heart broken

[THUMPER20X]

Dream women are fiction, dream cars? If you're here you're probly already driving it.

[Finchman20]

i just took 30 minutes in the middle of the night to read this whole thread.... and i would like to know the outcome!

where you at bozbot? i hope things worked out!!

[bozbot]

Originally Posted by Finchman20

i just took 30 minutes in the middle of the night to read this whole thread.... and i would like to know the outcome!

where you at bozbot? i hope things worked out!!

Hey everyone. sorry I have not been on the site in a long time. I have been going thru hell and back.

i dont even know where to begin. so i guess i will just give the abridged version.

I learned she is pregnant.
I move back in with her. she quits her job.
I sell the car back to the dealership.
I ask her to marry me. she says yes.
things are good for about a week.
we get into a fight about money.
she gives me back the ring.
we try to go to counseling. (she ends up going to only 1 session)
she says she is unwilling to stay and work things out and moves to her mothers house 3 hours away.
she wont let me be involved with the birthing process.
I seek a lawyers advise.
they pretty much tell me i have no rights until the baby is born and i prove that it is mine.

so all in all i have now have an ex fiancee that is pregnant with my child of which i will not get to see its birth. and i no longer have my camaro.

losing the camaro i can deal with
losing the girl i can deal with
I am going out of my mind insane about not being able to be a part of my childs birth. and by the way things have been going it does not look like she is going to make seeing my child any easier after it is born

now on top of all this. I was looking to get a job in florida before i met her and have now found out that I can get the job. it makes more than i make now and the cost of living is much much cheaper there but now i have the dilemma of going or not because I will be so far from my child.

i wish i could have given you guys a positive update...

["prima"Donna]

Originally Posted by bozbot

Hey everyone. sorry I have not been on the site in a long time. I have been going thru hell and back.

i dont even know where to begin. so i guess i will just give the abridged version.

I learned she is pregnant.
I move back in with her. she quits her job.
I sell the car back to the dealership.
I ask her to marry me. she says yes.
things are good for about a week.
we get into a fight about money.
she gives me back the ring.
we try to go to counseling. (she ends up going to only 1 session)
she says she is unwilling to stay and work things out and moves to her mothers house 3 hours away.
she wont let me be involved with the birthing process.
I seek a lawyers advise.
they pretty much tell me i have no rights until the baby is born and i prove that it is mine.

so all in all i have now have an ex fiancee that is pregnant with my child of which i will not get to see its birth. and i no longer have my camaro.

losing the camaro i can deal with
losing the girl i can deal with
I am going out of my mind insane about not being able to be a part of my childs birth. and by the way things have been going it does not look like she is going to make seeing my child any easier after it is born

now on top of all this. I was looking to get a job in florida before i met her and have now found out that I can get the job. it makes more than i make now and the cost of living is much much cheaper there but now i have the dilemma of going or not because I will be so far from my child.

i wish i could have given you guys a positive update...

So sorry for you Bozbot...:(

I always wondered what happened to you and I am hoping that things work out for you and your child, even if the girl doesn't want you back...that is HER LOSS...

You seem like a kind, caring, young man trying to do the right thing and I admire you for that...a lot of guys would have run the other way, and here you are trying to step up and take responsibilty for your child...that shows a lot of maturity...

Good luck to you and please let your Camaro family know how things turn out...we do care............

[kjd15]

OMG! It sounds like a bad dream! I admire you for stepping up and wanting to be a part of the child's life, but I would definitely find out if you were truly the father before you commit to anything. I don't know if that's at all possible before he or she is born. I hope I'm not out of line saying that. When is she due?

[brandotron]

Originally Posted by bozbot

Hey everyone. sorry I have not been on the site in a long time. I have been going thru hell and back.

i dont even know where to begin. so i guess i will just give the abridged version.

I learned she is pregnant.
I move back in with her. she quits her job.
I sell the car back to the dealership.
I ask her to marry me. she says yes.
things are good for about a week.
we get into a fight about money.
she gives me back the ring.
we try to go to counseling. (she ends up going to only 1 session)
she says she is unwilling to stay and work things out and moves to her mothers house 3 hours away.
she wont let me be involved with the birthing process.
I seek a lawyers advise.
they pretty much tell me i have no rights until the baby is born and i prove that it is mine.

so all in all i have now have an ex fiancee that is pregnant with my child of which i will not get to see its birth. and i no longer have my camaro.

losing the camaro i can deal with
losing the girl i can deal with
I am going out of my mind insane about not being able to be a part of my childs birth. and by the way things have been going it does not look like she is going to make seeing my child any easier after it is born

now on top of all this. I was looking to get a job in florida before i met her and have now found out that I can get the job. it makes more than i make now and the cost of living is much much cheaper there but now i have the dilemma of going or not because I will be so far from my child.

i wish i could have given you guys a positive update...

