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Originally Posted by theholycow

Lots of good advice in this thread. Listen to what they're telling you, guy.



She doesn't care. You've observed it. Love, the emotion, isn't worth much. Love, the action, is everything. She uses the words, and maybe she feels the emotion, but she does not do the actions.

You too. You almost certainly aren't giving her what she needs.

You're both broken with the trust problem. Even if it was reasonable to control her actions so she can't go to the bar (and it's not particularly reasonable for her to choose to go without you, though equally unreasonable for you to decide for her), a special event with a group of friends is the exception.

You worry that you might lose her there. Do you intend to control her actions forever, so that you will never lose her? That is impossible. If she can't control herself, then she will not be faithful. The worst will happen sometime down the road, even if you keep a tight grip now. No amount of preventing her from going to the bar is going to prevent her from cheating on you. Only she can prevent her from cheating on you.

Walk away. Try again with someone else. You don't need her, and she doesn't need you.