Someone Read And Respond Quick! Just Had A Bomb Dropped On Me - Page 3

WadeWilson · 05-07-2010, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by el ess X

Well, I would never tell you to put it in God's hands because I don't believe in God. You need to take things into YOUR hands. YOU make your destiny. No one else.

Some sage advice has been given here. Probably the best yet is the consensus of be cautious, be there to support her emotionally as a FRIEND, but be VERY careful of letting your emotions run away with you and you do something you may regret later. I agree it really sounds like YOU are Plan B to her, so you need to make sure you have an exit strategy of your own should things not pan out the way you hope. Think with the big head. You have some hard decisions ahead of you, and this isn't one I'd casually make.

If she's going to say YES to a marriage proposal and it isn't you, then you should take that as a heavy weighing factor in your relationship with her. If she can go from breaking up with you, wanting to marry this guy, and then second-guessing her own commitment within 5 months or so, what makes you think she'll stay committed to anyone for any real length of time? Even you? While noble, just because this guy doesn't dote over her kid like you do doesn't mean he couldn't be a great step-father. To me, that's a non-starter. If he's got the 'nads to ask her to marry him, then he's (hopefully) already taken all that stuff into account.

I think you're just afraid of "losing her". Don't be. Remember, if you love it, let it go....I'd walk tentatively around this WHOLE thing. At this point in your life, there's other fish in the sea, dude, other fish in the sea.

Best of luck to y'all.

Well said

dmiller66 · 05-07-2010, 10:03 PM

Stick with the Camaro... it's cheaper and more dependable in the long run. Plus it will have a better resale value.

TFord · 05-07-2010, 10:32 PM

tell her not to get married to the guy, if she even has to question it then the answer should be no! you get your self into the situation that you want to be in before considering getting married. Life your life, learn what you want in a partner. Life is too short to rush into anything. Not saying she's not the one, just saying live your life a bit. Im 26 got married at 22 with 2 kids now. In my 26 years I've experienced more than most twice my age...all not good. Its obvious that you care for her, so continue to be the friend that you have been. But in my humble opinion don't get married until you've attained some of your life goals. College grad, began your career etc. Date have fun be 21 its the only way to know what you want in a wife, you'll know who she is when the time comes...then consider marrage.

05-07-2010, 10:03 PM	#30
dmiller66 Tampa Gulf Coast Family Drives: '13 2SS/RS, Blue Ray Metallic, Auto Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Plantation, FL Posts: 227	Stick with the Camaro... it's cheaper and more dependable in the long run. Plus it will have a better resale value.

05-07-2010, 10:32 PM	#31
TFord Camaro Fanatic Drives: 2000 Z28 Join Date: May 2007 Location: Auburn, WA Posts: 1,808 View My Garage	tell her not to get married to the guy, if she even has to question it then the answer should be no! you get your self into the situation that you want to be in before considering getting married. Life your life, learn what you want in a partner. Life is too short to rush into anything. Not saying she's not the one, just saying live your life a bit. Im 26 got married at 22 with 2 kids now. In my 26 years I've experienced more than most twice my age...all not good. Its obvious that you care for her, so continue to be the friend that you have been. But in my humble opinion don't get married until you've attained some of your life goals. College grad, began your career etc. Date have fun be 21 its the only way to know what you want in a wife, you'll know who she is when the time comes...then consider marrage.