[WadeWilson]

Originally Posted by el ess X

Well, I would never tell you to put it in God's hands because I don't believe in God. You need to take things into YOUR hands. YOU make your destiny. No one else.

Some sage advice has been given here. Probably the best yet is the consensus of be cautious, be there to support her emotionally as a FRIEND, but be VERY careful of letting your emotions run away with you and you do something you may regret later. I agree it really sounds like YOU are Plan B to her, so you need to make sure you have an exit strategy of your own should things not pan out the way you hope. Think with the big head. You have some hard decisions ahead of you, and this isn't one I'd casually make.

If she's going to say YES to a marriage proposal and it isn't you, then you should take that as a heavy weighing factor in your relationship with her. If she can go from breaking up with you, wanting to marry this guy, and then second-guessing her own commitment within 5 months or so, what makes you think she'll stay committed to anyone for any real length of time? Even you? While noble, just because this guy doesn't dote over her kid like you do doesn't mean he couldn't be a great step-father. To me, that's a non-starter. If he's got the 'nads to ask her to marry him, then he's (hopefully) already taken all that stuff into account.

I think you're just afraid of "losing her". Don't be. Remember, if you love it, let it go....I'd walk tentatively around this WHOLE thing. At this point in your life, there's other fish in the sea, dude, other fish in the sea.

Best of luck to y'all.

Well said