[Matrix]

You CANNOT TOTALLY Love someone if you CANNOT TOTALLY TRUST them. There are clear warning signs in this relationship, but I do feel for you because you seem like the sort that would like to work this out and for that I give you respect.

It seems your gf has a lot to get out of her system, and I, like you, also feel, going to a bar without you is NOT conducive to a healthy relationship, especially when trust issues are involved.

Maybe you just have to wise up that your gf doesnt need or isnt ready for a final relationship.

I think some discussions are in order, in order to proceed with the same goals.

If you dont have the same goals, well you are doomed and its better to bail than to steer someone that isnt planning on going your direction with you.

Good luck!