08-26-2016, 10:59 AM | #1 |
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What would you do
I want to preface this with the fact that my brother in law is 40 and knows full well how much i love my car.
So i went to a family event at a church that had literally hundreds of parking spots only about a dozen of which were taken up, lots of parking spots up front. I parked my car way in the back where there were no cars and no reason for there to be any. I showed up early and my brother in law showed up late mainly because i show up everywhere early and he shows up everywhere late. Just to piss me off he parked his stupid 2016 Tahoe with 3 children under the age of 5 so close to my car... I had to leave the event a little early and when i showed up to my car i saw he had parked so close i needed to get in from the passenger side of my car. After getting in and starting to leave i started wondering how he was able to get so close to my car and still get the kids out of their boosters and baby seats without hitting my car...he couldn't. I got out to check the car and there was one ding mark a few hand prints and a butt marks on the car. Normally i would sit someone down and have a rational discussion with the person that did this thing, but not this 40 year old. He does dumb stuff like this quite often and i knew whatever i said to him he would just brush off. So my question to you is what would you have done if this was done to your car by someone in your family that you are not that big of a fan of? Not a hostile relationship, i just have zero respect for him. |
08-26-2016, 11:09 AM | #2 |
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Knowing he's an ass, and knowing he would probably do something like this... I would have either parked where or in a place he couldn't have parked next to me like that, or drove something else.
Now, since that was done... I would have probably done the same to his windshield... hand prints all over the drivers side making sure my hands were as sweaty as possible, perhaps... a ding for a ding would have crossed the line for me.
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08-26-2016, 11:13 AM | #3 |
You mentioned Church, so here is the biblical response and how I would approach it, "5 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector." Matthew 18:15-17
But also remember this, Matthew 18:21 "Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times." |
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Not much now except remind him of common courtesy
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Normally I'd never step foot in a church but my sister I love with all my heart was having her son baptized, so I went for her. |
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08-26-2016, 11:49 AM | #7 |
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In this instance, and especially with kids, I would let it go and get it fixed. I may mention to him what it cost to get a ding removed, but if it's like $50, is it really worth putting a wall up between the families over something like this. Not like he shot your dog or burnt your house down, it's a freakin' ding on a car. Not the end of the world. I understand you are not happy about it, frustrated about it, pissed about it, but it can be fixed and fixed pretty cheaply.
Now if he had borrowed your car and wrapped it around a tree, yeah, then it's an issue. Think long term, and family. Trust me, let it go, pick your battles and this is not a battle worth anything. |
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this was a big parking lot and created significantly more work for him and his wife having to lug their kids all the way from the back of the lot. |
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In my life DNA entitles u to no extra chances, in fact it entitles you to less. If a stranger or someone who didn't know how much I love my car did this, I'd give them a talking to and let it go. Knowing what my car means to me makes it that much worse in my eyes.
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Sounds like the idiot brother in law, we all have one in the family you're not alone
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I can preach this because I have seen this similar situation with my wife and her eight older sisters. Then the children pick up on it and have no idea why the family hates each other. No, DNA doesn't give a free pass, but you have to weigh the issues and what it means to you and the other family, and their children. It's a ding, not a dent that may/would require repairs and new paint. Just saying think about long term effects and how it could go bad quickly. |
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