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Originally Posted by Ark5thGenGirl
Basically, it boils down to having to make a choice.
I've been seeing a great guy. Known him for years (he was friends with an ex of mine in college) and he and I have been having a wonderful time together. I like him more every day. I could see us having a great future together.
Then I have my ex, who really hurt me. I gave him multiple chances to make things right with me-- but he continued to lie, cheat on me and drink too much. To be fair to him, he has had a very rough life-- his brother died in high school, his dad abused him and his parents got an ugly divorce where his mom got nothing and raised him and his sister in poverty. We're from two different worlds. I had to let him go because I couldn't handle the alcohol, abuse and lying anymore. I've given him no less than half a dozen chances to straighten it all out and until the last time I threw him out of my house-- about a year ago-- he never did try to make it right.
Now he is recovering from alcoholism. He's stopped drinking and is getting his life straight, and I'm seeing in him glimpses of who I fell in love with five years ago, and the man I wanted to marry. But he's done so much damage and my family and friends can't stand him.
Part of me has been waiting to see if maybe he could get it right this time-- and part of me is telling I should be with other guy. I don't know what to do, and it absolutely sucks. I'm terrified that if I choose other guy and it doesn't work out, I'll have lost my last chance with ex-fiancee. But another part of me says that it'll work out with new guy, who makes me very happy, and that my ex had his chance and I need to just really, truly let him go and go be happy with new guy.
I don't know what to do :(
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Girl I could go on and on about this. My advice is to foget about the ex, but you need to follow your heart. I was fighting with this same thing for the last several months but I know in my heart that my ex would just go back to being the ass he always was. I had to let go to see that someone could treat me as wonderful as G.
I say give the new guy a chance you never know he could be the one and if it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be.