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Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom
I agree with a lot of what you say. BUT, I'm the stepmom - I can give advice, but ultimately, it's not up to me. I'm for corporal punishment, but at some age it stops working, and I think it was around 8 or 9 for my stepson. So, I don't think a spanking did much good. (my hubby did spank him last night).
The bus driver found it - so, technically, he was on school property... She just happens to like him, so she called his mom rather than turning him in... Who knows? Maybe she will turn him in today when she gets to the school...
I like the ideas of touring the jail - scared straight - we know some LEOs, see what we can do....
Thanks for all the input! We would really like to turn my stepson around before he really heads down the wrong path....
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I have a 17 yr old stepson and the only way for me to keep my sanity and marriage intact was to mentally dissasociate myself from the "strong parent" role in my stepson's life. Earlier in his life I noticed that he did not learn what I was "preaching" but he did learn how to "preach".
It was like looking in a mirror only what HE was saying was a load of crap. He is such a bonehead!
I have since limited my involvement to supporting his mother and preventing any seriously unsafe activity or disrespect to the family. It works better that way for everyone. She has the parent job, I will advise her (and him) and let him be more responsible for his actions. I like to think of this as as planting seeds for the future. You reap what you sow but it takes a while. You do not want to teach him to be mean. My stepson is far from what we would like for him to be and what he could be, but he has positively surprised us here in the last few years. The grades are a constant battle due to his lazyness but the ACT scores show that he is not a dummy so we are backing off. He IS a good kid but he is the laziest person I know. You have to let them find themselves at some point.
Keep being involved, prevent any dangerous activity and stay on top of the things that are most important. Let the little stuff go and see if he can figure it out for himself. JMO.
Good luck!
-Mark.