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I used to have similar problems with my girl. The truth is that nothing is the same when applied to men and women. The outputs are wildly different. You have to be able to maintain some semblance of your identity when you are with her. She should be able to respect that you are a man just as you should respect that she is a woman. Her interests will be fundamentally different than yours, but you should still pursue them to show that you care about the things that interest her. If she cares, she might learn a token thing or two about cars, sports, or something else that makes men operate.
This is not a sexist perspective. Women and men both have the capacity to do anything. It is a matter of social influence, biological components, and the way that she was raised that makes her so different from her. Remember that she gives you something that you couldn't get on your own. You might find someone else, but finding the right woman is important to helping a lot of men develop into the men that they want to be. Women are the same way. They find the men that make them happy about themselves. In order to get to that end, we go through a lot of different routes taking advice from some really bad advisors. I remember getting advice on women from a player in college. It was terrible advice, and following it would have made me sleazy.
The moral of the story is that something happened before you two were dating that made you date. You need to relive those experiences, and so many couples forget how they came to be. Whatever you did that made her love you, you need to do again. Take her out to the place where you first went out for a nice meal and remind her how much you love her. Tell her to get whatever she wants on the menu. Buy her a chocolate desert with raspberry sauce. Go home and watch one of her movies. If this type of routine isn't a sacrifice you are willing to endure for a couple days out of the month, then you might not be suitable for any woman. If you can handle something like this that would make any woman feel special, then she'll have every reason to appreciate you. Her failure to appreciate you being a good man is plenty of reason to leave, but you'll have no excuse if you don't try to make your relationship special before you leave.
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