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Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom
Ya think???? He was a problem when he was younger, neither parent would discipline him, I actually went so far as to kick my hubby and him out of my house (this was before we were married) partly because of his behavior! I thought he had changed his ways once he got into football, he really was behaving well. Then, raging hormones kicked in and the ONLY thing he worries about is impressing girls - not in the right ways, apparently...  |
Your step-son sounds normal. You should find a creative outlet for him to keep him occupied or to obtain affirmation in life. All (straight) guys like to impress women. What he should do is use women as a motivation to be successful. You could tell him that. MOST women like guys who have goals in life.
Explain to him that he can get any woman who wants if he just stays out of trouble and behaves in a high class way. Encourage him to think about the future. Warn him that there are no jobs available and he might want to think about college. But if he wants to work at Walmart till he is 65, tell him you respect his decision to do so. Warn him to use protection if he is fooling around with any girl who says yes.
I believe you can "reach" that kid if you just look him in the eye and tell him you care about him and you don't want anything bad to ever happen to him. Just look him in the eye and be serious. Try to offer to help and TRY to be empathetic. Put your hand on his shoulder. Don't treat him like he is worthless, or he will behave like that.