sorry for the relationship vent here (flame suit on)NFSW language

[lil_red_v6]

so i have been going threw a rough time in my life right now.
me and my "girlfriend" are/were goin threw a hard time, it started gettin shady a few months back because i lost my job and didnt find shit for 2 months, thx for the lay off. i was workin at a dealership 3 months ago for well 90 days, after my 90 days i got layed off because we lost business. yea i know lucky me, i told her i would get another job fast hoping a few days and bam, well that didnt happen it was a few MONTHS till i got another job, she was bitchin and started a huge fight about it because she found one quick and she didnt want to support me with out no job. thats understandable but i was layed off and yes i have bad job history so it took a little longer. her birthday was coming up and things looked to be getting better, i got her a dozen roses and a card. we didnt do anything but spend time at home cuz she worked on her birthday. she loved the card and love the flowers, well fast forward 2 months to today, we got into it real bad huge fight out side, not smart for neighbors to watch for one. i told her how bad i was hurting on the inside i was tired of the anxiety and depression and i wanted it to go away so it was we stay together or split no more of this im emotionally confused bs she kept sayin she was. (god i F@#$ing hate that s4!t). i saw the roses in the vase she was tellin me something and it set me off so fing bad i threw them and broke the vase and flowers and s4!t went every where. she got in her car and sped off i couldnt drive i was so pissed so i was walkin to my buddys then she txted me sayin i hope you are happy now. i called her and said f*** no im not im torn up on the inside, she said well that hurt me when you did that infront of me. i said well u pissed me off really bad. i said im tired of being hurt and we need to fix things here.
and i hung up on her i was walking threw a town i have warrants in. (not giving the name). and she txted me asking if i was ok i said no im not and i really dont want to walk in the town im walkin in she said please be careful and dont do anything stupid i said why what does it matter she told me that she knows im mad. she tends to care at times now and im confused. she picked me up earler and brought me home and she was cryin on the way home because of today.


guys and gals i feel like the worlds biggiest ASSHOLE. she wants to work things out, what can i do to show her i really do care BUT im tired of the bs also. iv dated for a while but this is the only girl i have EVER fell in love with.


RANT OVER/

[Stovall-SS]

e Join the Military say goodbye to anyone and everyone that loves you!



But you may not want to take my advice, im not the best advice giver...

[98_Camaro]

Hey, man. People go through rough patches, and even rougher ones when the economy is as bad as it is.
What's important is that you two try to work your way through this. What's been said has been said and there's no changing that, but what you can do is try to make amends. You guys have hit rock bottom, if not dangerously close, so there's really nowhere else to go but up. If you truly love her, then you'll fight to keep her.
I really hope you guys can work this out.

[pugandbull]

I'm so sorry to see read about the difficult time in your life right now. I know how very hard it is to make decisions on how to go about being happy and in control of your life. In the end, do what's best for you - something you think you can live with. Please take care.

[v6sonoma]

Ask her what needs to be changed. If what she asks is doable and you love her do it. If not call a friend or family member that will let you stay with them till you can get your own place and move on. Good Luck.

[ketel0ne]

Sometimes you have to fix you, before you can fix the us. IMO there are other pressures in your life that make a relationship very difficult to sustain.

[CamaroSkooter]

Get the warrants sorted out. Nothing good can come of that. And you need to cool down. If something's bothering you, tell her, but do it in a more civil manner. Getting pissed off and throwing things never solves anything. I would recommend anger management classes.

Communication is one of the keys to any solid relationship. Bottling stuff up doesn't help. She won't fix what she doesn't know is wrong. On the flip side of that, she needs to know she can tell you anything without the fear of you exploding.

[Stovall-SS]

Originally Posted by CamaroSkooter

I would recommend anger management classes.

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, & still didnt work! Sounds like it time to serve your Country brother! :flag2:


Just think you get free food, housing, & clothes! & you get to learn how to kill someone with a spoon!! You cant possibley tell me you dont want to learn that now!!

I say join the Marine Corps! Because after being in the Marines, there aint nothing thats to hard to handle! Expect for bills, kids, & being married!! So marry her and join the Marines!

WWW.MARINES.COM

[Moose]

COMMUNICATE.

Work to resolve your employment issue, and include her in your efforts to turn things around. Let her see the effort. You've got to stop relecting on the past, re; your previous employment situations, and make an effort/goal each day to reach, and then reach it.

You seem to be pretty upset with yourself over your past. I know you've heard this before, but you can't give your love to someone else until you're OK with wo YOU are. Stop beating yourself up over the past, and work on your future.

Get the work situation squared away. Set a time frame for finding new employment, and reach it. Get the warrant issue resolved. Communicate with your girlfriend. Let your actions show her how important she is and how important it is to you to turn things around so that you can have a future together.

