[jewel25]

Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl

I don't know what to do about the best friend (Christa) deal. We've known each other since I moved to Arkansas in sixth grade. She has another friend, Julie, who she introduced me to a couple years ago and we all became like the three musketeers. When Julie got a divorce, I helped her move out of her house (everything in like 12 hours), paid to get her lights and water and gas turned on, gave her grocery money, gave her daughter my childhood bed to sleep in, ran her around to job interviews, bought her all kinds of stuff.

Julie started dating this guy who was kind of a jerk, very obsessive and controlling and manipulative, liked to emotionally abuse her. She got fed up one night and she and Christa came to my house to get away and vent. I told her I was worried about how he treats her and if they don't get it figured out fast then they'd never work out-- it was scary to have those kind of problems early on and he was acting crazy.

Well she didn't tell me but apparently what I said pissed her off. Julie continued to contact me asking me for rides, money or for my pain medication, up until two months ago. All of my friends' families were going to the pumpkin patch and I asked Christa if I could go too, because I'd never been. She told me that wasn't a good idea because Julie was mad at me, then Christa told me the BS reason why. I immediately texted Julie and apologized and told her if I'd hurt or upset her she needed to tell me. She won't respond.

Christa says we are both her friends and she is not picking sides, but since this all came down, Christa doesn't invite me to do things anymore. Julie is with her all the time, and Christa has been having football parties, thanksgiving get-togethers, all of that stuff-- and not inviting me. I took Christa to a private Junior League event last week and bought her $200 worth of clothes because she is broke, and haven't hardly heard from her since. I told her Saturday I wanted to come to the Thanksgiving party so I could see all of our friends and get to have a Thanksgiving, and I felt like I'm being punished by her and like she has chosen sides. Christa said she wasn't getting into it with me and to have a nice night. She was out running around with Julie and our friend Kelly after their big Thanksgiving bash which I wasn't invited to.

What do you guys think? Do I write her off? I'm so hurt. It seems to me like she has chosen sides.

I always say. Toss out the bitches, there is more bitches in the world for you to be friends with.