So my mom died of throat cancer on tuesday.

[mlee]

Heartbreaking story Rodimus... Give it some time and distance before you make decisions about your bother... Take care of business and he'll probably make his own bed without you having to do anything.

Prayers are with you bud...

[manimsoblack]

Dude sorry to hear about your mom and your prick of a brother. IMHO you should press charges and withhold anything from him you can. He's been doing similar sh*t for the past XX years and is so bad in it that he'll steal from his dying mother. I'm all for supporting family and all but there's a line and that's a good 80 yards past it. God knows what else he'll do and who else he'll hurt to get his next fix and if he ends up doing something ridiculous like killing someone, you'd have known that you could've possibly prevented that.

My condolences.

[SSMOKN]

Sorry about your mother IMO Take the money and put it in a trust, give your brother an option, rehab or the cops...all hell will probably break loose. Drugs make people do strange things to their family's
I think unless the will says it all go's to you, he can contest it, at least that's how it is here in MA
Use your best judgment Do what you think your mother would want.

[rodimus prime]

Thanks for the support and kind words everyone. I have no sympathy for my brother and plan on pressing charges and not giving him a dime. My moms brother told me about how he pretty much cleaned out my great uncles house after he died too. I have caught him in multiple lies over the past few weeks, but I dont call him out on them. I like to let him think hes getting away with everything...kind of a snake in the grass type person I guess. LOL. Im going to give a lot of what he was supposed to get to his son, who will be moving in with me this week. I hope he goes to jail and his POS girlfriend (who happens to be the most useless person ever) dies. My mom hated her with a passion and didnt even want her at the wake. She is so disgusting that her arms look like they were stuck into a hornets nest with all the herion she has done.

Im not going to try and save my relationship with my brother at all. I was never really that close to him anyways. He just happened to seal his fate between us this week. My unlce (moms brother) put it best. "be relentless on that mother ***cker".

[GTAHVIT]

At some point people must be held accountable... Maybe it's time for him to pay the price for his behavior.

If you want, set some of that money aside, should he prove that he's clean. But I agree, you may have to be relentless on him for a while... My step brother and My Father both completely recovered from drug and alcohol addictions... So, it is possible. But it took years, not months or days for them to prove it to the family...

I'm very sorry about your mother.

[brandotron]

My condolences Rodimus. Having to deal with your brother's BS on top of your mother's passing must be nothing short of torture. You seem to be a level headed guy from your posts in other threads--keep your cool when making these business decisions. Mind your P's and Q's and your brother will get what coming to him. Meaning, make sure that will is 100% legal and in your favor before dropping the hammer on him. Good luck bro.

[Georgie]

sorry about your mom bro

[Xanthos]

First off, I'm really sorry about your loss, and its terrible that you didn't get to be there to say goodbye.

I wouldn't let him have a dime of it, and I'd press charges against him as well. Stealing money from your own mother when she's on her deathbed... and you're thinking of cutting him some slack?
- X

[PQ]

Originally Posted by Dragoneye

That's terrible. I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(

If it were me in that unimaginable situation...I don't think I could actually press charges against him. No matter how rotten...I just don't think I could do that to family.

However, if it's not explicitly stated in a will that you must split everything half and half...I wouldn't give him a dime. Admittedly, he did take care of her while she was sick...but that sort of behavior warrants no 'reward'. He took his share already.

Again...very, very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

Respect for what you're saying here but family is more than the blood only. Fomily deserves more tolerance than other people but even family has to BE a part of the family. It's a very tough situation having had a family member hooked on Meth ourselves. They can get off of the addiction but accountability must be held. This situation warrants an arrest AND an expulsion.

That's not to say there is a right way or a wrong way to handle this but sometimes 'tough love' is necessary. It can be looked at as if he loved his brother he would have him arrested and keep his portion of the money for after he sobers up. He needs to get away from the girl and ALL of the people he associates with. I flew my bro here to Alabama to get him completely away from the people he was with. He was here for almost two years, away from his kids even, and is now off the meth and doing well.
Prison is NOT a rehab clinic but he can get the help he needs if he asks.

Originally Posted by 1320junkie

Sorry about your mom....on your brother...I wouldnt call the cops on him and I still would do what your mom wished for you to do with the money...that's a mothers love...and if he squanders it or whatever you will have a clear conscious because you DID DO what your mother wanted done...at the end of the day he is still your brother and you know how to deal with him...follow your heart and not your mind...and go with that

Mothers can typicaly be enablers. To a terrible degree. The ones who overenable a child are just not strong enough to dole out the 'tough love' but would be absolutely happy with the results. I don't assume that is the situation here but it sounds very familiar. Again, there probably is no one way to handle this situation but I think keeping the money until he is clean and sobre is perfectly fair. If that means sending the brother 'away' for a while, then so be it.

That being said, I have much more tolerance for an addiction to prescription drugs because it's usually an addiction due to a long term treatment or cronic condition. (not condoning, just saying) But recreational drugs are reprehensable and pathetic. JMO. I am still addicted to smokes. I say this because I still crave them. And I'm of the opinion that pot should be legal but this guy has gotten himself hooked on Meth. That's just pathetic. Tough love and seperation, is what this guy needs.

Originally Posted by GTAHVIT

At some point people must be held accountable... Maybe it's time for him to pay the price for his behavior.

If you want, set some of that money aside, should he prove that he's clean. But I agree, you may have to be relentless on him for a while... My step brother and My Father both completely recovered from drug and alcohol addictions... So, it is possible. But it took years, not months or days for them to prove it to the family...

I'm very sorry about your mother.

OP, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I still have both of my parents and so does Bonnie so I can't imagine. I pray that the Lord has given her comfort and rest and that you and yours can be comforted right now after your great loss. I agree with Mlee, give it some time to all calm down before you make a decision.

[len56]

:( thats very sad
i feel for you...


but the money is ALL yours... if your brother did that, let him keep it and keep the whole house cash for your onesie. he doesn't deserve any of it.

[2010 2-Tone]

Originally Posted by Snuggles

Rodimus
Very sorry to hear about your mom bro.
My father is still battling mouth cancer (but has been in remission for approx 3 years now) and a VERY close friend of family has throat/tonsil cancer and he is on a pretty steep downward slide.. My prayers are with u and the family bro.

As far as your brother, he has disrespected u and the family and most especially your mom. Karma is a bitch and this WILL come back to bite him in the ass eventually. and NO, u are not wrong for witholding any money from him. YES, he is blood, but he sealed his own fate with the ridiculous crap he pulled in those lsat two weeks.

Take care man! God Bless!

Snuggles says it as good as it can be said!!!
Very sorry to hear this!!!! It is tough not being able to say goodbye. My mom died at 56 without a warning!!!!