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Originally Posted by bozbot
you are exactly right, that is pretty much what she said. the only thing i dont agree with is that i should have realized. i think if something is bothering her so bad she needs to come to me, and not wait to let it build up and then throw it in my face in a fight.
like i said im not doing it for her but if i was she is so very very very very very very worth it.
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You know what, I bet if you communicated to her how much you love her and show her in simple manners how much you appreciate her she will not care that you have a Camaro (unless you are in dire financial need).
You CAN have both you just have to work on both so that she doesnt feel neglected or doesnt see a future with you. when people lose the vision/hope then deperation sets in and when people get desperate they say and do things they dont mean to say or do. Frustration sets in and when nothing is changing, someone will walk away cos they just cant take it anymore.
Its time to TALK openly to her, tell her your feelings too and that you want to work everything out with her.
Tell her how important this car is to you and that you want to work it out with her so that neither of you are stressed about it.
It could also be that she is using the car as a red herring, using it as an excuse for why things have broken down and blaming it on the car, be aware of that.
Tell her she means the world and that you want to make changes in your CIRCUMSTANCES NOT IN YOURSELF. DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF because you will just change back. CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES and actions but be YOU!
Tell her you need her help to sort this out and if it means financially the car has to go tell her she is more important and the car will just have to go. (In all honestly, if the car has to go bro, it has to go but you can use this as leverage on brownie points for yourself.
If you dont want change then dont. Start again. But it sounds like she means the world to you so good luck and let us know how you get on.
All the best!