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I have many female friends and have never thought of them in a sexual way. Maybe it is because I am married and love my wife dearly. I would never do anything to mess that up. Maybe it is because I am more experienced in life and know how to control my zipper and mind better. That does not matter. What matters is men and women can be friends.

What I do know is trust your gut. My ex wife had multiple affairs while we were married. I always suspected, but never confirmed them until we separated. I should have left years earlier. My gut knew. Trust your gut.

As for reading her messages. First, you should NEVER have done that. When you bring distrust to a relationship you kill the relationship. You cannot confront her without loosing her trust. You cannot live with that for life without it eating you up. So it sounds like you have already put the nail in the coffin.

When you find another special lady, expect the best and trust her. Women are far smarter than us men when it comes to feelings. She knows you don't trust her. Believe me.