When it rains........it POURS...

[Blk-Ice]

Originally Posted by UFN Wish

Thanks guys that at least made me smile. It just seems as though it just keeps getting worse. Its something new every week. My insurance Deductible is $1000. I had $2600 Saved up for rims and tires and then all this happens at once. The thing that started it all off was getting pulled over in Atlanta by a Camaro Cop. Ever since everything went downhill. From having to put it in the shop to get clutch pedal fixed and driveshaft to all this other stuff. That stuff was little because it got repaired. But it just doesn't seem to be getting any better. I want to get out of this town. It seems to be cursed.

That's what it's all about, u gotta try and smile in the face of adversity! Life is like a box of Choc-lates.......<-----in my Forest Gump voice!!

[Chiefish]

If it doesnt kill you it will just make you stronger. Hang in there and I promise things will improve for you. My grand pop used to always say that its always darkest just before the dawn, and soon the sun will rise on you and you will feel the warmth it brings into your life again.

[BowtieBelle]

Keep your chin up, girl.

A few years ago, I got laid off from my job and couldn't find work. My fiancee cheated on me, so that ended-- and I was stuck with a house that I had bought for us that I had to pay for all on my own. I couldn't afford it anymore being jobless, and I ended up going into foreclosure. All I had was my truck and my stuff-- had to move to an apartment. Short sold the house, but my credit took a bad hit. Ended up having to take out student loans and go back to school because I couldn't find a job that paid more than $8-10 an hour... I had been making $40k a year when the economy crashed.

Two years later, I own my own home, have a new Camaro, a great new guy in my life and couldn't be happier. But it was BAD in 2009-- my lowest point, but I bounced. A real woman isn't just born amazing-- she has to claw her way to the top in 4" heels. I bounced back and you will, too.

[ron10]

when the goin gets tuff,the tuff get goin.if you have your health,everything is just trivial.

[UFN Wish]

Originally Posted by Edwin320

Is the paycheck for for actual hours worked, or for accrued but unused vacation / sick time?

The paycheck is for actual worked hours.



The blind girl story made my jaw drop. That's crazy. I guess it could be way worse. I guess with me just being single and alone and no one to encourage me or help me with my problems is really getting me down. I am embarrassed that my car says FU BICH on it. People point and stare. These hardships are not making me they are breaking me. I feel like a failure. I worked at a bar two days this weekend because it was a holiday. I can't get these people to see what a great bartender I am without people calling the establishment or sending the owner an email. They have some bartenders who suck there. I don't understand why they want to keep some of these people. I am good at everything I do. I do good deeds all the time. I bend over backwards for people. Why can't people see what an amazing person I am? Why does life have to challenge me at my weakest point in my life. I just want to pack up and move somewhere else and start over with life.

[driyac]

I am sorry for what you are going through. There is some great advice on here that people have given you. You may feel alone, down and out, no motivation, and overall discouraged. Yet think about what you have done, you have lost 50 pounds, you changed your life around. Everytime I go through something hard I think back to my past experiences. You have two choices. Roll over, admit defeat, try to lean on other people as a crutch, beg borrow steal; or fight, become an Alpha dominate woman, do tha damn thing by yourself. Here in a month or two you will look back and be so happy that you didn't rely on anyone else, and for that you will have transformed again.

Idk how old you are, as I am 24, but when I feel down I look at myself in the mirror and break myself down and find my flaws. Release some stress, hit the beach, workout harder, run 5 to 10 miles. Enjoy the sun and keep pushing forward.

I wish you the best in your journey, it is better traveled alone than to have a crutch.

[Bad@ssCamaro]

If there is nothing/no one else that you can count on, it is yourself. I've been where you are at a little over a year ago, almost homeless. And I felt it approaching, but I didn't give up. In that moment of desperation and almost hopelessness, I looked at who I was and who I wanted to be and where I wanted to go. It was at that point that I decided that I believed in myself again.

