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Well this is a loose loose for you. Sorry, its just that way. I always laughed at the whole "parents, be strict on your kids" campaign because it would just prompt me to do more and more. It is like a game, im going to do what i want and the harder you try to stop me the more im going to enjoy doing it.
You cant stop her from doing it, but you can make her see what that road leads to. I know a guy who brought his kid into our local jail regularly to see what drugs and crime led too. I think he even left his son in jail for a couple of days after he was caught with alcohol on school property. Sounds drastic, but in the long run its not going to change anything... she will either get your message or not.
My personal suggestion is talk to her about it, let her know that we have all been there but let her know that people die from drunk driving and smoking every year. Stop her from smoking, thats the big one. Personally I promised myself that i'd never smoke anything and I held that promise... but drinking went on.
Few years back a buddy in my social circle (high school) died in a drunk driving crash. After that the parents of all the kids vowed to play DD for their sons/daughters. My dad picked me up from places we hung out at if we'd been drinking, or if i had people over to my own house their parents did the same. It effectively solved the problem, and with the drinking being so open with my parents it reduced the urge to go overboard... it made everything more normal. No one got hurt again.
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