Please Read!! Need your advice!! Why Relationships SUCK!!

[PQ]

Originally Posted by Eddy9

Hey Bro,
What's up Brother?
So you need some advice on women, I can write a book on it. I'll try to make a long story short. I dated the same girl all through high school and college. We dated 8 years then got married. After being married 7 years, she started cheating on me. I had no idea because she was always faithful to me. I've been divorced now for six years and just date women without getting serious. My last girlfriend broke my heart!!!
I'm just trying to say if you can't trust her now, you never will. I learned not to trust any girl.
Hope this helped you! Let's meet up when you get your Baby! Sound cool??
Hang in there Buddy!
Let's ROLL!!!!!
Eddie
P.S. By the way, what bar does your Dad own?

terrible advice dude. Boooo. He doesn't need the cry me a river all girls are evil bit. I'm figuring you're over 30. And you still sound like Goerge Micheal when he was Wham. Come on. This guy needs good advice.

Find a good woman who treats you well, trust her and reciprocate the loyalty and you'll be fine. You can't make someone into something their not. If you get burned, so be it. Usually you will sense something is wrong. If you're a jealous guy at heart them you will have to learn to not be or you're screwed. Most of the time it's jealousy that drives the other away anyway.

A woman wants to be treated well, and be trusted. Let her do what she wants and after that, if she doesn't live up to promises then move on. It's not rocket science.

[CynAgain]

Originally Posted by irpq11

terrible advice dude. Boooo. He doesn't need the cry me a river all girls are evil bit. I'm figuring you're over 30. And you still sound like Goerge Micheal when he was Wham. Come on. This guy needs good advice.

Find a good woman who treats you well, trust her and reciprocate the loyalty and you'll be fine. You can't make someone into something their not. If you get burned, so be it. Usually you will sense something is wrong. If you're a jealous guy at heart them you will have to learn to not be or you're screwed. Most of the time it's jealousy that drives the other away anyway.

A woman wants to be treated well, and be trusted. Let her do what she wants and after that, if she doesn't live up to promises then move on. It's not rocket science.

More good advice

[GatorBlue371]

I had one of these for a while... crazy about the girl... couldnt trust her.



Dragged out over 2 years.



what a waste.



Trust is everything.

[Firecapt10]

Let me see if I understand this correctly....

1. Trust issues..
2. Lies..
3. Alcohol..

I believe the next two go something like this...

4. Some form of abuse..
5. Some form of legal action..

Any or all of these may be done by one or both of you. My opinion, you need to move on before steps 4 and 5 are reached. Education is expensive and you have just been schooled.

[Camaro68]

Originally Posted by irpq11

Read the first paragraph. That's all I needed to read.

The minute I don't trust my wife, is the minute before I divorce her. Jealousy is stupid and not worth living with. My advice? Move on. Get rid of her. I would let my wife go away with freinds for the weekend. If you can't handle it, it isn't going to work. If she can't handle it, it isn't going to work. This is petty. And embarrasing. I'm not just talking about one way. If either of you are jealous, it's not going to work. Of it's her, find someone else. If it's you. Find someone else because either she's premiscuous or you can't handle it.

That is all.

[Xanthos]

Unfortunately I'm going to have to agree with the others around here. The trust issue is going to be huge and will 98% likely tear you apart. My ex-fiance cheated on my about a year before we split, and even though I forgave her for it things were never the same after. The fire had just... gone.
- Xanthos

[Matrix]

You CANNOT TOTALLY Love someone if you CANNOT TOTALLY TRUST them. There are clear warning signs in this relationship, but I do feel for you because you seem like the sort that would like to work this out and for that I give you respect.

It seems your gf has a lot to get out of her system, and I, like you, also feel, going to a bar without you is NOT conducive to a healthy relationship, especially when trust issues are involved.

Maybe you just have to wise up that your gf doesnt need or isnt ready for a final relationship.

I think some discussions are in order, in order to proceed with the same goals.

If you dont have the same goals, well you are doomed and its better to bail than to steer someone that isnt planning on going your direction with you.

Good luck!

[Mindz]

Short and simple answer, because for me, trust is everything in a relationship.

If you have to lie to her and she lies to you, it's nothing more than friends+.

