MALES: How involved were you with planning your wedding? Ladies, it's ok to comment - Page 2

mth35115 · 04-19-2010, 10:22 PM

My daughter got married in '07, big wedding, a good wedding is worth their weight in gold. I just got married March 13, 2010, about 35 guests, got an official from the courthouse and we were married in our back yard and a great time was had by all. Put your girl friend on the spot, have her deside what kind of wedding your having, because until that done nothing else can be planned.

Apex Motorsports · 04-20-2010, 08:47 AM

She basically asked me for my input on a couple of things and then told me when and where to show up. Not my kind of thing at all.

Angrybird 12 · 04-20-2010, 09:02 AM

First Marrage.... Equally, We eloped...
First marriage renewal of vowes... She did with her friends at the church...I just told her what I was going to wear..
First marriage lasted 33 years before my wife's passing//

Second marriage.. We eloped.. I arranged everything though...
2+ years and still going strong...

Recommendation: Elope and save the money for the Honeymoon...

2000v6 · 04-20-2010, 10:02 AM

Never been married, I'm way too young, lol. But if I ever do, I'm just going to pick the tux out and book the flight to the carribean, she'll do the rest

Ovenmitt · 04-20-2010, 10:11 AM

I showed up... and that's about it.

Bumblette · 04-20-2010, 10:23 AM

If I could go back and do it all over again I would save the money and put it towards something else! Not that I didn't like everything but all the planning and cost that goes into it for 10 minutes standing at the alter and 2 hrs of reception..kinda silly when you think about it. I say use the money you were going to spend on the wedding and go on a nice honeymoon. If you want/need to do a ceremony/reception then keep it small and simple. My friend spent $60,000 on her wedding only to get divorced 8 yrs later!
Buy a wedding planner book from Books-A-Million or Borders. It will tell you everything you need to do and what average cost is on everything. It will even give you websites to go to to order invitations and other things

Iwantone2 · 04-20-2010, 10:43 AM

I can't say anything because I'm not married...my brother however is taking the plunge later this year. I've asked him, "have you guys picked the place?" he would reply, "she's in charge of that..." anything i asked him, his reply would be "she's taking care of that..."

I think that when the time comes for me, I want to be able to have some input. Not because i'm a hopeless romantic, but I just don't like to be told what to do and I especially don't like to have other people have control over me.

hercamaro · 04-20-2010, 11:27 AM

My husband and I went to Key West and got married on the beach. It was my second marriage and his first. Originally we were going to do the "real" wedding but people started arguing (gotta love divorced families!) After trying to appease everyone and getting nowhere fast...both of us decided to solve the all our extended family problems by telling everyone that they were not envited to OUR wedding and that we were going to elope. Best decision we ever made and I wouldn't change one thing. Very easy....I can give you details on who we used if you want. Let me know :-) Good luck and both of you remember that this is YOUR wedding..no matter what everone says.

brandotron · 04-20-2010, 11:45 AM

I look forward to being married, not the actual wedding. I think (i hope) we plan on keeping it simple.

*Mindz* · 04-20-2010, 04:23 PM

I'm involved in quite a bit. most of the decisions we argue about because she wants my opinion and doesn't like it when I give it to her. I was worried about a few things and was able to step in at the beginning and take control of these things...

I wanted to pick the cake.
I wanted to pick my tux.
I wanted the food to taste good.
Once I heard the musician play a song, I wanted to set up the ceremony music.
I want my car parked outside the hotel right in front for pictures.

Other than that, everything has been "our" decision.

Wedding is in 5.5 weeks

nova · 04-20-2010, 04:33 PM

I was eyeball deep because I paid for about 90% of it. Thats a big part of the reason we had a fairly simple, inexpensive wedding. I told my wife we could either have a huge wedding and sit at home or have a simpler one and actually go on a honeymoon, there simply wasn't enough $$$ for both...

Angrybird 12 · 04-20-2010, 06:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mindz

I'm involved in quite a bit. most of the decisions we argue about because she wants my opinion and doesn't like it when I give it to her. I was worried about a few things and was able to step in at the beginning and take control of these things...

I wanted to pick the cake.
I wanted to pick my tux.
I wanted the food to taste good.
Once I heard the musician play a song, I wanted to set up the ceremony music.
I want my car parked outside the hotel right in front for pictures.

Other than that, everything has been "our" decision.

Wedding is in 5.5 weeks

Congratulations... Watch out for "Cold Feet"

*The_Blur* · 04-20-2010, 07:04 PM

I had about equal involvement with my wife as far as major decisions were concerned, but I gave her plenty of room to take the lead. She had a color in mind and some other ideas. I helped out with picking the DJ and photographer. She did most of the work. She's very organized.

PQ · 04-21-2010, 11:16 AM

Honestly. Me and Bonnie had about the same amount of involvement. NONE. It was her mother who did it all.

I just stood where I was told to stand and did what I was told to do. lol

It was great though and to be fair, we were married in Baton Rouge while living in Seattle so we were very greatful that we had her to do it.

04-19-2010, 10:22 PM	#15
mth35115 Drives: 2010 Camaro rs/ss inferno orange Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 232	My daughter got married in '07, big wedding, a good wedding is worth their weight in gold. I just got married March 13, 2010, about 35 guests, got an official from the courthouse and we were married in our back yard and a great time was had by all. Put your girl friend on the spot, have her deside what kind of wedding your having, because until that done nothing else can be planned. __________________ HOT ROD SS MTH35115

04-20-2010, 09:02 AM	#17
Angrybird 12 7 year Cancer Survivor! Drives: 17 Cruze RS, 07 G6 GT, 99 Astro Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: East Tennessee Posts: 21,546	First Marrage.... Equally, We eloped... First marriage renewal of vowes... She did with her friends at the church...I just told her what I was going to wear.. First marriage lasted 33 years before my wife's passing// Second marriage.. We eloped.. I arranged everything though... 2+ years and still going strong... Recommendation: Elope and save the money for the Honeymoon... __________________ Cancer's a bitch! Enjoy life while you can! LIVE, LOVE, DRIVE... The Bird is the word!

