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Originally Posted by bozbot
well the line you quoted from was actaully in response to someone else saying how they had a hot girl that was worth it, so this response i gave was a play on that. she is a very good looking woman.
however your question sounds a little deeper as in why is all of what is going on worth it, if that is the question. I will tell you.
when her and I first started dating, everything was amazing. we got along great, we had so much fun together doing even the simplest of things like a puzzle. we have alot of the same interests and goals. she makes me smile and i made her smile.everything was clicking perfectly. that is why we rushed into things. i was her superman and she was my lois lane.
that being said all of a sudden a couple weeks ago her attitude towards me changed. she would complain about every little thing that i either put in the wrong spot and the apartment, she complained that i was inconsiderate because I made so much noise when i woke up to go to work in the morning (she works at night so our schedules are off and she sleeps in). she would push me away if i tried to hug or kiss her.
at first I thought maybe some of it was linked to the fact that she was depressed because we had to put her cat (that she had for 20 years) down recently. so I didnt want to push things while she was coping.
then it kept getting worse instead of better so I started to defend myself against the attacks because I knew something was wrong. I would ask her calmly but she would just throw more stuff in my face. some things pretty hurtful too.
the woman that I first met and fell in love with is worth it but it feels like her feelings for me have changed and she doesnt want to be with me.
it all is keeping me very confused because I have been asking her flat out if she doesnt want to be with me and to just tell me, but she didnt. until last night...I went to her place to try and talk things out but it ended with her telling me she didnt want to be with me. so i drove home thinking it was over and then she started texting and emailing me right away. so we talked all night on chat and things were going well. now today again she is getting nasty with me again. i cant figure it out...
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Sounds like you moved in when you were in the honeymoon phase of the relationship. You managed to extend the honeymoon briefly by moving in...then it ended. The girl you're seeing now is the REAL person you were dating. The bubbly, building-a-puzzle-is-fun girl you knew was only the infatuated version of her.
Head for the hills and give it a month before you consider selling or keeping your car. Your head is not on straight right now. Yes it hurts, but it sounds like she wasn't right for you in the first place.