin pissed creaping forward and then he keeps scooting forward too. then I look back and can see that he's revving his engine. when we turn onto the street he speeds past me (speed limits 45) i was going about 40. he then slows down, gets in my lane and almost completely stops then hits it and black smokes me simultaneously flipping me off and trying to get me to get in the lane next to him. I refuse and continue to drive 20 MPH under the speed limit behind him. I can tell he's going to continue this so before we get to the exit for the interstate where I need to go, I cut across two lanes and take a frontage road to try and get away. thought I was in the clear till about 3 minutes later when i see some familiar headlights flying down the road towards me. goes past me, cuts me off then completely stops. and at this point I can see the stickers in his back window so I know it was this girl's new boyfriend. Since he stopped so did I, but it looked like he was trying to get out and confront me so I floored it around him. once we get to the turn I need to be at he gets in to a "straight only" lane next to us. neither of us looked over at the truck, but I'm assuming they were flipping us off. but we turned and went our way and I look in my rearview and can see them flipping around in a parking lot to follow us but then I turned onto my girlfriends residential street and I didn't see them again.

In all honesty, I don't feel safe. I'm not the biggest guy, but I can defend myself. however, I don't really want to. I know it's a long read, but what do you think I should do? It's getting out of hand.

On another note, when I got back into town there were 9 cops in a small area, and one of them happened to be following a certain red truck. I'm thinking someone might have called in? I've never seen that many cops in one spot before, let alone just patrolling at 12:30 in the morning!

[seasick]

I'd go file a complaint at the police department and put it on paper, so that if they try to pull something fast on you, you have a papertrail on these psychos. Honestly, she just wants your attention. That's what women are about. Everything you say, text back, etc, it's all attention. If you ignore her, she'll get furious, and in time she will stop. If they do this on the road, call the cops, and wait for them to show up. That's obstructing a passage, illegal, and endangers your life consequently. I live in a small town with crooked law enforcement. I know how this will end up.

Don't ever ever ever approach a vehicle or a window. Many people carry these days and it's how people get hurt. Many C5 people will disagree with me on this, but if the guy gets intimidates you in public, beat the **** out of him. I dealt with stuff like this in my youth, and honestly, those guys are washed up losers now however, I wish I would taken them to the ground once or twice.

[helmincamaro]

Originally Posted by seasick

I'd go file a complaint at the police department and put it on paper, so that if they try to pull something fast on you, you have a papertrail on these psychos. Honestly, she just wants your attention. That's what women are about. Everything you say, text back, etc, it's all attention. If you ignore her, she'll get furious, and in time she will stop. If they do this on the road, call the cops, and wait for them to show up. That's obstructing a passage, illegal, and endangers your life consequently. I live in a small town with crooked law enforcement. I know how this will end up.

Don't ever ever ever approach a vehicle or a window. Many people carry these days and it's how people get hurt. Many C5 people will disagree with me on this, but if the guy gets intimidates you in public, beat the **** out of him. I dealt with stuff like this in my youth, and honestly, those guys are washed up losers now however, I wish I would taken them to the ground once or twice.

yeah, most people who are psychos like that, you never know what they're going to do. A lot of people do carry.... just because they might not be old enough to do so legally doesn't mean they don't have anything on them. Especially don't go up to them if they're in a car or a building.... you never know what they've got hidden from you!

[seasick]

Originally Posted by helmincamaro

yeah, most people who are psychos like that, you never know what they're going to do. A lot of people do carry.... just because they might not be old enough to do so legally doesn't mean they don't have anything on them. Especially don't go up to them if they're in a car or a building.... you never know what they've got hidden from you!

I really don't want to add to the fear and make the situation seem worse. This is WHY I carry. I also have a collapsable baton in the Camaro to break bones if I get accosted by hillbillies like the above. The older I get, the more I realize how serious threats can be. (Especially in this crazy world we live in.) Y'know, the cops showing up to talk to the chick and the boyfriend & their folks would probably be enough to scare them straight.

I had some jerks do this to me when I was in high school, and I tried to just let it go, and they busted out my back windshield. $400 of hard-earned money as a teen man! I regret not getting them taken care of.

[helmincamaro]

Originally Posted by seasick

I really don't want to add to the fear and make the situation seem worse. This is WHY I carry. I also have a collapsable baton in the Camaro to break bones if I get accosted by hillbillies like the above. The older I get, the more I realize how serious threats can be. (Especially in this crazy world we live in.) Y'know, the cops showing up to talk to the chick and the boyfriend & their folks would probably be enough to scare them straight.

