Originally Posted by 2012-1822
I want to speak my mind, but frankly it would sound like I'm joking, trolling, or trying to be other than helpful(which is totally not the case), so I'll lead out with something else.
My brother and his wife, who happen to really be like best friends that got married, did a joint bachelor/bachelorette party with all of their friends, the best man(me), the maid of honor(bride's sister) and the minister(not joking). So we went to New Orleans for the wedding, and did the party on Bourbon street the night before including a strip club. Where as lap dances were paid for, it was all out in the open, no one in a back room and all that, so it was on the up and up. That's one solution, I'm guessing it won't work for you.
Yes the guys that say a happy wife leads to a happy life are correct. I'm a little serious when I say drop what you are doing and go watch Guess Who with Ashton Kutcher and Bernie Mac. Listen to Bernie's speech to Ashton about "Do you lover her?" If the answer is yes, then she's always right.
Your fiancee is about to become your family and needs to come before all others, and the same goes for the other way around, you should come before all others for her. That is the plain and simple truth. If anyone ever reads this and thinks that isn't true about the one they are about to marry, stop right now, don't get married.
Side note to that one is that women don't tend to like each other, even sisters and what not. They are jealous and competitive. So basically as time goes on your wife will not care for you having a female best friend anymore, sorry to tell you.
All that being stated. The not being in one of your best friend's wedding because your "to be" didn't want to see you in a tux sounds controlling and selfish. I think honestly there are more issues at stake. Basically, the two of you need to communicate your feelings better, and do it now, don't wait. After the wedding you'll be in the honeymoon both figuratively and literally, so it'll probably be sweet and nice and you both will ignore things, like maybe you leave your underwear sitting out or something. And don't take that as a literal example, just insert whatever there. The point is really that if you haven't gone through premarital counseling with some kind of professional or religious leader then I highly recommend that you do so to help you work out things like the question you have really asked.
I'm honestly leaving what I really think off, starting right here. But best of luck to you, don't let things build up inside, always communicate them with your fiancee.
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