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Originally Posted by CynAgain
There is a ton of great advice in this thread, but this is my fav! 
Bozbot, I wish you the best of luck navigating this time in your life. It will be difficult at best no matter which path you choose. We're here for ya  |
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Originally Posted by sugar'n'spice
But, you did give her the control, your selling your car aren't you?:(
Even then, if you must for financial reasons, DO NOT give her any
control. Otherwise she will think she won.
Only You own the power! Not her.  |
I agree with both of you on this. the thing is, I know she was right on the fact. if i want to eventually get my own place and start a family with a woman I love and who loves me.
I dont want to sell it, I keep trying to convince myself that I am doing it for her to stop myself but deep down I know i need to. the only thing that keeps me sane is knowing that down the line once i can afford it I can get one without any stress. As much as i absolutlely love this car, I need to get other things in my life taken of first. I knew knew this deep down when I got the car too but didnt listen to myself.
the only thing that sucks is that you guys are right, now that i am getting rid of the car (because she made me realize and not for her) if we do stay together that will be held over our heads. she will think i am going to resent her even tho i wont.
does this mean that the relationship is doomed no matter what? it seems like no matter my choice i am screwed.
I keep it - i cant afford a life that I want, i lose her.
I get rid of it - she thinks i did it cuz of her and she thinks she has power over me and that I will cave to any demand she has (legit or not) or she thinks i will resent her for getting rid of it