Bachelor Party Blues... - Page 2

PoorMansCamaro · 08-28-2013, 03:54 PM

I think we need pics of future wife and best friend to better give opinions.

JUST KIDDING

jewel25 · 08-28-2013, 03:56 PM

I have to side with your soon to be wife. You are marrying her and must love her, so you have to keep in mind that it makes her uncomfortable having your best friend there. It doesn't matter if you best friend is a man or a woman it still makes her uncomfortable and that is no way to start a marriage. Remember in a month your wife is going to become your best friend and she should always come first. It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so sometimes the man needs to just go with the flow.

Like someone else said, Happy Wife, Happy Life. She should also treat you the same way. So think how would you feel if she invited a man to her party, I bet you would feel uncomfortable also.

RolltideSS · 08-28-2013, 04:54 PM

[QUOTE=jewel25;6956207]It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so sometimes the man needs to just go with the flow.[QUOTE]

Let me go ahead and correct this for you:

"It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so men need to just go with the flow."

simple mistake

In all seriousness, 1 month from now you're gonna be living with your wife not your best friend.

strych9 · 08-28-2013, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by PoorMansCamaro

not sure how a bachelor party is gender neutral. lol it's about as far as gender neutral as a party/get together gets.

I mean, by definition, a bachelor party is for a man, who is about to get married, and attended by men only.

if there are other females that will be at your bachelor party, then yes, she should be able to attend. but then, I wouldn't really call that a bachelor party. if she's the only, then that's a little odd. I don't care who you are.

The OP's brand of bachelor party IS gender-neutral. In any other atypical bachelor party scenario, I would agree with you 100%.

jewel25 · 08-28-2013, 05:02 PM

[QUOTE=RolltideSS;6956431][QUOTE=jewel25;6956207]It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so sometimes the man needs to just go with the flow.

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Let me go ahead and correct this for you:

"It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so men need to just go with the flow."

simple mistake

In all seriousness, 1 month from now you're gonna be living with your wife not your best friend.

Well since I moved in with PMC and away form my friends and family. PMC is my best friend. Not a simple mistake.

I am not an expert just saying how I would treat the situation. I have more guy friends than girl friends but if it would make PMC uncomfortable then I wouldn't invite them to my party.

PoorMansCamaro · 08-28-2013, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by strych9

The OP's brand of bachelor party IS gender-neutral. In any other atypical bachelor party scenario, I would agree with you 100%.

So there will be other woman at his bachelor party? As I understood it, his best friend would be the only girl. Which brings up a good point, I bet if it was just some other friend that was a girl, or one of his guy friends brought a girl, the bride would also say no to that person.

PoorMansCamaro · 08-28-2013, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by jewel25

I am not an expert just saying how I would treat the situation. I have more guy friends than girl friends but if it would make PMC uncomfortable then I wouldn't invite them to my party.

If a guy wants to go to your bachelorette party, I'd question what team he batted for.

Diode Dynamics · 08-28-2013, 05:57 PM

This could end up really bad. I don't see any major downside from your "best-friend" not attending your bachelor party. I don't see anything good worth making a big deal out of coming also.

I'd error on the side of caution and have a dude's night out.

.....It's too bad we didn't have a female Camaro5 member on here to give her opinion.

Nick C.

Mr Twisty · 08-28-2013, 05:59 PM

It isn't a "balls in her purse" issue, it's jealousy... it's a part of marriage, and needs to be minimized by both parties. She is setting a good standard for a long & happy partnership. Just let her know it's a two way street.

Your wife should be your best friend, not another person, male OR female.

irocnroll · 08-28-2013, 06:01 PM

If she is part of the grooms party, she deserves to attend the bachelor party. Times have changed.

MYDLIFECRISIS · 08-28-2013, 06:07 PM

If I were you, I'd side with your future wife. Has nothing to do with control or "growing a pair". Please, we're not neanderthals! I think she trusts you. I just think it makes her very uncomfortable.

MYDLIFECRISIS · 08-28-2013, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Twisty

It isn't a "balls in her purse" issue, it's jealousy... it's a part of marriage, and needs to be minimized by both parties. She is setting a good standard for a long & happy partnership. Just let her know it's a two way street.

