Age Gap - And -When to draw the line. - Page 6

Switchin2Chevy · 03-23-2010, 01:05 PM

In my opinion, I think the gap is way too wide. The young lady hasn't even had a chance to "grow in to her own skin" yet. I have a younger sister who is 15. Let's say she was 16 and she was seeing a guy or "in a relationship", with a guy that's 25. I'd go a little nuts. Whether or not the relationship is physicaly or not, the mindset for both parties involved is on two completely different levels. Now, if they are going to remain together then like others have mentioned, they have to grow togther. Each year will present a new challenge. As the young lady gets older, her ideas about love and relationships may change, she also may not like the feeling of being tied down at such a young age, and what will happen when she turns 21!? The guy may feel the same way. You never know. BUT....if they are happy, and the guy isn't breaking any laws, parents on both sides approve, let them have at it. But again, thats just my opinion and I'm sure others have echoed this same though...

Xmicro_SS · 03-23-2010, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by 2000v6

Have you thought about this? Maybe you're the exception to the rule? Maybe you are the only two that have and will ever do it successfully?

Honestly... great for you. But I doubt any normal 25 year old would be going out with a 16 year old.

As I said on an earlier post. I was 28 and my wife was 18 when we got together and married later that year. Here we are going on 40 and 30 and still going strong. Not without the usual marriage issues, but none age related!

16 and anything over 18 to me is a no, but 18 and older is situational and person dependent. It depends on all parties involved. There is no formula. And if the guy is respectful of the girl and gives her room to grow it works.

I would rather my 18 year old daughter with a 28 year old mature man that treats her right, than some psycho kid her own age that is possessive and dominant over her and never let's her breathe. Or an irresponsible boy of 18 that is stupid enough to get her pregnant, and sneaks around with her.

It is situational and person dependent.

305pride · 03-23-2010, 07:36 PM

jail bait for the lose. im 21 and i dont even like messing with girls who are 16... no thanx. i know some cool 16 year olds at my job tho.

PQ · 03-23-2010, 08:22 PM

I think the key here is the 16 to 19 age curve.

As DandDC09, (or wife) said, it is not an easy thing to develope with an age difference. It takes patience and a real desire. And even then, the odds are against you. That being said, that patience and desire ain't happening with a 16 yo. and the odds are even worse.

Prayers to you and your husband. I hope it all works out for you guys.

Asylum · 03-24-2010, 09:09 AM

So, I met the guy described above....
and the girl...

All I can say is..

*DGthe3* · 03-24-2010, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Asylum

So, I met the guy described above....
and the girl...

All I can say is..

both are less mature than they think they are?

tradosaurus · 03-24-2010, 09:14 AM

I have four daughters that I will try to marry off at 18 if possible.

But I will only marry them off to men between 25 and 30 since by then you know what you got.

As I told my daughters if you dress like a whore you attract pimps.

If you dress like a princess you attract princes.

Most women and girls dress like the former and get what they deserve.

2001ragtop · 03-24-2010, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Xmicro_SS

...I would rather my 18 year old daughter with a 28 year old mature man that treats her right, than some psycho kid her own age that is possessive and dominant over her and never let's her breathe. Or an irresponsible boy of 18 that is stupid enough to get her pregnant, and sneaks around with her....

IF a women CRAVES A more mature guy, it shouldn't surprise anyone that she has to find some guy who is age 30 or more. This allows her to bypass all the idiotic things most guys do during their 20's. (hypothetically) (and of course the girl should be at least 18 not less than that.)

DandDC09 · 03-24-2010, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Asylum

So, I met the guy described above....
and the girl...

All I can say is..

So.... was the 16 year old not exactly "mature" for her age? lol

And thank you PQ! Things are looking great, the chemo and radiation are just a preventative (but that doesn't make it any easier lol), the cancer was all removed successfully with the surgery in June.

duder4thgen · 03-24-2010, 03:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Asylum

So, I met the guy described above....
and the girl...

All I can say is..

Well whaddya expect from a pedophile and some teenage girl who obviously has no parents?

25 dating 16? Dude needs to suck on a shotgun.

Xmicro_SS · 03-24-2010, 11:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2001ragtop

IF a women CRAVES A more mature guy, it shouldn't surprise anyone that she has to find some guy who is age 30 or more. This allows her to bypass all the idiotic things most guys do during their 20's. (hypothetically) (and of course the girl should be at least 18 not less than that.)

Asylum · 03-24-2010, 11:35 PM

After meeting them both, I can honestly say I am shocked...

The 16 year old is truly wise beyond her years, looks, acts, talks, and interacts like a 30 year old.

The 25 year old is a straight shooter, dated girls across the bored, and when I spoke to him directly and asked..
"WTF?"

