The Worst day of m life...

[2010 SSRS]

wow, that is very sad, I am so sorry.

[MaRoFreK]

Sorry for your loss man! Stay Strong

[~Stacy~]

That definately is bad news. Sorry for your loss! 43 is DEFINTALEY way to young to die. My mom's only brother died of a massive heart attack at 37 years of age:(

[Hawgredcamaro]

I so feel for you. I lost my mom when I was 16. I was a big momma's boy and it was very hard on me. The one thing that kept me going was thinking what would she want for me. I'm sure your dad would want you to carry on as best as you can and make him proud of you in everything you do. He's still watching you and I pray you can come out of this stronger than you ever were.
God bless you!

[LittleRockCGM]

I am so sorry - I lost my father almost exactly the same way many years ago. The only thing I ever wanted him to do was see me finish medical school - he had sacrificed so much to help me get there - he died months short of seeing that dream come true.

My point - you obviously have a future, you are college bound - you owe it to him and yourself to try to focus and do your best as I'm sure that is what he would want. Time will cure a lot of this but not all. Don't ever forget what he has given to raise you and help you - honor him with your best effort.

[lakersftbl69]

That's terrible I'm sorry to here that I wish the best for you and your family

[Abygale]

Originally Posted by Airjoker

Last night my dad was doing his usual workout and was doing some jump rope, about 30 mins in to it I hear him fall on the ground, and my mom screaming. I run in the bedroom and see him collapsed on the ground not breathing. I perform CPR until the fire dept. arrives and they give him a shock, loads of medicine, and compressions for 40 mins. Is heart would start beating again so on 1-25-11 around 11pm they announced my father dead, possibly from a massive heart attack, he was 43, my mom 39, my brother 13, and me 16. My mom and my grandma (my dad's mom) have been continuously crying for the last 10 hours and I feel completely hopeless. This year has seemed to turn for the worst, this is the year for SAT's, ACT's, and college applications and is one of the most important years in my life for education and this has added lots of stress. I seriously have no idea what to do anymore.

Wow, I haven't been on this site in months and your post is the one that caught my eye. At first I wasn't going to reply, but then I felt that I should....so to answer your question....

....you move on. You pick up the pieces, and each day put your right foot in front of the left, then the left in front of the right and you keep going. Some days you will feel like you have to lift each leg with your arms to get them to move, but do it.

Others have told you to be strong, and you need to do that, but that doesn't mean you have to be strong alone. Stay close to your family, as someone else already recommended let your school know about the tragedy, you will probably want to get family counseling as well.

Being strong doesn't mean you can't cry, that you can't be mad, that you can't experience the loss and void from losing your father, that you can't question "why," you can and should allow yourself to experience all of that, it's part of the grieving and healing process.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, keep reaching out to your friends like you did here, and then you'll know exactly what you should do next.

[Da Hose]

Originally Posted by Abygale

Wow, I haven't been on this site in months and your post is the one that caught my eye. At first I wasn't going to reply, but then I felt that I should....so to answer your question....

....you move on. You pick up the pieces, and each day put your right foot in front of the left, then the left in front of the right and you keep going. Some days you will feel like you have to lift each leg with your arms to get them to move, but do it.

Others have told you to be strong, and you need to do that, but that doesn't mean you have to be strong alone. Stay close to your family, as someone else already recommended let your school know about the tragedy, you will probably want to get family counseling as well.

Being strong doesn't mean you can't cry, that you can't be mad, that you can't experience the loss and void from losing your father, that you can't question "why," you can and should allow yourself to experience all of that, it's part of the grieving and healing process.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, keep reaching out to your friends like you did here, and then you'll know exactly what you should do next.

Well Said Aby!!!!!!

[radz28]

Holly crap...

I'm truly sorry for your loss. It sounded completely unexpected. I'm not good at this sort of thing, but I will say you and your family will be in my prayers and to try to keep your chin up. You don't want to hear this is part of life, but know that he'd want you to remember him and move on. I'd just try to focus on being there for your little bro' and your mom and be the "man". No one should have to do that at your age, but I'm sure you can find the strength. Make sure you take time to grieve, too, but try to be there for your family, too. This is going to be a tough time for all of you.

Hang in there, man

Respectfully...

[WildBill]

Originally Posted by Airjoker

Last night my dad was doing his usual workout and was doing some jump rope, about 30 mins in to it I hear him fall on the ground, and my mom screaming. I run in the bedroom and see him collapsed on the ground not breathing. I perform CPR until the fire dept. arrives and they give him a shock, loads of medicine, and compressions for 40 mins. Is heart would start beating again so on 1-25-11 around 11pm they announced my father dead, possibly from a massive heart attack, he was 43, my mom 39, my brother 13, and me 16. My mom and my grandma (my dad's mom) have been continuously crying for the last 10 hours and I feel completely hopeless. This year has seemed to turn for the worst, this is the year for SAT's, ACT's, and college applications and is one of the most important years in my life for education and this has added lots of stress. I seriously have no idea what to do anymore.

WOw man. Sorry to hear of your loss of your Father. While it is pretty traumatic what you went thru, you have to remember that you were there to help your Father and were there when he passed. That means a lot and I'm sure your Father would be proud of you. I would be.
In this trip we call life, some of us have to grow pretty quick and take on a lot of responsibility. It seems that you have fallen into that role. All I can say to you is be strong for your family, yet still grieve for your father. This is very important to do! I lost my Father at a little bit later in life as you, but my duty to my country prevented me from truly grieving properly. You'll find yourself with some mundane problem and you'll think to yourself to ask your Dad. That's ok man. It's natural.

Be strong! Take one day at a time. Let yourself grieve for your loss. You can do it. Make your father proud young man.

[AnnaBear@SpartaChevy]

My heart breaks for you and your family.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Hang in there.

[JasonK]

Sorry to hear that, I lost my dad when I was 7 and my Mom when I was 27. It still hurts. Keep him in your heart, and step up for your little bro, he is going to need you.

[midnighter]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Hang in there. :(

[Tricky's SS]

Sorry for your loss, my prayers go out to you and your family. Always remember what your father taught you, and make him proud.