Dating question

[2ndgenz28]

Originally Posted by bigted83

Yes I am pissed about her taking me for a ride, other people has told me the exact same thing u guys have. I was just two hard headed to listen. I was never like this till she left me for that guy and then her cheating on him to be with me.

Its called having your cake and eating it too
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Not to hijack or change the subject but just in case, anyone ever date a little person, being a tall person???

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by Wilburbeest

Ok....I'm gonna take a shot at it....I THINK what he's saying is that this chick is just using him when she doesn't have somebody else to go too. Soooooo maybe what was meant is.

Don't be the dude in the glass box with "In case of emergency, break glass" printed across the front.

Just a theory

to the Jedi Master.....
Sounds good! LOL!!!

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by RubyCamaro

Ever heard of Co-dependency? Comes from dysfunctional relationships. Take it from a therapist (past 25 years). You are headed there if you have not arrived. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Stop letting this one mess with your self esteem & happiness & go fishing. Better yet, just do stuff that makes YOU happy. When you do, you will likely find your perfect match just hanging around stuff you like. You seem to listen to good advice on here then find excuses not to take it. Go out & make yourself happy.

I did not have this advice when I left my husband - he was awful to me and ruined my sense of self -- I figured all of this out on my own by learning to appreciate myself and doing things that made ME happy - not things that made HIM happy.....and now I am awesome LOL!!

And a Camaro = LOVE.....I know...I couldn't be more in then I am with my car....(laugh all you want, she doesn't talk back or treat me like crap )
Baby-ing my car an enjoying things on my own has paid off big time -- it might take years for you to find that special someone - but don't rush it...life will let you knwo when the time is right.

[bigted83]

Thx so much everybody

[MSG']

prostock69 and Mindz had the best advice for you on the first page

[bigted83]

Thanx everybody, you was right the slut was playing me. Hope she catches something

[RubyCamaro]

Glad you finally caught a clue. Time to go fishing!!!!

[CaniacFan]

Originally Posted by RubyCamaro

Glad you finally caught a clue. Time to go fishing!!!!

Like she said... Time to move and and put this part of your life in your past - and don't look back..

[bigted83]

I may just stay to myself for awhile or for good idk yet. I'm gonna take it day by day

[bigted83]

I'm hurting bigtime now and lonely as hell

[2001ragtop]

Originally Posted by bigted83

....But then if I didn't mean anything to her she wouldn't talk to me or hang out with me? Is she playing me?....

you are someone she dates, but will drop you in a heartbeat if someone better pops up.

Follow this rule of thumb: If you are looking for something serious, ONLY date girls who kiss your ass and act like the worship the ground you walk on. If they don't, find another girl.

The girl you talked about sounds like a F--- buddy. Which if that is what she is, you should keep her in that category, and take full advantage of that to the extreme limits being that you already know she does not love you.

You might consider reverse-psychology. The more you ACT like you DON'T love her, you may be able to make her fall for you. ANYTHING EASY is not attractive. If you are acting like a lap dog, you are bringing the problems onto yourself. But like I already said, you shouldn't have to do any extra work to be loved.

You can't make someone love you. just find someone who already does. don't let some girl drive you insane. that's a sign of weakness.

there are stacks and stacks and stacks of desperate women who no one wants/or they just need some attention. Surely you can meet someone else besides this girl you are letting bother you.

be Prince charming to someone who DESERVES IT. not someone who doesn't.

Just replace that girl you like with a better model and you will forget about her immediately. Trust me on this.

[2ndgenz28]

The other problem could be you tell this girl how you feel, some don't like that, they don't want a guy to say I love you, they just want to be with you and have fun, and not until they are ready to say it, should you even consider it, id still then pull back n hold off till she begs to hear it, if she is like that.

[Iwantone2]

Originally Posted by 2ndgenz28

The other problem could be you tell this girl how you feel, some don't like that, they don't want a guy to say I love you, they just want to be with you and have fun, and not until they are ready to say it, should you even consider it, id still then pull back n hold off till she begs to hear it, if she is like that.

Yep, I couldn't tell a girl "those words" just to keep her around or only because she wants to hear 'em. The time has to be right and the feelings have to be genuine. Too many people throw out words that they wish they never said, (good or bad) and that's when things start going down the drain.

bigted...what's going on dude? Did you go out and talk to people like we told you to?

[brandotron]

Originally Posted by bigted83

I'm hurting bigtime now and lonely as hell

Ride it out. It comes in waves.