Dating question

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by Iwantone2

At the expense of sounding cliché, you need to learn to respect and love yourself before anybody will do the same for you. If you are around somebody and all you are doing is talking negatively about yourself, then you are conditioning them to do the same towards you. You need to do the opposite: You need to be able to tell interesting things about yourself! And not just one interesting thing, LOTS of interesting things. If you only say one interesting thing, the other person will say, "Oh, that's interesting...". But, if you say several interesting things, the other person will say, "Wow, HE'S interesting..."

'tis true....'tis cliche as well but
I was married and I was miserable - long and short -- I didn't like me, I didn't think I was "worth" anything....and my ex treated me that way (now, who's to say who started it but...regardless, I felt worthless, he treated me like I was)...Since I've gotten out of that - I know I'm awesome (fck ya...I won't deny it!! LOL), I know I deserve better and I know what makes me happy -- and being anything other then ME does not make me happy....

And don't listen to the others - 27 is not old....30.....THAT is fcking OLD

[PoorMansCamaro]

Originally Posted by Tessa

'tis true....'tis cliche as well but
I was married and I was miserable - long and short -- I didn't like me, I didn't think I was "worth" anything....and my ex treated me that way (now, who's to say who started it but...regardless, I felt worthless, he treated me like I was)...Since I've gotten out of that - I know I'm awesome (fck ya...I won't deny it!! LOL), I know I deserve better and I know what makes me happy -- and being anything other then ME does not make me happy....

And don't listen to the others - 27 is not old....30.....THAT is fcking OLD

I think we're in the same boat. lol was married for 4 years, with her for 7. It's not easy for a guy to "get back in the game"

[tradosaurus]

Originally Posted by bigted83

Alright I need some advice, girls feel free to chip in

Alright there's this girl I dated at one time for 9 months, and we broke up and didn't talk for sometime. Then we started talkIng again she made first contact. And dated again split up again, then we started talking again after she made first contact again. Dated again and everything. Then again split up. So then she started dating this other guy and we would talk thru text.they have split up and her and I are hanging out again and talking about dating if I change. I get jealous like u wouldn't believe. She has guy friends she texts and it bothers me cuz I assume she's doing something and I always need to be reassured and crap. She says she wants to be with me,but I'm not sure she really does. But then if I didn't mean anything to her she wouldn't talk to me or hang out with me? Is she playing me? As much as I want a camaro I would easily give up the camaro to be with her. This girl is and means the world to me?

Ted Williams

If you are financially ready to marry then propose to her. If not stop dating.

If you are fornicating with her then you will probably end up with a kid out wedlock and paying child support.

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by PoorMansCamaro

I think we're in the same boat. lol was married for 4 years, with her for 7. It's not easy for a guy to "get back in the game"

Ya - I was with him 6 - married for....uh....well.... 2 months before he started cheating (ok, went BACK to cheating...he was doing it for a year before we got married too apparently)...about 7 months before we split and over a year before the divorce was final...not sure which one was really hte "end" LOL!!

But hey, I got self confidence and a Camaro so...I WIN!!

And yes - def not easy for guys to get back in the game -- I have a friend who got out of a 9 year relationship a year ago and is so mentally fcked up that well...let's just say I know from drunken texts that things aren't...er...working well...for him! LOL

Depends on the relationship - but men and women are both able to fck with each others heads and mess up the other person!!

[Iwantone2]

Originally Posted by Tessa

'tis true....'tis cliche as well but
I was married and I was miserable - long and short -- I didn't like me, I didn't think I was "worth" anything....and my ex treated me that way (now, who's to say who started it but...regardless, I felt worthless, he treated me like I was)...Since I've gotten out of that - I know I'm awesome (fck ya...I won't deny it!! LOL), I know I deserve better and I know what makes me happy -- and being anything other then ME does not make me happy....

And don't listen to the others - 27 is not old....30.....THAT is fcking OLD

This is the exact mentality that bigted needs to have!!! Thanks for your input Tessa, you put it in words anybody can understand!

Originally Posted by PoorMansCamaro

I think we're in the same boat. lol was married for 4 years, with her for 7. It's not easy for a guy to "get back in the game"

Oh yes it is

(with the right resources, of course)

[PoorMansCamaro]

Originally Posted by Tessa

Ya - I was with him 6 - married for....uh....well.... 2 months before he started cheating (ok, went BACK to cheating...he was doing it for a year before we got married too apparently)...about 7 months before we split and over a year before the divorce was final...not sure which one was really hte "end" LOL!!

But hey, I got self confidence and a Camaro so...I WIN!!

And yes - def not easy for guys to get back in the game -- I have a friend who got out of a 9 year relationship a year ago and is so mentally fcked up that well...let's just say I know from drunken texts that things aren't...er...working well...for him! LOL

Depends on the relationship - but men and women are both able to fck with each others heads and mess up the other person!!

ahmen!

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by Iwantone2

This is the exact mentality that bigted needs to have!!! Thanks for your input Tessa, you put it in words anybody can understand!


Oh yes it is

(with the right resources, of course)

Well.....words are easy when you are AWESOME!!!
I have a post-it note to prove it too.....


&
Some men are too dumb to accept the right "resources" when available....

[bigted83]

I just told her she never had no intentions or never loved be and that she wanted to be with those other guys. That pissed her off cuz it's the truth. It's hurting like hell and I have no friends to hang out with to ease the pain

[PoorMansCamaro]

why don't you have any friends? just go to a bar.

[bigted83]

She always told me stuff that I didn't believe anyways

[Tessa]

Sometimes the best way to get over pain is to deal with it yourself....it sucks but....you made the right move.

[bigted83]

I'm get nervous or anxious around new people in person.

[bigted83]

It would be better if I had a camaro to cruise

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by PoorMansCamaro

why don't you have any friends? just go to a bar.

Some people can't handle The Awesome.....



Say it enough and you believe it -- just remember bigted - you deserve WAY better that that girl!! When you know it's true that perfect girl will trip right over you....