Within a few days after that little introspective talk I had with myself, I started receiving emails for job openings that I had left my resume online from a couple of years ago. It led to a job opportunity, I received another even better one within a few weeks. It ended up being a fantastic job that payed very well and with great benefits. I had to suck it up and live with my parents for a few months, but I made enough money to save for an apartment and for furniture I didn't have. I have been with this company for over a year and my life has changed for the best because I believed in myself again. This is what you need to discover. It will help you to focus and get rid of all the negative things that are happening to you.

The key to it is to be greatful for all of the good things in your life and to be thankful for them everyday. It will help you to be in a positive state of mind and help you to focus on your goals and where you want to be. Start dreaming of the life you want and believe, only you will take yourself there. The rest will fall into place.

[Hammer St. James]

Chin up, kiddo. Life indeed has its ups and downs. Take my word on that. Things will turn around for you.

[IrocJack]

Sorry to see and read what has happened to you but remember. What comes around goes around, so they will get what's coming to them eventually.
Come on up to Maryland and check out Ocean City for a job.
http://oceancityhelpwanted.com/
Also check out the mid-atlantic page on here and see the awesome car show we just had a couple weeks ago. there's another in Oct.
Chin up...

[Hannibal]

Beach communities are seasonal and attract some of the worst kind of people. Take my word for it.

Find a nice place that does not rely on tourism/seasonal revenues and plant some roots. You'll be way better off.

[mel0629]

Sorry to hear that brotha, but remember one thing if anything....Hold On, if you continue to put yourself in the right direction things will change, Life changes right b4 our eyes Man, Just hold on brotha it'll get better.

[PoorMansCamaro]

Originally Posted by mel0629

Sorry to hear that brotha, but remember one thing if anything....Hold On, if you continue to put yourself in the right direction things will change, Life changes right b4 our eyes Man, Just hold on brotha it'll get better.

[Tessa]

Originally Posted by UFN Wish

The paycheck is for actual worked hours.



The blind girl story made my jaw drop. That's crazy. I guess it could be way worse. I guess with me just being single and alone and no one to encourage me or help me with my problems is really getting me down. I am embarrassed that my car says FU BICH on it. People point and stare. These hardships are not making me they are breaking me. I feel like a failure. I worked at a bar two days this weekend because it was a holiday. I can't get these people to see what a great bartender I am without people calling the establishment or sending the owner an email. They have some bartenders who suck there. I don't understand why they want to keep some of these people. I am good at everything I do. I do good deeds all the time. I bend over backwards for people. Why can't people see what an amazing person I am? Why does life have to challenge me at my weakest point in my life. I just want to pack up and move somewhere else and start over with life.

I will tell you - running will not help. For awhile, you will feel good, and then when shit hits the fan where you move, you'll want to run again. Don't run from your problems, stand up and face them head on. I want to run all the time - I know how it feels.

I have been where you are (stuck in what feels like a little box of hell) and thensome - it CAN get worse, so please for your own sanity do not ask how because the Universe is a jackass and will show you

Everytime I want to run away - I listen to this song and it reminds me that no matter where I go - I am still me, and I still have the power to kick this life in the ass and make it my bitch



Just focus on one thing at a time - baby step your way through and eventually you will find the light at the end. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try - it keeps getting further away, but you just have to keep going. (Just keep swimming ).

I'm still trying to swim out of my little black hole after 4 years - it takes time, it feels like it's going to kill you - but don't let it.

You seem to have a good inner strength - you are confident and have faith in yourself (just based on things you have said) so that's a huge start - don't doubt yourself, ever. Doubting yourself makes it harder to keep moving and makes you want to just sit down and quit - I've quit way too many times and nothing good ever comes of it.

Also - always remember:

"You have brains in your head
You have feet in your shoes
You can steer yourself
Any direction you chose."
~Dr. Seuss~

Steer towards the sun girlfriend.

[UFN Wish]

Originally Posted by mel0629

Sorry to hear that brotha, but remember one thing if anything....Hold On, if you continue to put yourself in the right direction things will change, Life changes right b4 our eyes Man, Just hold on brotha it'll get better.

Lol thanks! I'm a lady!