Joing the service is a drastic change, and unless its something you've thought about for a long time, I wouldn't advise it. Start with making goals, and take the steps necessary to reach them.

If you're open with your girlfriend, communicating with her, and she see's the effort, hopefully her confusion/apprehension will go away. It may not, there are no guarantees. But at least you'll be on the path to feeling better about yourself and be in a better situation.

Good luck

[Stovall-SS]

Originally Posted by Moose

COMMUNICATE.

Work to resolve your employment issue, and include her in your efforts to turn things around. Let her see the effort. You've got to stop relecting on the past, re; your previous employment situations, and make an effort/goal each day to reach, and then reach it.

You seem to be pretty upset with yourself over your past. I know you've heard this before, but you can't give your love to someone else until you're OK with wo YOU are. Stop beating yourself up over the past, and work on your future.

Get the work situation squared away. Set a time frame for finding new employment, and reach it. Get the warrant issue resolved. Communicate with your girlfriend. Let your actions show her how important she is and how important it is to you to turn things around so that you can have a future together.

Joing the service is a drastic change, and unless its something you've thought about for a long time, I wouldn't advise it. Start with making goals, and take the steps necessary to reach them.

If you're open with your girlfriend, communicating with her, and she see's the effort, hopefully her confusion/apprehension will go away. It may not, there are no guarantees. But at least you'll be on the path to feeling better about yourself and be in a better situation.

Good luck

WOW where in the hell were you when I was 18??? You could of talked me outa being in the Marines, and getting married!!

[2001ragtop]

1) If you do not have kids, you should focus just on yourself and not be worried about women. Women can be easily replaced, and should not be your number one priority.

2) You're number one priority is taking care of yourself. Focus on your job, and your income. Focus on changing careers if needed. Don't feel sorry for yourself. You live in the USA. There are hoards of opportunities. If i lost my job, i would deliver pizza or become a school teacher, or do both at the same time.

3) Don't base your success on women, or whatever anyone else is doing. You don't need to get approval from other people. The girl you are speaking of will come back to you AFTER you completely get your life organized. You can't FORCE anyone to love you or feel sorry for you. Just do whatever it takes to get your life fixed even if you work at Walmart. That is higher class than being homeless.

4) Women (typically) CANNOT STAND situations where there is no stability. That's just how they are. They gravitate to guys who have stable lives.

5) Find a plan that will fix your situation financially and keep you from getting arrested. Both of these situations are very unattractive and no one likes to be around someone who behaves as if they do not care about themselves. You can completely reverse everything you talked about if you remain focused. If needed MOVE AWAY to a city that has more jobs.

6) It is okay to get angry and frustrated. Channel this energy towards getting everything fixed even if it means staying far away from every person you have ever met. You are the solution. Not them.

Peace Out

[Moose]

Originally Posted by Stovall-SS

WOW where in the hell were you when I was 18??? You could of talked me outa being in the Marines, and getting married!!

Oh, I think marriage is a great thing....I wasn't trying to talk anyone out of that!

By the way, thank you for your service! :flag2:

[Bonnie]

Originally Posted by 2001ragtop

1) If you do not have kids, you should focus just on yourself and not be worried about women. Women can be easily replaced, and should not be your number one priority.

2) You're number one priority is taking care of yourself. Focus on your job, and your income. Focus on changing careers if needed. Don't feel sorry for yourself. You live in the USA. There are hoards of opportunities. If i lost my job, i would deliver pizza or become a school teacher, or do both at the same time.

3) Don't base your success on women, or whatever anyone else is doing. You don't need to get approval from other people. The girl you are speaking of will come back to you AFTER you completely get your life organized. You can't FORCE anyone to love you or feel sorry for you. Just do whatever it takes to get your life fixed even if you work at Walmart. That is higher class than being homeless.

4) Women (typically) CANNOT STAND situations where there is no stability. That's just how they are. They gravitate to guys who have stable lives.

5) Find a plan that will fix your situation financially and keep you from getting arrested. Both of these situations are very unattractive and no one likes to be around someone who behaves as if they do not care about themselves. You can completely reverse everything you talked about if you remain focused. If needed MOVE AWAY to a city that has more jobs.

6) It is okay to get angry and frustrated. Channel this energy towards getting everything fixed even if it means staying far away from every person you have ever met. You are the solution. Not them.

Peace Out

This is great advise! and If its meant to be she will find her way back!!

[Stovall-SS]

Originally Posted by Moose

Oh, I think marriage is a great thing....I wasn't trying to talk anyone out of that!

By the way, thank you for your service! :flag2:

O dont get me wrong I love my wife, and marriage is a great thing, long as shes not spending all the money in our savings account that is.....