Your wife should be your best friend, not another person, male OR female.

100%!

DroptopZ · 08-28-2013, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by PoorMansCamaro

I think we need pics of future wife and best friend to better give opinions.

JUST KIDDING

LOL I know right? :-P

I can see both ways. My future wife is my best friend, but I figured it was obvious that I meant 'in addition to.' Honestly, I am just afraid that these types of things will escalate and continue to drive a wedge between my friends an I. I don't mind sacrificing for my partner as she is the most important, but I don't want to tell my friend not to come just because of her gender. Sexism and gender stereotyping IMO.

Of course, good chance I will just give in. I just don't particularly want to get into a 'give an inch, take a mile' type scenario.

I am sure this is the right woman for me and she is normally super chill... This is just turning into more than I want it to be.

PoorMansCamaro · 08-28-2013, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Diode Dynamics

This could end up really bad. I don't see any major downside from your "best-friend" not attending your bachelor party. I don't see anything good worth making a big deal out of coming also.

I'd error on the side of caution and have a dude's night out.

.....It's too bad we didn't have a female Camaro5 member on here to give her opinion.

Nick C.

might want to read the thread then. A girl has already posted.

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jewel25 Mother of PWA Babies Drives: 2011 RJT 2LT/RS Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Central Pennsylvania Posts: 37,115 View My Garage	I have to side with your soon to be wife. You are marrying her and must love her, so you have to keep in mind that it makes her uncomfortable having your best friend there. It doesn't matter if you best friend is a man or a woman it still makes her uncomfortable and that is no way to start a marriage. Remember in a month your wife is going to become your best friend and she should always come first. It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so sometimes the man needs to just go with the flow. Like someone else said, Happy Wife, Happy Life. She should also treat you the same way. So think how would you feel if she invited a man to her party, I bet you would feel uncomfortable also. __________________ Jewel & PMC's Build Thread

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Diode Dynamics Drives: Camaro Lighting Experts Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: St. Louis, MO Posts: 2,429	This could end up really bad. I don't see any major downside from your "best-friend" not attending your bachelor party. I don't see anything good worth making a big deal out of coming also. I'd error on the side of caution and have a dude's night out. .....It's too bad we didn't have a female Camaro5 member on here to give her opinion. Nick C. __________________ John C. Diode Dynamics Follow Us: FB // IG // YT // TikTok

08-28-2013, 05:59 PM	#23
Mr Twisty Drives: the 2nd amendment home Join Date: May 2008 Location: OK Posts: 14,763	It isn't a "balls in her purse" issue, it's jealousy... it's a part of marriage, and needs to be minimized by both parties. She is setting a good standard for a long & happy partnership. Just let her know it's a two way street. Your wife should be your best friend, not another person, male OR female. __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." -- Benjamin Franklin lib·er·ty /ˈlibərdē/ noun 1. the state of being free within society from oppressive restrictions imposed by authority on one's way of life, behavior, or political views

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MYDLIFECRISIS Drives: '12SS/2SS/45TH-'06 2500HD/Silverado Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Fairfax, VA Posts: 2,105 View My Garage	If I were you, I'd side with your future wife. Has nothing to do with control or "growing a pair". Please, we're not neanderthals! I think she trusts you. I just think it makes her very uncomfortable. __________________ 2012 Camaro SS 2SS 45TH Anniversary Edition

08-28-2013, 04:54 PM	#17
RolltideSS Drives: 2018 SS 1LE Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Houston Posts: 1,069 View My Garage	[QUOTE=jewel25;6956207]It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so sometimes the man needs to just go with the flow.[QUOTE] Let me go ahead and correct this for you: "It might seem stupid to you but it means the world to her, we women can't explain our emotions or why we want something a certain way, so men need to just go with the flow." simple mistake In all seriousness, 1 month from now you're gonna be living with your wife not your best friend.

08-28-2013, 06:01 PM	#24
irocnroll Drives: '91 RS Vert, '11 Grand Cherokee Join Date: May 2009 Location: Connecticut Posts: 2,342 View My Garage	If she is part of the grooms party, she deserves to attend the bachelor party. Times have changed.