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Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom
Hey - I'm the stepmom, and I'm the one saying he SHOULD get expelled, even if it means I'm going to pay extra for a kid that's not mine! It's lack of real-life consequences that has turned today's young society into what it is, IMHO...
I don't think the spanking he got last night had any impact on him, except maybe a bruise on his butt cheek, that's why I was against that form of punishment. He doesn't seem to care about being "grounded" - he's perfectly content watching paint dry. Physical labor? Well, I've got a heck of a lot of yard work to be done, but he's in decent shape for a 12 year old, he won't care...
I've got to convince my husband and his ex wife of a really good way to make the kid CARE about what he's done... Carrying a weapon to school is NOT OK. But then, it's really up to them, I've got no REAL impact.  |
He doesn't have to CARE, you just have to make him wished he had cared. But I understand you are in a bad position. True society is more worried about their feeling etc... bull lack of consequences to their action is the reason this country is in the shape it is in now, but I digress.
I duuno, is like F-you from a kid and we all know it. The only thing that changes behavior is pain, not always physical but pain none the less. Get into HIS value system whatever that is. He values something, he like something, he wants something and take it away until he complies.