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Originally Posted by Dragoneye

That's terrible. I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(

If it were me in that unimaginable situation...I don't think I could actually press charges against him. No matter how rotten...I just don't think I could do that to family.

However, if it's not explicitly stated in a will that you must split everything half and half...I wouldn't give him a dime. Admittedly, he did take care of her while she was sick...but that sort of behavior warrants no 'reward'. He took his share already.

Again...very, very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

Respect for what you're saying here but family is more than the blood only. Fomily deserves more tolerance than other people but even family has to BE a part of the family. It's a very tough situation having had a family member hooked on Meth ourselves. They can get off of the addiction but accountability must be held. This situation warrants an arrest AND an expulsion.

That's not to say there is a right way or a wrong way to handle this but sometimes 'tough love' is necessary. It can be looked at as if he loved his brother he would have him arrested and keep his portion of the money for after he sobers up. He needs to get away from the girl and ALL of the people he associates with. I flew my bro here to Alabama to get him completely away from the people he was with. He was here for almost two years, away from his kids even, and is now off the meth and doing well.
Prison is NOT a rehab clinic but he can get the help he needs if he asks.

Originally Posted by 1320junkie

Sorry about your mom....on your brother...I wouldnt call the cops on him and I still would do what your mom wished for you to do with the money...that's a mothers love...and if he squanders it or whatever you will have a clear conscious because you DID DO what your mother wanted done...at the end of the day he is still your brother and you know how to deal with him...follow your heart and not your mind...and go with that

Mothers can typicaly be enablers. To a terrible degree. The ones who overenable a child are just not strong enough to dole out the 'tough love' but would be absolutely happy with the results. I don't assume that is the situation here but it sounds very familiar. Again, there probably is no one way to handle this situation but I think keeping the money until he is clean and sobre is perfectly fair. If that means sending the brother 'away' for a while, then so be it.

That being said, I have much more tolerance for an addiction to prescription drugs because it's usually an addiction due to a long term treatment or cronic condition. (not condoning, just saying) But recreational drugs are reprehensable and pathetic. JMO. I am still addicted to smokes. I say this because I still crave them. And I'm of the opinion that pot should be legal but this guy has gotten himself hooked on Meth. That's just pathetic. Tough love and seperation, is what this guy needs.

Originally Posted by GTAHVIT

At some point people must be held accountable... Maybe it's time for him to pay the price for his behavior.

If you want, set some of that money aside, should he prove that he's clean. But I agree, you may have to be relentless on him for a while... My step brother and My Father both completely recovered from drug and alcohol addictions... So, it is possible. But it took years, not months or days for them to prove it to the family...

I'm very sorry about your mother.

OP, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I still have both of my parents and so does Bonnie so I can't imagine. I pray that the Lord has given her comfort and rest and that you and yours can be comforted right now after your great loss. I agree with Mlee, give it some time to all calm down before you make a decision.