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[Darth_Emma]

Don't rush into anything. There is no expiration date. You should just do what makes YOU happy.

[rmpackers]

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Don't expect too much, sir, we ladies have promised to NOT get this ladies thread shut down!
Classy pics only....
On that note, since Sarah posted a lovely pic of herself all gussied up, here's one of me and my family (taken last Christmas) - we love gettin' gussied up!

Very nice picture, love it!

[rmpackers]

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

Yeah, my heart has been wrong about him so many times before....

My gut is saying to go with new guy...

That, and I would add your ex needs some time. He needs to get himself straight before he can give anything to anybody else.

[Ladybugsmom]

Sounds like lots of good advice here...
I waited until I was 40 before getting married, and I'm glad I did, because I found one who treats me right. Sure, he's not perfect - no one is, myself included - but he isn't an a$$ like most of the men in my past.

[rmpackers]

But I'm also not one that should be givng advice to anybody, my husband and I met, dated for 11 days, he proposed and I accepted, we were married in 3 months. Next month we will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary!
When you know its right....its right!!!!

[BowtieBelle]

Originally Posted by rmpackers

But I'm also not one that should be givng advice to anybody, my husband and I met, dated for 11 days, he proposed and I accepted, we were married in 3 months. Next month we will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary!
When you know its right....its right!!!!

Wow, that is so awesome

[Mysteek]

Morning Ladies!! I'm already stressing for tomorrow. This is my first year hosting and I don't have a clue.

[jewel25]

Originally Posted by rmpackers

But I'm also not one that should be givng advice to anybody, my husband and I met, dated for 11 days, he proposed and I accepted, we were married in 3 months. Next month we will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary!
When you know its right....its right!!!!

Good for you. Sarah you will know when it is right.

Originally Posted by Mysteek

Morning Ladies!! I'm already stressing for tomorrow. This is my first year hosting and I don't have a clue.

Good luck. I am with you on this one. I am not cooking, I will be going to my grandparents house. I am going to take the beautiful day we are going to have tomorrow to wash and detail the car for winter storage.

[dianeokie]

Originally Posted by rmpackers

That, and I would add your ex needs some time. He needs to get himself straight before he can give anything to anybody else.

I have to agree with the others, and Darth Emma too. Give it some time. If your ex has truly rehabilitated and it's meant to be, it will happen in time. Alcoholism is a tough one to change.........:(

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

Basically, it boils down to having to make a choice.

I've been seeing a great guy. Known him for years (he was friends with an ex of mine in college) and he and I have been having a wonderful time together. I like him more every day. I could see us having a great future together.

Then I have my ex, who really hurt me. I gave him multiple chances to make things right with me-- but he continued to lie, cheat on me and drink too much. To be fair to him, he has had a very rough life-- his brother died in high school, his dad abused him and his parents got an ugly divorce where his mom got nothing and raised him and his sister in poverty. We're from two different worlds. I had to let him go because I couldn't handle the alcohol, abuse and lying anymore. I've given him no less than half a dozen chances to straighten it all out and until the last time I threw him out of my house-- about a year ago-- he never did try to make it right.

Now he is recovering from alcoholism. He's stopped drinking and is getting his life straight, and I'm seeing in him glimpses of who I fell in love with five years ago, and the man I wanted to marry. But he's done so much damage and my family and friends can't stand him.

Part of me has been waiting to see if maybe he could get it right this time-- and part of me is telling I should be with other guy. I don't know what to do, and it absolutely sucks. I'm terrified that if I choose other guy and it doesn't work out, I'll have lost my last chance with ex-fiancee. But another part of me says that it'll work out with new guy, who makes me very happy, and that my ex had his chance and I need to just really, truly let him go and go be happy with new guy.

I don't know what to do :(

I know it's late, and kinda like Jewel said. I gave up on my ex-fiance because I was tired of all the same stuff you went through. Then I met my hubby now. My ex was constantly leaving me messages about men in the Army being a**holes and whatnot and that I shouldn't trust him. He even started following us places. I finally told him that we could start over as friends ONLY if he really cared about me. It was tough to not go back to something you already know and familiar with. It's scary starting something new. I took the plunge and went with someone new, everyone called him my re-bound guy. However, here we are 7 years at the beginning of January, still together. Our 6 year anniversary is next June, we have a handsome 4 year old son together, and another on the way. I wouldn't trade that for anything in the world. My ex has called me since checking up on me, but I make sure he knows I'm happy. He had his chance and he blew it.

Also, like all the other ladies have stated...follow your heart to the man of your future. I have heard it before, you can manipulate your mind to think what you want, but you can't do it in your heart. You may still have love/feelings for your ex-fiance but is it love love or just you care about him in a friendly way love. Those feelings will never go away, trust me, mine haven't and I'll always care for his health and well being and love him that way ONLY!! If your heart says to open it up to someone new and makes you happy, then go for it girl!!! GO GET YOUR MAN!!

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by jewel25

Good luck. I am with you on this one. I am not cooking, I will be going to my grandparents house. I am going to take the beautiful day we are going to have tomorrow to wash and detail the car for winter storage.

Thanks I'm gonna need it. I"m only 28 but I have a niece that's 31 and she will stay the night Wednesday and I don't feel like hearing her mouth. I'm not looking forward to that. However, it will be interesting doing the turkey stuffing, and all that other stuff. Travel safely to your grandparents, and I know you will have a blast with your baby. My hubby is going to wash our vehicles today it rained a few days back and they look like poop!!

[jewel25]

Originally Posted by Mysteek

Thanks I'm gonna need it. I"m only 28 but I have a niece that's 31 and she will stay the night Wednesday and I don't feel like hearing her mouth. I'm not looking forward to that. However, it will be interesting doing the turkey stuffing, and all that other stuff. Travel safely to your grandparents, and I know you will have a blast with your baby. My hubby is going to wash our vehicles today it rained a few days back and they look like poop!!

Congrats I didn't know you are having a baby. When are you due?


It has been raining here since Sunday night. I am going to be sad dropping off my baby girl to get stored.

[Mysteek]

Originally Posted by jewel25

Congrats I didn't know you are having a baby. When are you due?


It has been raining here since Sunday night. I am going to be sad dropping off my baby girl to get stored.

Oh shoot!! I'm 28 years old, but yes I'm prego too. Thanks! I'm 20 weeks and 4 days today. I'm due on April 9th, but I"m having a repeat C-Section (my first was an emergency one) so it will be the week before. UNLESS, he comes early like his brother. Yeah, I have been blessed with 2 boys. My son who is 3 (4 next month) his name is Austin Jace, and this one will be Caleb Ryan. I'm excited!! Last and final one. Ecomony is too crazy to keep having any more.

That bites about living up north. I'm happy I'm down in the Southern part of NM, we rarely get snow or rain. So Camaro time YEAR ROUND BABY!!!

[jewel25]

Originally Posted by Mysteek

Oh shoot!! I'm 28 years old, but yes I'm prego too. Thanks! I'm 20 weeks and 4 days today. I'm due on April 9th, but I"m having a repeat C-Section (my first was an emergency one) so it will be the week before. UNLESS, he comes early like his brother. Yeah, I have been blessed with 2 boys. My son who is 3 (4 next month) his name is Austin Jace, and this one will be Caleb Ryan. I'm excited!! Last and final one. Ecomony is too crazy to keep having any more.

That bites about living up north. I'm happy I'm down in the Southern part of NM, we rarely get snow or rain. So Camaro time YEAR ROUND BABY!!!

April 9th is a good date. That is the day I adopted Jewel.

I like the names you have for your boys. How does Austin like the Camaro?