AA PM I got recently. Thought I'd share.
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anonymous
If you dont mind i got a question for ya.
Does having a pretty wife cause any relationship issues?
My wife is very pretty and a model like yours and i have a hard time not being jealous and it causes alot of issue's.
Its the guys just keep hitting on her at work and everywhere. Even facebook they are all over her. Sometimes it just drives me crazy.
You face any of this and how do you deal with it?
Thanks in advance.......and feel free to tell me to go away........lol
You only have to trust one person. Simple.
For me, my father taught me that jealousy is the most common and first dagger in the death of a couple as far as being a couple. I taught myself to go into ANY and EVERY relationship with the idea that it's just temporary. If you don't care what she does then she can't feel smothered. Thit way if she leaves, you're not too bothered by it, and it isn't because you were jealous. You weren't, you just let her be herself. You gotta be careful though. You don't want her to feel like you just don't care about
anything having to do with the possible advancement of a possible relationship, even though you don't. This is in the very beggining of course. If things work out, then you'll care for HER, but still allow her to be her. You'll care for her safety and well being but other than that, you still won't care what she does or who she sees and where she goes. She'll tell you what's going on and that should be good enough. You'll know when you can trust her. She will let you know. NOT by telling you, but by how she loves you. Not physicaly, but love is shown by what we do.
I know Bonnie is a big girl. She can take care of herself as far as guys hitting on her. Of course I've dealt with it. For the passed almost 19 years since early 1992 when I met her. I think it's funny most of the time. If Bonnie wants me to put a stop to something when someone doesn't get the hint, then I will. And have. But VERY seldom. Most women want to feel like they are desired. Nothing wrong with that. A little flirting is normal. I don't expect her to flash her wedding ring everytime a cashier or waitor walks up.
If someones obvious attraction to her is exciting or makes her feel good, I'm perfectly fine wiht that.
Basicaly I feel if I'm gonna be jealous, then life sucks. The minute I'm bothered by her walking out the door, as far as wondering where she's going and what she's doing from a jealousy standpoint, then I'm just getting a divorce. Because you can't enjoy the union like that. It's a misserable life to live with jealousy. For both sides. I've seen it. It really is pathetic. Bonnie is free to go where she wants, and see who she wants. I don't have to know who and where. She's earned that. And I have to. There is no place and nowhere and nothing I wouldn't let her go and do and see if she wanted.
Tons of guys hitting on her? No problem, I just have to know HER. And that takes care of all them.
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Great advice and may be the saving grace of my depressed and miserable state of mind im at right.
Thanks again.
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Most of that process doesn't work unless you used it from the beggining. Because you weed out the wrong ones. At this point I'd say you just give her space and she should appreciate you for it.
Good luck. .