I had some jerks do this to me when I was in high school, and I tried to just let it go, and they busted out my back windshield. $400 of hard-earned money as a teen man! I regret not getting them taken care of.

yeah, I sent him a PM..... had some stuff happen, not going to post it here.... same general idea.... you try to avoid conflict.... but sometimes there's just times when you can't.

[CAPT D]

I wouldnt worry about, it if your worried he was going to do something to you he would have done it already. I think getting a restraining order is a little out of hand. If your going to get one for someone giving you the finger and driving like a ass around you IMO thats seems a little extreme. The kids just trying to show off thats all.

[TRC-SS]

Basically you can file a harrasment order on both your ex and her current boyfriend but you will not qualify for a restraining order, especially with her new boyfriend. There are certain elements that must be met in order to grant a restraining order. 1, dating relationship. 2. Live together. 3. Kids together. 4. Related by blood or marrage. If you dont fit into one of these categories your luck of getting a restraining order is slim to none. But you could get one on the Ex, but 9 times out of 10 a restraining order is issued due to physical harm or in fear of his or her life by this person. A Harassment order all you need is 3 or more acts of harassment, phone calls, stalking, threatening ect. This you could file through the court. But my suggestion is just document each encounter with your local police department because restraining orders and harrasment orders go on your record and for "good jobs" down the road they can see that in a background check and will most likely ask you about it.

Hope this helps. Ive been in Law enforcement now for 10 years and have seen just about every scenario, Just ignore him and her and keep your distance until things blow over

[Reaper1a]

Originally Posted by TRC-SS

Basically you can file a harrasment order on both your ex and her current boyfriend but you will not qualify for a restraining order, especially with her new boyfriend. There are certain elements that must be met in order to grant a restraining order. 1, dating relationship. 2. Live together. 3. Kids together. 4. Related by blood or marrage. If you dont fit into one of these categories your luck of getting a restraining order is slim to none. But you could get one on the Ex, but 9 times out of 10 a restraining order is issued due to physical harm or in fear of his or her life by this person. A Harassment order all you need is 3 or more acts of harassment, phone calls, stalking, threatening ect. This you could file through the court. But my suggestion is just document each encounter with your local police department because restraining orders and harrasment orders go on your record and for "good jobs" down the road they can see that in a background check and will most likely ask you about it.

Hope this helps. Ive been in Law enforcement now for 10 years and have seen just about every scenario, Just ignore him and her and keep your distance until things blow over

This is pretty much exactly what I was going to say....don't feel like you have to handle anything yourself. If they want to act out this way, call your locals to come handle it. If, as stated above, you have a sub-standard department, call the county or state to come help. It's their job to handle them, not yours.

[TOMS1SS]

Sit down with an officer and find out what can be, sounds like you might have enough to get the restraining order. I'd seriously start packing at this point, I always did given the nature of my job. I was followed by a truck just like you described after I fired some guy for stealing cash about 3 years ago. In my case I knew my neighborhood better than my pursuers did and I was able to lose them in an alley where they couldn't follow my Mustang. I followed up with the police but boy was I glad that had gun that day...

[mylilcutie3]

You definitely need to let the authorities know. And document/save any convos that you can of her texts, emails, etc. If she threatened you, it's enough to get a restraining order. It doesn't matter whether they "might" do it or not, you don't want to wait til it's too late.

[HufferSS]

I think you both must be a little nutty for this to still be going on.

I don't miss the drama of youth...I can tell you that.

[insidethreat07]

Def report it to the cops to start a paper trail going, I had a similiar situation with my ex girlfriends now bofriend. I always kept an equalizer in the back seat, just for peace of mind, i.e. metal baseball bat. Never used it just had it there if things got ugly. Just ignore them and move on, eventually they will stop. I would report each incident to the police that way you have proof of what all happened and when. Im only 23 and feel that there are a lot of immature people in the world period. Just smile and move on, and think that the guy she is with now is gonna have to put up with the same sh!t from physco woman just like you are when they split up.
For future reference... Don't date physco women lol

[bossbunny]

WOW. What a crazy person. I would definately file something with the police and ask what steps can be taken. Other than that I would just ignore her, completely. Don't text back or answer or anything. She is trying to get a reaction out of you...

[MrandMrsNinja]

If the kid is bigger than you, then take a bat and put it in the floorboard of your back seat. If the kid comes near you the the first swing goes at his knee and second at the elbow. Don't take more then 2 though. If the cops ask the you felt threatened and dealt with the problem. Just my .02..but the again I'm always the first to jump in to fight with someone