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Often times, when a kid is bullied, they end up becoming a bully as well. Even if they fight back, things don't change. I see it with my family. Can't tell you how many times he was suspended from school for fighting back. Eventually the police did get involved. The kid started bullying younger, smaller kids and was charged with robbery (stealing a younger kids Halloween candy and punching him in the process) - severe charges. He went through the system and although he received a conditional discharge based on behavior in the almost year later, he now has a record until he's 21. Has it changed his response to how he's treated? Ya, he doesn't go out anymore, has low self esteem, all because he has for years been the victim of bullying.
The point is the bullying needs to stop. So Mary punches Sally in the face. Sally just moves on to the next kid. Problem now moves to someone else.
Kids who are bullying need stronger consequences. Police get involved, kid gets charged, ends up with a record, community service, curfews etc. You really think the other kids will still think Sally is "cool"? Not likely.
Op, I hope your school and police do the right thing and treat it with respect it deserves. I hope your granddaughter stands proud for finally speaking up and getting some help. Many kids don't and chose drugs, alcohol to cope or ultimately suicide.
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