I experienced the same treatment from the older generation in my family. My mother, aunts, and uncles expect me to make the effort, sacrifice the time, drive the distance, or take whatever means necessary to come visit THEM. Never mind the fact they were all retired.
Oh, and it appears to me when they got older and retired, their dial pads from all of the phones disappeared. God help me if I forgot to call them, but they feel they should never HAVE to call me.
Not just the kids the world is revolving around.
During my last visit, however, my sister met me half way for a visit. We had a great meal and a great time! Neither of us put out more effort than the other. Wow!
rant over