Leave her and find someone who you feel you can trust.

[SScattergunSS]

From everything I've read that you've said, I think it's time for you to walk away. Life is too short, and you don't need the extra stress this relationship is bringing you.

So...my prescription for you is to get your new Camaro and spend your time with it! If you need a new friend you can trust completely, get a cool dog!!! When it's time for a new woman in you life, you'll know it. But remember, hungry people make the worst shoppers!!! And if you want a gal you can really communicate, share, and grow with in order to make the relationship a lasting one, the two of you genuinely have to be friends, or it's doomed to fail.

One last thing I'll share was something my grandma told me a long long time ago, "If you meet a girl in a bar, you're going to lose her in a bar."

[PQ]

Originally Posted by SScattergunSS

From everything I've read that you've said, I think it's time for you to walk away. Life is too short, and you don't need the extra stress this relationship is bringing you.

So...my prescription for you is to get your new Camaro and spend your time with it! If you need a new friend you can trust completely, get a cool dog!!! When it's time for a new woman in you life, you'll know it. But remember, hungry people make the worst shoppers!!! And if you want a gal you can really communicate, share, and grow with in order to make the relationship a lasting one, the two of you genuinely have to be friends, or it's doomed to fail.

One last thing I'll share was something my grandma told me a long long time ago, "If you meet a girl in a bar, you're going to lose her in a bar."

A Camaro won't lie to you!

"hungry people make the worst shoppers" Perfect. Doesn't mean stop looking, just don't try to see something that's not there.

[theholycow]

Lots of good advice in this thread. Listen to what they're telling you, guy.

Originally Posted by 5th_GEN_SS

well i thnk we have been better but she just doesnt seem to care some times, doesnt care what i thnk or how i feel before she does something. i really like her but i dont no how much more i can take of this.. i didnt thnk it was so much to ask for..

She doesn't care. You've observed it. Love, the emotion, isn't worth much. Love, the action, is everything. She uses the words, and maybe she feels the emotion, but she does not do the actions.

You too. You almost certainly aren't giving her what she needs.

You're both broken with the trust problem. Even if it was reasonable to control her actions so she can't go to the bar (and it's not particularly reasonable for her to choose to go without you, though equally unreasonable for you to decide for her), a special event with a group of friends is the exception.

You worry that you might lose her there. Do you intend to control her actions forever, so that you will never lose her? That is impossible. If she can't control herself, then she will not be faithful. The worst will happen sometime down the road, even if you keep a tight grip now. No amount of preventing her from going to the bar is going to prevent her from cheating on you. Only she can prevent her from cheating on you.

Walk away. Try again with someone else. You don't need her, and she doesn't need you.

[PQ]

Originally Posted by theholycow

Lots of good advice in this thread. Listen to what they're telling you, guy.



She doesn't care. You've observed it. Love, the emotion, isn't worth much. Love, the action, is everything. She uses the words, and maybe she feels the emotion, but she does not do the actions.

You too. You almost certainly aren't giving her what she needs.

You're both broken with the trust problem. Even if it was reasonable to control her actions so she can't go to the bar (and it's not particularly reasonable for her to choose to go without you, though equally unreasonable for you to decide for her), a special event with a group of friends is the exception.

You worry that you might lose her there. Do you intend to control her actions forever, so that you will never lose her? That is impossible. If she can't control herself, then she will not be faithful. The worst will happen sometime down the road, even if you keep a tight grip now. No amount of preventing her from going to the bar is going to prevent her from cheating on you. Only she can prevent her from cheating on you.

Walk away. Try again with someone else. You don't need her, and she doesn't need you.

[SScattergunSS]

Originally Posted by irpq11

A Camaro won't lie to you!

"hungry people make the worst shoppers" Perfect. Doesn't mean stop looking, just don't try to see something that's not there.

Very good explanation!

[Banshee]

Originally Posted by 5th_GEN_SS

So to begin with my gf and I have trust issues.

My opinion after reading this, after 60 girlfriends, and pretty much been through all you have described..

Run for the EXIT door, stage left and move on.

If you have to question yourself, this is usually a good sign that one or both of you have unresolved issues that need attending.