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Originally Posted by 11BEE
I have many female friends and have never thought of them in a sexual way. Maybe it is because I am married and love my wife dearly. I would never do anything to mess that up. Maybe it is because I am more experienced in life and know how to control my zipper and mind better. That does not matter. What matters is men and women can be friends.
What I do know is trust your gut. My ex wife had multiple affairs while we were married. I always suspected, but never confirmed them until we separated. I should have left years earlier. My gut knew. Trust your gut.
As for reading her messages. First, you should NEVER have done that. When you bring distrust to a relationship you kill the relationship. You cannot confront her without loosing her trust. You cannot live with that for life without it eating you up. So it sounds like you have already put the nail in the coffin.
When you find another special lady, expect the best and trust her. Women are far smarter than us men when it comes to feelings. She knows you don't trust her. Believe me.
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Like the positive feed back like this one. I didn't actually hammer the nail in yet. She doesn't know I peeked at the message and I didn't mention it to her. I just see it for myself. The thing is she is such a match for me and we dated 14 years ago and are meant for each other. Trust is one thing but if she is denying that they may have been involved to me then that isn't fair to me either. I am not the type to snoop around and I hate gossip and nosing into other peoples business but my gut wanted to see if my instinct was right or not. Also there was a time that she had 2 condoms left in the drawer and the next time there were missing. I know I threw out the Magnum condoms but the 2 For Her Pleasure condoms I am sure I left them in the drawer. When they were missing I was shocked. She said stop counting condoms will ya and use what is there. Well the other brand type that was there broke and almost ended up in a bread in the over type of situation
. Turns out no bread was made and whew thank God for that.