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Originally Posted by bigted83
Alright I need some advice, girls feel free to chip in
Alright there's this girl I dated at one time for 9 months, and we broke up and didn't talk for sometime. Then we started talkIng again she made first contact. And dated again split up again, then we started talking again after she made first contact again. Dated again and everything. Then again split up. So then she started dating this other guy and we would talk thru text.they have split up and her and I are hanging out again and talking about dating if I change. I get jealous like u wouldn't believe. She has guy friends she texts and it bothers me cuz I assume she's doing something and I always need to be reassured and crap. She says she wants to be with me,but I'm not sure she really does. But then if I didn't mean anything to her she wouldn't talk to me or hang out with me? Is she playing me? As much as I want a camaro I would easily give up the camaro to be with her. This girl is and means the world to me?
Ted Williams
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Sir, I just got done reading this whole thread, and I've got to tell you, I feel horrible for you! Normally I'd spend all night long trying to write you something that you could really hang your hat on, but I just don't the have the time or the desire to do this tonight...for that I do apologize!
Long story short, you need to walk away from her and not look back!!!! If this gal wanted you and you alone, she never would be doing anything that would make you agonize, question, and distrust her like you do!
If you're determined to make something work with her, then you two have to be able to talk...and I mean REALLY TALK!!!! And in this particular situation that you've laid out, you need to clearly articulate not only what bothers you, but also to the depths in which it does!
If she is unwilling to take the time to talk about this fully and in all aspects...in it's totality, then walk away!
If she is unwilling to attempt to see things from your perspective, then walk away!
If that criteria is met, and she is still unwilling to do what she must make you know...not just believe, but KNOW that you are the One and Only Man in Her Life, then for your own peace of mind, you need to forget about her...COMPLETELY!!!! It'll be easier said that done, but done it must be!!!!
A Man must know he can trust his Woman...period!!!! He's got to be able to take her word as gospel in all things...there is no room for even the slightest doubt! Trust and Truth are everything, and if you don't have them, you'll never find true contentment in order to make the relationship grow and prosper! You simply can not spend your entire life watching her every move, always wondering this or that! It will end up becoming a self fulfilling prophecy, and will destroy both of you!
In your situation, it may require her to give a lot more in the give and take area than a 50 / 50 kind of split! But if you are indeed the man she wants, she'll gladly give freely what's necessary in order to provide you with the assurance you need, in order to make the love between the two of you blossom!
The last bit of advice I'll give you has to do with a couples ability to communicate with each other. Be open and direct, both talk and listen, and don't allow embarrassment, pride, or ego to get in the way of expressing and hearing each others wants and needs!
That's not to say you shouldn't stick to your GunSS when something is important...because you should! You'll never find true security if you don't! But if both people truly have respect and love for one another...there really is no problem that can't be solved!
Good luck to you Sir...I wish you well!