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Originally Posted by Iwantone2
Flirting is such a sensitive topic...We all "flirt" in different ways. Some women hit or punch and they see that as flirting. Some guys will be talking to a girl and out of the blue, will say something like "Hey, are your nails real?" (also known as "negging").
Some guy once told me, "Sometimes you need to know that 'you still got it', you know?" To myself, I though, "dude you're still married to your wife, so you obviously got it."
bigted63, you have to learn to cope with your jealousy brother. Women see that as a big turn off; they want a guy that is confident. Think back to the caveman days: The cavemen that had the most women were the ones that were the stronger ones. They could go out and kill a sabertooth tiger to provide for the family. Now to put this in perspective: women want a guy that is confident and be able to stand up for themselves. If a guy can't stand up for himself or protect himself, how will that same dude protect her if the time ever comes up?
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on flirting - it depends on HOW you do it and your intentions....I can flirt if need-be -- I am sinlge tho so....-- but flirting to me is just playing, I goof around with men and women -- it's just joking - there is nothing behind it. I don't make inappropriate comments "just because" or lead people on or sht like that....when it gets beyond "joking around" in an innocent way, into a more explicit way, then it's serious and THAT sht should NOT be done when you are with someone else.
I think it depends on the other person too -- I joke with my brother-in-law that he's my "secret lover" but we joke IN FRONT of my sister and she gets in on it too - she knows her husband is not going to cheat - and no WAY would I do anything of the sort to my family (friends or even strangers) let alone the fact that he's like a real brother...we are just goofy strange people and we CAN joke around.
I think you have to know the type of person you are with and their style -- some people innocently flirt (with or without realizing it) and other people push the limits and make it dis-respectful to their partner....any physical contact (of the "lovey" kind) kissing, etc - hell even TALKING dirty - to someone other then your partner is SO EFFING WRONG! That is cheating...sorry...
Joking like "hey baby" and winking at your friend and being overly goofy about it - and you partner knows you are just a goof-ball...eh..that's fine...
you just have to know how you behave, and how your parnter behaves and what's ok between the two of you....
When you get jealous that your 'other' is talking to other guys/girls and start thinking they are cheating - then...it's time to take a hike...
From what I've learned in realtionships - instinct is everything. If you think they are lying/cheating- they ARE -- if you think they are hiding something- they ARE...