Quote:
Originally Posted by bigted83
her and I are hanging out again and talking about dating if I change.
|
This might sting given how you feel towards her, but having not gotten married until I was 32, I have a little bit of dating under my belt. I am 40 and have been happily married for 8 years and have never looked back.... So I know what it is like to find the right person. I am not blasting you or attempting anything derogatory so please bear with me. Some of this may hit you like a brick, which is what it may take.
1. You do not need to change. I do not know you and I do not need to. You are who you are and that will be the case until you are buried. We do not change for other people, we just pretend in front of them. Life's events can change us but it takes a "rude awakening" type of even to make that happen.
2. She is f-ked in the head. Cut and dry. Either she does not know what she wants, or she wants everything. Either way brother.... It is not you. The caveat to this statement is that she wants you after you change which is NOT YOU.
3. She has no respect for you, and does not care about your feelings. She is selfish and only concerned with her own feelings and wants. If she gave a crap about you, she would have not played with you like a yo-yo back and forth like she has. You are a gap filler, when she has nothing better to do... you are the go to guy, once something fun comes alone your dumped.
I do not know her personally, but I do know girls like her. I have been in your shoes. You need to completely disconnect from her and let your feelings subside so your head takes over. If you have any true friends they are telling you the same thing. It is not what you want to hear but it is an accurate assessment of the situation with out involved emotions.
Any honest female reading this will agree. Best of luck....It's going to be rough.