He said the following:
He was lied to when he met her
Few weeks had passed before he found out
Feelings formed, on both sides
She told him her real age
Friends told him she was older (her friends)
He said they are just good friends
He said to me shes cool, fun to talk to, same interested at the moment
No expectations on either side

I spoke to the girl and she said (about him)
Nothing sexual
Really good friends
Shes likes him - a lot.
She likes the zero drama, mature mentality of an older guy
She enjoys being around him
He makes her feel special, but not an object.

Then she said this and I quote:
"I was told the point of a relationship is to be happy, honest, content, and comfortable. I am all those things with him and I can honestly say I love being around him. Is that wrong for me to know what I want? Besides, why does everyone care so much about life. I think people should focus on their own lives... isn't that the more mature thing to do?"

w . t . f

Im stumped.

Asylum · 03-24-2010, 11:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by duder4thgen

Well whaddya expect from a pedophile and some teenage girl who obviously has no parents?

25 dating 16? Dude needs to suck on a shotgun.

Parents are still together, both sides.
+ I believe the purpose of this post was to 'discuss' the topic.

PQ · 03-24-2010, 11:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DandDC09

And thank you PQ! Things are looking great, the chemo and radiation are just a preventative (but that doesn't make it any easier lol), the cancer was all removed successfully with the surgery in June.

Awesome.

03-23-2010, 07:36 PM	#73
305pride Drives: 3.4l 1995 camaro Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: miami, fl Posts: 2,202	jail bait for the lose. im 21 and i dont even like messing with girls who are 16... no thanx. i know some cool 16 year olds at my job tho. __________________ just call me alex. they make anti-me PSA's cos im dope lmao

03-23-2010, 08:22 PM	#74
PQ Booooosted. Drives: 2010 Supercharged SS Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Mobile, AL Posts: 36,717 View My Garage	I think the key here is the 16 to 19 age curve. As DandDC09, (or wife) said, it is not an easy thing to develope with an age difference. It takes patience and a real desire. And even then, the odds are against you. That being said, that patience and desire ain't happening with a 16 yo. and the odds are even worse. Prayers to you and your husband. I hope it all works out for you guys. __________________

03-23-2010, 01:05 PM	#71
Switchin2Chevy Drives: Currently 2015 Mustang GT manual. Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Milton, FL Posts: 815	In my opinion, I think the gap is way too wide. The young lady hasn't even had a chance to "grow in to her own skin" yet. I have a younger sister who is 15. Let's say she was 16 and she was seeing a guy or "in a relationship", with a guy that's 25. I'd go a little nuts. Whether or not the relationship is physicaly or not, the mindset for both parties involved is on two completely different levels. Now, if they are going to remain together then like others have mentioned, they have to grow togther. Each year will present a new challenge. As the young lady gets older, her ideas about love and relationships may change, she also may not like the feeling of being tied down at such a young age, and what will happen when she turns 21!? The guy may feel the same way. You never know. BUT....if they are happy, and the guy isn't breaking any laws, parents on both sides approve, let them have at it. But again, thats just my opinion and I'm sure others have echoed this same though...

03-24-2010, 09:09 AM	#75
Asylum Account Suspended Drives: 2010 2SS RS Black on Black Manual 6 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Brampton Posts: 441	So, I met the guy described above.... and the girl... All I can say is..

03-24-2010, 09:14 AM	#77
tradosaurus Account Suspended Drives: 2010 F150 Lariat, Candy Red Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 1,279	I have four daughters that I will try to marry off at 18 if possible. But I will only marry them off to men between 25 and 30 since by then you know what you got. As I told my daughters if you dress like a whore you attract pimps. If you dress like a princess you attract princes. Most women and girls dress like the former and get what they deserve.

03-24-2010, 11:35 PM	#82
Asylum Account Suspended Drives: 2010 2SS RS Black on Black Manual 6 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Brampton Posts: 441	After meeting them both, I can honestly say I am shocked... The 16 year old is truly wise beyond her years, looks, acts, talks, and interacts like a 30 year old. The 25 year old is a straight shooter, dated girls across the bored, and when I spoke to him directly and asked.. "WTF?" He said the following: He was lied to when he met her Few weeks had passed before he found out Feelings formed, on both sides She told him her real age Friends told him she was older (her friends) He said they are just good friends He said to me shes cool, fun to talk to, same interested at the moment No expectations on either side I spoke to the girl and she said (about him) Nothing sexual Really good friends Shes likes him - a lot. She likes the zero drama, mature mentality of an older guy She enjoys being around him He makes her feel special, but not an object. Then she said this and I quote: "I was told the point of a relationship is to be happy, honest, content, and comfortable. I am all those things with him and I can honestly say I love being around him. Is that wrong for me to know what I want? Besides, why does everyone care so much about life. I think people should focus on their own lives... isn't that the more mature thing to do?" w . t . f Im stumped.