04-20-2010, 10:23 AM	#20
Bumblette VIN # A9000049 Drives: 2010 Camaro CTF #49 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Chiefland, FL Posts: 224	If I could go back and do it all over again I would save the money and put it towards something else! Not that I didn't like everything but all the planning and cost that goes into it for 10 minutes standing at the alter and 2 hrs of reception..kinda silly when you think about it. I say use the money you were going to spend on the wedding and go on a nice honeymoon. If you want/need to do a ceremony/reception then keep it small and simple. My friend spent $60,000 on her wedding only to get divorced 8 yrs later! Buy a wedding planner book from Books-A-Million or Borders. It will tell you everything you need to do and what average cost is on everything. It will even give you websites to go to to order invitations and other things __________________ CTF # 49 ..Jen...

04-20-2010, 10:43 AM	#21
Iwantone2 Voice Of The Voiceless Drives: CGM 1SS RS Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: OC Cali Posts: 9,610 View My Garage	I can't say anything because I'm not married...my brother however is taking the plunge later this year. I've asked him, "have you guys picked the place?" he would reply, "she's in charge of that..." anything i asked him, his reply would be "she's taking care of that..." I think that when the time comes for me, I want to be able to have some input. Not because i'm a hopeless romantic, but I just don't like to be told what to do and I especially don't like to have other people have control over me. __________________

04-20-2010, 11:45 AM	#23
brandotron I am the internets. Drives: dangerously Join Date: May 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 12,571 View My Garage	I look forward to being married, not the actual wedding. I think (i hope) we plan on keeping it simple. __________________

04-20-2010, 08:47 AM	#16
Apex Motorsports Drives: 2000 Camaro SS Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Louisville, Ky. Posts: 25,165	She basically asked me for my input on a couple of things and then told me when and where to show up. Not my kind of thing at all.

04-20-2010, 10:02 AM	#18
2000v6 Drives: 2003 m3, 2000 camaro v6, 2004 s4 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: ny Posts: 1,125 View My Garage	Never been married, I'm way too young, lol. But if I ever do, I'm just going to pick the tux out and book the flight to the carribean, she'll do the rest

04-20-2010, 10:11 AM	#19
Ovenmitt Account Suspended Drives: 2011 RJT 1SS Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Fort Lewis, Washington Posts: 730	I showed up... and that's about it.

04-20-2010, 11:27 AM	#22
hercamaro Drives: 2012 Camaro 2SS RS Red w/black Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Richardson/Garland TX Posts: 157	My husband and I went to Key West and got married on the beach. It was my second marriage and his first. Originally we were going to do the "real" wedding but people started arguing (gotta love divorced families!) After trying to appease everyone and getting nowhere fast...both of us decided to solve the all our extended family problems by telling everyone that they were not envited to OUR wedding and that we were going to elope. Best decision we ever made and I wouldn't change one thing. Very easy....I can give you details on who we used if you want. Let me know :-) Good luck and both of you remember that this is YOUR wedding..no matter what everone says.

04-20-2010, 04:23 PM	#24
Mindz E.B.A.H. Drives: you wild... Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: In the happy padded room wearing a jacket that makes me hug myself... Posts: 18,420	I'm involved in quite a bit. most of the decisions we argue about because she wants my opinion and doesn't like it when I give it to her. I was worried about a few things and was able to step in at the beginning and take control of these things... I wanted to pick the cake. I wanted to pick my tux. I wanted the food to taste good. Once I heard the musician play a song, I wanted to set up the ceremony music. I want my car parked outside the hotel right in front for pictures. Other than that, everything has been "our" decision. Wedding is in 5.5 weeks __________________ Blue Rush, 2010 SS [Car of the Week 3/22/2010] Traded in on...ZLZBUBB, 2013 ZL1

04-20-2010, 04:33 PM	#25
nova Drives: 2010 Camaro 2SS/RS, VR, PW, WR Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Huntsville, AL Posts: 838 View My Garage	I was eyeball deep because I paid for about 90% of it. Thats a big part of the reason we had a fairly simple, inexpensive wedding. I told my wife we could either have a huge wedding and sit at home or have a simpler one and actually go on a honeymoon, there simply wasn't enough $$$ for both... __________________ 2010 2SS/RS, M6,VR,White Rally's,Polished Wheels Mods: skip shift eliminator (hey everybody's gotta start somewhere ) crappily painted engine cover...

04-20-2010, 07:04 PM	#27
The_Blur Moderator Drives: 2018 Harley-Davidson Street Bob Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: San Diego Posts: 14,768	I had about equal involvement with my wife as far as major decisions were concerned, but I gave her plenty of room to take the lead. She had a color in mind and some other ideas. I helped out with picking the DJ and photographer. She did most of the work. She's very organized. __________________ RDP Motorsport//GEN5DIY//Cultrag Performance//JPSS//Rodgets Chevrolet// Operation Demon//Buy at Invoice//RACECARWEAR RESPECT ALL CARS. LOVE YOUR OWN. warn 145:159 ban

04-21-2010, 11:16 AM	#28
PQ Booooosted. Drives: 2010 Supercharged SS Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Mobile, AL Posts: 36,717 View My Garage	Honestly. Me and Bonnie had about the same amount of involvement. NONE. It was her mother who did it all. I just stood where I was told to stand and did what I was told to do. lol It was great though and to be fair, we were married in Baton Rouge while living in Seattle so we were very greatful that we had her to do it. __________________