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Originally Posted by "prima"Donna

BTW, I never did get back together with that boyfriend that I thought I could never live without....
He eventually tried to get back together with me, because he realized his HUGE MISTAKE in 'letting me get away', and wanted to marry me, and we went on a few dates, and 'nothing'...
I liked him as a friend at that point, but since I dated a lot of different guys after him, and then went out with him again, there was no more chemistry at all...
I would never have broken up with him, so he actually did me a favor, because the guy I went out with after him, amongst others, ended up being my husband, and the Camaro is what we bought each other last year to celebrate our 30th!! wedding anniversary!!!...

well i guess that other guy lost out. you seem like a great person, I always see you on the boards with nothing buy nice things to say to everyone. you have a very lucky husband.

Originally Posted by Matrix

You know what, I bet if you communicated to her how much you love her and show her in simple manners how much you appreciate her she will not care that you have a Camaro (unless you are in dire financial need).

You CAN have both you just have to work on both so that she doesnt feel neglected or doesnt see a future with you. when people lose the vision/hope then deperation sets in and when people get desperate they say and do things they dont mean to say or do. Frustration sets in and when nothing is changing, someone will walk away cos they just cant take it anymore.

Its time to TALK openly to her, tell her your feelings too and that you want to work everything out with her.

Tell her how important this car is to you and that you want to work it out with her so that neither of you are stressed about it.

It could also be that she is using the car as a red herring, using it as an excuse for why things have broken down and blaming it on the car, be aware of that.

Tell her she means the world and that you want to make changes in your CIRCUMSTANCES NOT IN YOURSELF. DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF because you will just change back. CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES and actions but be YOU!

Tell her you need her help to sort this out and if it means financially the car has to go tell her she is more important and the car will just have to go. (In all honestly, if the car has to go bro, it has to go but you can use this as leverage on brownie points for yourself.

If you dont want change then dont. Start again. But it sounds like she means the world to you so good luck and let us know how you get on.

All the best!

well, this is great advise and what I have been trying to do. talk to her calmly. it can be frustrating for me because when she gets upset to her she can do no wrong and if i try and counter some of her points it just pisses her off more. I am learning to just listen to what she has to say and not to argue every little point. sometimes she just needs to say it and then after she cools off we can work it out.

last night her and i talked for a long time about things. i was a little more level headed and in turn she was too. we will see where it goes but i am still not getting my hopes up. as many people have noted her and i took things way too fast but to kinda go in reverse now seems like it would be a bad thing (me moving out and us just dating and seeing each other as opposed to living together and seeing each other all the time)

anyone have any experience in doing this and having it work?

Originally Posted by Zeus

You might want to consider selling the car, and staying at your moms.


Staying at moms = saving your money instead of throwing it away on rent.


Your friends will probably give you shit about it, but who cares. You stay there for as long as you can handle it, save up your money, and go find something you really want to do.

this is what I will prob end up having to do for the meantime. as long as i sell my car i will be able to save up a little and try and put a dent into my student loan bills