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Originally Posted by CrystalRedTintcoat
Yes. With an agreement on spending. We don't spend over $100 without first talking to the other person. I put together a track and car budget for the year and we check that relative to other spending. It took a while but now it's clear, for instance, that my computer spending is a small part of the outflow. Sitters, lawn care, house care and food is where we sync most of our income.
I used to do the lawn until I was "fired" for taking too long. See, being with the kids is more important to my wife than saving the cost of having a third party do the lawn care maintenance. Sure they would see me working and learn that's important but spending free time with them is even higher valued.
Net net ... Most couples fight over money and time.
Check out the book the Languages of Love or some s'it. Basically there are five ways people feel loved and two are predominate:
Time
Service
Touch
Words of affirmation
Gifts
My wife wants time and service. Cook dinner and be around equals points. Words and touch make me feel good but she could careless. Mother wants gifts and words to feel loved. My wife hates when I spend money on her or money in general. Hence the importance of the budget in OUR relationship. EVERYONE is DIFFERENT.
Anyway my overarching point is to talk about money with one another. I watch my parents keep it separate and it creates strife. But they don't talk about financial matters openly. Plus my mom mixes business money and personal money which is a whole other (mistake) issue for another forum ....
Peace, love and hair grease!
-CRT
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Oh , ok! Well my wife always talk about mad money so tho is why I ask. And did you read this book ? How did you discover this book? I'm asking because my wife tried to read this book to me. So I'm just wondering?