You better DNA test that baby.

[WadeWilson]

Originally Posted by bozbot

Hey everyone. sorry I have not been on the site in a long time. I have been going thru hell and back.

i dont even know where to begin. so i guess i will just give the abridged version.

I learned she is pregnant.
I move back in with her. she quits her job.
I sell the car back to the dealership.
I ask her to marry me. she says yes.
things are good for about a week.
we get into a fight about money.
she gives me back the ring.
we try to go to counseling. (she ends up going to only 1 session)
she says she is unwilling to stay and work things out and moves to her mothers house 3 hours away.
she wont let me be involved with the birthing process.
I seek a lawyers advise.
they pretty much tell me i have no rights until the baby is born and i prove that it is mine.

so all in all i have now have an ex fiancee that is pregnant with my child of which i will not get to see its birth. and i no longer have my camaro.

losing the camaro i can deal with
losing the girl i can deal with
I am going out of my mind insane about not being able to be a part of my childs birth. and by the way things have been going it does not look like she is going to make seeing my child any easier after it is born

now on top of all this. I was looking to get a job in florida before i met her and have now found out that I can get the job. it makes more than i make now and the cost of living is much much cheaper there but now i have the dilemma of going or not because I will be so far from my child.

i wish i could have given you guys a positive update...

Good luck with everything and I hope things turn around for you. Brandon is right though about having a DNA test done. I would just to be safe.

[2000v6]

You have no choice than to get a DNA test. If it is yours, you'll have to file a suit. Obviously you will need to get the kid away from her if it is yours as she seems to be mentally unstable at the moment from what you have posted. Get a better job asap too

[Iwantone2]

Yes, DNA test!!!

[bozbot]

everyone and their mother are telling me to get a DNA test. I know 100% that it is mine.

I have to get a DNA test done anyway to prove that it is mine, since her and I aren't married, for me to have any custodial rights. So no matter what I would find out if it was mine or not. she knows this as well so I would imagine that she would have told me its not mine by now if that was the case.

it is not like she is lying to keep me around. she pushed me away as much as possible.

I am starting to wonder about her mental state too but if I want to get custody I have to prove she is an unfit mother which is going to be very hard to do when she is hours away.

I appreciate all the support! maybe some day I will be able to join the ranks again in the Camaro community. until then i guess i just get to be jealous

["prima"Donna]

Keep in touch with us anyway, even if you don't have a Camaro, we care!

[bozbot]

Originally Posted by "prima"Donna

Keep in touch with us anyway, even if you don't have a Camaro, we care!

thanks Donna

[bozbot]

I am having a really hard time tonight.

it is really starting to sink it with me what my life is now and will become soon.

I have so many people telling me to only focus on what I can control.

well it doesnt seem like anything anymore.

I have lost my fiancee, while her and I werent together long I do love her and I miss her. even after all she did to me. I cant seem to let go of the memories of the person she was before.

on top of that knowing now that I might not be in my childs life has me sick to my stomach. My biological father was not in my life until only a couple years ago...after not being in it for 20 years and I hated him for it.

and to top it all off I no longer have my dream car. I have wanted to own a camaro since i was 8 years old. when i found out that they stopped making them my heart broke. then the day I found out they were going to make them again I made a promise to myself that I would get one. now that I had one and it is gone I feel like my dream was shattered. especially since I dont see myself getting another one for an insanely lone time.

part of the reason i stayed away from the forums for the past couple months is because I knew if i kept looking that I would go insane. and now I am.

I really wish i could erase the past 5 months of my life.

["prima"Donna]

So sorry for you Bozbot!!!...hang in there, buddy...things have to get better...you might not think so now, being as sad and feeling as hopeless as you do, but trust me when I say hang in there, things will eventually work out the way they are supposed to, even if you may not think so at the time...
I do believe that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we can't always figure out why...take good care of you, that's the most important thing for you right now...