Ok this is how last night went with my just turned 16 year old. Her weekend curfew is 11:00. Well she calls us at 10:30 and says a friend has been in an accident and she wants to check on them. Says she will be home soon. So around 1:15am not a word from her. We have called her cell many times. So I start texting her. She does respond to that. Says she will be home in a while and they had to go to the police station. So I call my buds at the PD and they did not see my daughter there at all. She finally does come home but is parked in a car outside the bush line so we could not see them for about 15 minutes. Comes tromping in at 3:00 AM and wants to know why we want to have a talk with her.
We start talking to her and she keeps looking at her cell phone. BOOM Kathie gets pissed and takes the phone away. The kid is slurring her words, eyes glassy over and can't even stand up straight without rocking back and forth. And she smells of cig smoke.
Now I am the step dad even though I have raised her since she was 4. This is the 3rd time this week she has pissed me off and now has her mom mad. I say grounded until she moves out of my house after high school. But of coarse that will never fly. I did tell her and will try to reinforce it that if I smell smoke on her one more time grounded for 1 week.
All her friends she says smoke. I look at it this way, 16-17 years old smoking is againts the law and if they will do that they will drink.
Any input gang?