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Originally Posted by Xmicro_SS
The formula is pretty funny. Listen there is no formula, it is common sense and situational dependant.
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I agree, there is no real formula. This is just for those who don't have that common sense! Do I think that an 18 and 28 year old shouldn't go out if they choose? Of course not. It is a large gap and may not work in many cases, but in others it can turn out as it did for you.
Just as you said, it depends on the situation. Your situation worked between you and your wife at the time you met. But at one point you were 18 and she was 8. I'm pretty sure it would have been a problem then, and illegal in at least 49 states (not sure about West Virginia)
While I agree with you on that point, I'm not sure I agree that underage is always a no-no. Now, before you call Chris Hansen, I'm talking about situations like someone who is 18 dating someone who is 17. I suppose I should also include sex in the equation, because that is the actual part that is illegal. I think some states have gotten it right by putting laws in place to protect those who are technically adults (18) against being branded a sex offender for life if they have a sexual relationship with their 17 year old girlfriend.
In our original poster's case, I think the spread is way too wide, and wouldn't fall anywhere near the mark for being acceptable.
*Sorry WV, I had to pick someone to make the joke work...this time it was you.
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Originally Posted by Vladi
If they love each other why not???? if they really love each other,age doesn`t mean anything, and sorry for being rude this formula is bull.... age is no differents when two people love each other, if you notice that age is main thing in relationship,you`d never be happy,it is ridicilous to find your only one by matching criteries. as to the situation,why not,maybe they will be sweet couple for many many years,and will die at the same day  |
Okay, by your "age doesn't mean anything" logic and if "two people are in love" should we expect to see you in a relationship with a 7 year old? Age does matter.
Does a 15 year difference matter when the couple is 35 and 50? Not so much. Does it matter when they are 19 and 4? I think you can see that it does.
During the years between 12-14 and about 18-20 there is a tremendous swing in human physiology. Now, I don't want to get into a whole discussion about neural growth curves versus somatic growth curves, but if we have to do so, so be it. At age 16 girls are not nearly as mature as they will be in just 2 or 3 years. For boys the curve starts even later than that.